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[bernie1]

Well what a morning ooooF..k Fu..k so sorry my son and daughter are driving m even more nuts i wish i could do with out them.First my oldest is getting engaged to a arshole of a guy i no its her choice but i have never dislicked anyone as much in my life aaaaaaa Then i have ma son who is just nice when he wants something of you he could not even answere his phone to me this will not make any sence and sorry about the spelling

My husband tells me dont worry about it but if that is the way you are i cant stop crying about it im so sorry al bernadette xx

[chilli50]

Bless you honey! You don't have to apologize. We all have bad days and come on here to vent or cry so please don't worry. I hope your day gets a little easier for you.

I know what it's like, I've got 2 daughters who fight like cat and dog all the time and I just seem to referee. I also have 2 of my 3 grandsons who live permanently with me and even though they are only 5 and 6 they have started to do the same thing!

It can be (and usually is) chaotic in this house so I never seem to get any peace from it

take it easy ok?

Love and huggles

Chilli xxx

[Dixiesdaughter]

Oh bernadette Poor you xx

I hope your feeling a bit better now after getting it all off your chest thats the best thing about this wee site the fact that you can come on here and vent, rant, moan, share and get support. Being a parent is no easy task and if you add fibro to the mix it makes a hard job even more challenging. Im currently on strike at home as Im having a hard time with my grown up children and in order to get some respect support and assistance at home i'm refusing to cook clean up or finance them untill they start recognising just how much I do for them. Children and familes aaaaaaarrrrrrgggggg :-)))

Hope things improve for you soon chin up and warm hugs from one harrassed mummy to an other

Dixie xx

[goldwing]

Ohhh Dixie, glad to read I,m not the only one who has a problem with grown up children, who forget your ill. When my eldest (30 yr) comes home from work and I,m in bed and says u making any tea mum, it really winds me up, and if the laundry fairy,s not been that day to dry their clothes. (me) they go into shock cos they wanted that t shirt for tonight. My youngest (23)is quite good he helps with tea, shopping, lifting and carrying. They just don't understand that in morning you may feel ok..ish but a few hours later your exhausted and no good for anything. Xx

[Hidden]

Ladies time to cut the apron strings and give them a choice, they house share with you and accept the responsibilites that go with that. OR Theres the door to the big wide world. My son is 31, every now and then he needs a boot quivering at his rear end but on the whole he is a great housemate. Its been a struggle and taken time but now I cant get rid of him lol plus he looks after the house, cooks, works full time and looks after me. Hes a great man who cares but wasn't born that way. Toughen up stop giving in and accepting their s***.

[Sthandra]

Sorry to hearr the kids are stressing you out I'm lucky mine don't stress me and they don't live close enough too each other to. Fight any more but when theuy. Were livinng at home irt was war every day I would literaly havd to drag them apart they would often go to school with marks around their necks where thwey had tried to strangle each other they were fine till they were about 5and 6 then they couldn't stand the sight of each other but god help anyone else start any bother with one or other of them then they stood together the other. Kids soon learned to leavee them alone, I say one or other because my eldest lived with her dad but get all 3 together world war 3, she now. Lives in cumbria middle one lives next door and the youngest lives the pother side of town, I hope things settle down for you big gentle hugs . Sithy

[Sthandra]

Sorry to hearr the kids are stressing you out I'm lucky mine don't stress me and they don't live close enough too each other to. Fight any more but when theuy. Were livinng at home irt was war every day I would literaly havd to drag them apart they would often go to school with marks around their necks where thwey had tried to strangle each other they were fine till they were about 5and 6 then they couldn't stand the sight of each other but god help anyone else start any bother with one or other of them then they stood together the other. Kids soon learned to leavee them alone, I say one or other because my eldest lived with her dad but get all 3 together world war 3, she now. Lives in cumbria middle one lives next door and the youngest lives the pother side of town, I hope things settle down for you big gentle hugs . Sithy

[Sthandra]

Sorry abou the spellings

[bernie1]

Hi all well cant sleep in so much pain well they are still the told them if dosent change they can pack there bags and go...so dont no what will hapen now will keep yous up to date

Thanks all for your responses love Benadette xx

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I do feel for you Bernie! I have three children, two grown-up and left home (still being a worry though!) and one teenager still living at home (a normal teenager with hormones raging!). I have had nightmares with all three of them so I sympathise. I love them all dearly but sometimes I could quite easily have quit as "Mum!" I am sure most mums feel like that at some time or other.

In your case it does sound too much for you right now, you have enough to contend with as it is. I think you've done the right thing by giving an ultimatum, hopefully they will realise you're at the end of your tether. Sometimes these things need to be done. They will either wake up or have to be adult about it and sort themselves out.

I sympathise also with not approving of a partner, this is a really difficult problem especially if the relationship continues. I have been through that problem too with my daughter.

I hope it all straightens out soon for you Bernie, please be assured that we care about you here and if we can help in any way, please just shout for Admin.

Take care and here's a hug for you (((hug))). x