My other half had a non-cancerous brain tumour that was removed about three years ago. Since then life has been a struggle. He had to relearn how to write, walk, hold things etc. He still has weakness on his right side, speech problems (says the wrong words, can't find the right word, slurred speech, can struggle to put sentences together), poor short term memory, struggles to process things (done three years at uni with help from me and his dad) and also suffers with crippling self esteem issues which may or may not have been present before the tumour but now have taken over his life. I feel he lacks independence, motivation, drive to do anything, loses patience quicker, emotional mood swings, gets overwhelmed very easily by the simplest of tasks. He's been signed off from everything physio related, therapy to help with the self-esteem/possible depression and doctors all seem fine (his mum goes to the appointments so I don't get to know all the details but that is another issue entirely).
My question is - does it ever improve or is this my life now? Will I constantly have to slow our life down to one big thing at a time (such as getting our own place, him getting a job etc) as too many big things overwhelm him? Am I going to constantly be fighting a battle to hold my tongue when i get frustrated because it 'isn't his fault'? Or is he being lazy and not helping himself by giving in to the challenges rather than fighting them?
There is probably a whole lot more i want to say or things that I've forgotten but we've been house sitting on a farm this weekend and I've been looking after the animals before working each day, all he had to do was sit in the house writing his dissertation while occasionally letting the dogs out in the garden amd he's gone back home because 'it's overwhelming' and he's 'struggling'. I probably sound heartless and I'm trying so hard to not be angry but I feel more like his mum then his girlfriend having to look after him and I know you do it for the people you love and there are people way worse off then us but some advice or support would be appreciated.