I fail at life

[Negeen]

Feeling slightly depressed lately. It just seems like i'm a failure at evetything I touch. I can't go to school, I'm slow at work. I sit at home all day. I'm just such a failure.

[Kirk5w7]

Oh Negeen, I was hoping that no news was good news, I sympathise with the slowness, I'm so slow it's ludicrous.

It's very windy here today, it almost blows me over, I've been pruning some bushres in the garden, but it's quite cold too so I've only managed a couple of 10 minute stints out there, that'll have to do for the day, need to make our Sunday meal now, we'll start in anyway, hopefully my husband will finish it xxx

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You are not a failure it will take time to get used to your new you

I am still finding problems half a century after my accident

[D0v3]

But your not a failure because I like reading your posts!

Dave :o)

[B_S_A]

You've gone from not working to now having a job. At some point you'll go from not going to school, to going to school.

That my dear, is progress.

[barny1]

You're trying to tell me I'm a failure?

[B_S_A in reply to barny1]

Don't think so

[Flumptious in reply to barny1]

???

[barny1 in reply to Flumptious]

What? you've never felt a failure before?

[spartan300]

negeen if you say you are a failure you will be, but if you say you are going to be a success no matter how small you will be, start small and grow each success , you are not old enough to be a failure you have a long time in front of you, in my life I have failed at many things but my successes are far greater than my failures don't make the same mistake twice.do one thing for me and you read the poem DESIDERATA ,it will be on the internet then all will be revealed, take care , lots of love , john xxx

[Alex1978]

Hi Negeen, I get that those feelings from time to time when it seems nothing is going right for me and the whole worlds ageist me but its not as bad as it seems and I have to keep reminding my self of this and remember back to happier times when things where going well you felt happy, one strategy I find that works from time to time is setting my self little goals it could be anything I love cooking but sometimes as a conferences boost I'll try and make something I aint made before and even if the end result is different to who it should be i still gave it ago the last couple of weeks I've been learning the guitar wanted to for to for years but the only one stopping me from doing this was my self ok I'm no jimmy Hendrix but I'm enjoying playing the guitar and it makes me happy you need to stop beating your self up and thinking your a failure because your not. I don't know you but I know one thing about you, your living your life after a brain injury and thats an achievement in its self

[Julesgettingthere]

Hi Ya

I think when you look at it, we are not all good at all things, so we must 'fail to make the grade on some' otherwise there would be no structure anywhere. Somebody told me recently, when I said what you just did, and they said everyone is a genius at one thing - its just some of us haven't found it yet - or haven't looked 'outside the box. don't know how true it is - but you were really creative in one of your previous messages, some creative people are in history later called genius. When i feel down about my failings i think about the man who invented the cocktail stick and umbrella - its such a simple idea, but he is now well known and the product also made him millions to boot. You dont need millions of pounds to be happy, but just 'thinking up' such a simple idea (probably one night when he was having a cup of coffee!) must have given his life a completely different direction.

I have a friend who is often 'down' but when i look at her i wonder why - she is so beautiful, she could modle if she wanted, but she shrugs it off. She can't see her 'natural' ability' without even trying.

Maybe you haven't stood back and considered yourself yet

Hope it helps (i feel a failure at everything too... i just accept it now -maybe my 'hidden ability is lurking somewhere, haven'y found it yet).

Jules

x

[sporan]

My Dad used to say "Show me a person who says they've never made a mistake and I'll show you a person who has done nothing!". Take that a step further and you get "Show me a person who say's they've never failed and I'll show you a person that's never tried". If you have failed at something then you have tried something. What you have to do is take the positives from any failure (I overcooked the pie but hey the pastry was fluffy and light I'll just have turn the heat down a bit next time) and use it to try again then eventually you WILL win. Be honest with yourself and start by setting a realistic target that you KNOW you can achieve then next time push the boundary just a tiny bit more. Chose only 'GOOD' days for the challenges, every one here will know what I mean by GOOD days and BAD days. Don't beat yourself up over not doing so well at times we all have those periods in life when that happens the important thing is to keep trying.

[celtic27465]

Hi nageen sorry i havent been on here for a while ! Please dont feel a failure because i bet your not.! You are a strong person who just happens to be down lately.! I hope things improve for you soon take care of your self good.luck david x

[celtic27465]

Hi nageen sorry i havent been on here for a while ! Please dont feel a failure because i bet your not.! You are a strong person who just happens to be down lately.! I hope things improve for you soon take care of your self good.luck david x

[Flumptious]

Oh Negeen, you are not a failure at all. You haven't given up (although you clearly have some down times, like this one). Don't start giving up! We love hearing your news, so keep on making news that we want to read!