To all those wonderful people out there who love and care for someone with a brain injury… stay strong.
After our 29 year old son sustained a devastating brain injury in a car crash at the end of 2013, our family believed that his life was over… he was in a coma, not breathing independently, not walking or talking and had five months in hospital learning everything over again. Doctors confirmed our worst fears for his future…We tried to be positive but it was hard. Very hard.
He ‘lost’ his life but he was still alive. And there was a time when we had to mourn for him.
But this is a GOOD post! A post to hopefully let you see that some good outcomes are possible after this awful thing happens… I know that not everyone gets the outcome that they want (and it can take YEARS to get any kind of outcome). I’m not saying that. Just please try and keep the faith.
Not everything is perfect of course (when is it ever?) and our son still desperately misses the person he once was. But the more of his old life he regains, the better he begins to feel.
He drives - so he has freedom. He lives alone in his own house - so he has independence. He has met a lovely young woman who understands him (and never knew him before- she just loves this version of him). He has a permanent part-time job with a wonderful company (a garden centre) who embraces his imperfections and enjoys his strengths.
He just keeps on trying.
As his mother I am now hopeful for his future. The more he achieves, the more he learns…. and it goes on.
Onwards and Upwards.