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Am I not entitled to a sex life?

The inspiration for this poem comes from long years of battling with fibro and depression and trying to get doctors to listen to my pleas. Just because I am nearly 59 does not mean I have to give up the one thing I really feel would make me feel a little better about myself. Two years therapy and visits to gyne doctors and sexual relationship specialists have come to nothing. They do not understand what the pain of intercourse can do to destroy one's self image.

I used to be

a sexy beast

my life

alive

my love

a feast.

My body worked

my sheets got creased.

Then fibro

reared

it's ugly head

and

in my bed

amour decreased

I feel,

sometimes,

that part of me

became

deceased.

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Hi, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for posting something that I have not had the courage to talk about, even hear. The poem is just great.

Tender hugs.

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Great poem, know how you feel. I am 60 and the intimate side of our life has ground practically to a halt. Thankfully I have a very understanding hubby. We do have cuddles though. xx

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Cuddles are so important. They keep me going too!!!!

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Well done spidey, I think you're very brave. Lovely little poem :)

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Hi I do understand totally. It comes and goes for me. Try Macca,, for a week...herbs of Glastonbury sells it. Follow the instructions carefully . Also a warm bath and relaxation music . Try relax all your muscles . It's worked for me, no alcahol or caffeine . Eat dark chocolate organic if you can get it. No sugar only natural sugars in your diet . It will help reduce histamine . It may work . I have found it works for me. Only thing is I can't have sex for long it hurts to much but I can have sex for 15 mins sometimes. It's a far cry from what I used to have but it's given me my sex life back . I went three years not been able to, it ended my relationship . But I have a life again and I'm determined to try have a life as full as possible. Try changing your diet too to one that is as healthy and balanced as possible, you may already but anythings worth trying . It may not happen overnight . I try different gentle positions that is as comfortable as possible . I sometimes can't climax but that's not everything . X I do hope I havnt offended anyone by being straight to the point , I just want to help . Macca is really good herb that helps with sex drive its been used for a very long time. There is other herbs too that help. I have tried different ones but Macca has worked for me . X

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jjojay,what can I say but thank you from the bottom of my heart ,I have got a big smill on my face ,good for you ,and I love dark chocolate ;-)

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Thank you jjojay I will give your advice a lot of consideration. I have decided already to go with a more whole food natural diet but only just started. eight years is my record!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I meant the sex life not the veg!!!!!!

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Arghhhhhharrrrrragghhhhhaghhhhh had to get it out I hate fibro! Hugs to you all xxxx

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Back at ya lady. xxxxxxxxx

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Hay peeps I know how it feels can't remember last time I had sex I just know itwas years ago and I'm only 43 its had to even remember what it felt like .

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Hay peeps I know how it feels can't remember last time I had sex I just know itwas years ago and I'm only 43 its had to even remember what it felt like .

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Hay peeps I know how it feels can't remember last time I had sex I just know itwas years ago and I'm only 43 its had to even remember what it felt like .

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Oh nuts 3 buses at once again its cos I'm using my phone.

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