Positive thinking........?!?

[Stefi]

Ok I understand the theory of positive thinking, I even studied cognitive psychology ( some time ago ) but I am really struggling with the positive thinking since things have got worse with the tiredness,pain and lessening mobility which I have fairly recently been told is down to fibro & M.E.

To begin with it was a relief to finaly be given a reason why I have been feeling so bad and losing the ability to do all the things I was able to.

Don't get me wrong.......I haven't given up trying to do the things I love. I have been trying & I still do try but it gets me so down when I fail. & yes I am taking "small steps" and pacing myself as I have been advised to do. So WHY are things continuing to go downhill ???

I have returned from the doctors this morning in a daze having been told I now have spondilosis in my neck and back and ostioarthritus in my knees and hand on top of the fibro & M.E

Also I am struggling to think straight and am driving my 19 year old daughter who lives with me a bit mad as I forget whether I have done things or not done them. This has been a lot to adjust to for her as well as me concidering I was the one looking after her & now she is the one looking after me. That in itself is depressing as I hate to rely on others, I have always been a "doing" person. a very impatient person who would rather do stuff myself than wait for someone else to give me a hand so I am finding the adjustment very dificult indeed........

Gentle hugs xxx

[fairytails]

im so sorry to hear your news i think its like i read with everything that comes you kind of go through different sets of emotions and with each one you come out of it and get on again ( if that makes sense??) i am the same as you and have always been the one to look after and find it really hard to be looked after at times i get very annoyed with myself and i have to say the whole world!!!lol! but you sound like a fighter and that in itself will get you through i hope you have a better afternoon and am sending lots of supportive thoughts your way x

[jazher]

Hi stefi,

hope you pick up soon, i hate depending on others too and i will not ask for help and my sister in law doesnt even ask no more, she just does stuff now as she knows i will just say no.

I have fibro/me plus a couple of other things and it is so hard sometimes.

I have just been gradually getting worse too and i have forgor how it is to be without pain.

Its my kids that keep me going.

Big gentle hugs kel xxx

[Hidden]

Ive always believed in positive thought, but its not easy to think positive through pain, 31 yrs ago I was told I wouldnt be able to have kids, my 1st son would be 30 in august sadly he was stillborn, again i was told no more kids I then went on to have more in rapid succession, we tried for 6yrs to have my youngest daughter and me being 42 were told she had a high risk of being downs, I refused all invasive tests but went through hell with drs wanting to terminate, my thoughts were positive, and she was fine other than a traumatic birth, prlolapsed cord, but this illness has me beat Its thought no Ive had it for 30yrs the last 3 being very bad

[rubywhiplash]

I understand where you are coming from after just coming out of a big hole it is such a horrible illness to deal with so many differing syptoms that may come and go not helped by the fact nobdoy can see what we go through, I agree take each day as it comes what I do is on good days set myself some little goals if you don't manage thyen tyry the next day just don't beat yourself up, my memeory is awful I have to write everything down on my white board I am terrible at sending cards missed my Brother in laws both one day after the other a bit late so cross as have the cards here only realised when I went to write out the mothers day cards!!! Best thing you can do is keep popping on here and I am sure everyone will help you along the way take care Hugs Ruby xx

[Ebony]

hello, I think you will find that the other conditions you have told you have are very common with people with FMS. With FMS being a syndrome it has a lot of conditions that make it up.

My consultant told me that the fact i have always had trouble with my teeth, problems with my periods ending up with a hysterectomy when I was 41, spondilytis, arthritis of my spine, IBS, reflux are all linked to me having FMS.

It seems to be a never ending list !!