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Hello Fybro Family.

Does anyone else find it difficult to open jars & bottle lids and packets like crisps, etc?

I'm finding it really difficult, I live on my own so have no one to ask to help me. I do resort to using scissors if I can't get packets open, though not sure what to do about the jars.

Any tips would be appreciated. Would just like to be able to open something without it being a major operation & zapping me of energy. Have a few tempting jars of pickle in my fridge that I just can't open🙄😂

Sending gentle hugs x🤗

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Hazel_AngelstarAdministratorFMA UK Staff

You get jar openers in various styles/sizes

It might be worthwhile requesting an occupational therapy assessment (through social services - often you can self refer)

They will recommend aids that might help you and may also provide them free of charge

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Dreamgreen in reply toHazel_Angelstar

Hey Hazel_Angelstar, thankyou for your reply.

I've got my last OT appointment at the pain clinic coming up so shall ask for an assessment.

She did ask me if I wanted one at my 1st appointment, I didn't realise it included aid of this sort.

Very helpful, thank you💖

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Hazel_AngelstarAdministratorFMA UK Staff in reply toDreamgreen

Even if they cannot supply them, they will advise on suitable aids and adaptations

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Blue-52

hi, yep I’m with you, have a look on careco and Amazon, you can get gadgets for cans either electric, battery or manual jar opener, crisps, stick to your scissors, mind you. they hurt sometimes too.

Enjoy your pickles, whatever you get them open 🤗🤗

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Dreamgreen

Hey Blue-52, thank you.

This has opened up a whole new world to me (excuse the pun😂)

I can eat pickles to my heart content😋

Sending more gentle hugs x🤗

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Welshcatlady

There's also an old trick to opening jars, tap the side of the lid a few times, good hard taps, and the lid will loosen and be easier to open. But of course if you can't grip the lid hard enough then it won't work for you. x I have a manual jar opener that I bought from Lakeland.

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Dreamgreen in reply toWelshcatlady

Hello Welshcatlady, thank you for replying.I'll give that a go, you've reminded me that my Mum used to blown between the jar & the lid if she couldn't get a jar open. Not sure how that worked, but she always got the jar open.

Sending gentle hugs x🤗

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Maggiet in reply toDreamgreen

my mum used to thwack the side of the lid, if she couldn’t open it, using a rolling pin and I do the same - works every time! I use this method if I can’t physically grip my bottle opener.

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Bolognese2022

Yes I struggle to open cans, jars, bottles. If you look on line there are lots of aids. An electric can opener helps, a ring pull for cans, there are also other aids for bottles. I haven, t found anything yet for packets.

Doctors keep telling me my grip has improved since my TIA, yet my thumb and index finger don’t agree.

Although I did suggest that it could be the return of carpal tunnel . A nice newly qualified doctor agreed to send me for an orthopaedic consultation.

In the mean time I keep using the aids.

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Dreamgreen in reply toBolognese2022

Hello Bolognese2022, thank you for your reply.I'm going to look online for aids.

Glad you've got a Orthopedic consultation coming up.

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Pastafox

Hope this helps am getting 1 for myself as 2 struggle

This for opening jars and bottles
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Dreamgreen in reply toPastafox

Hey Pastafox, thank you for your reply & the picture.

Hope your day is a gentle one x🤗

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shaughnna

if your over 65 I think that’s when it starts for a lot of people. Those rubber jar openers really help me. Also running jars under very hot water. I have been yelled at for tapping the cover of a jar with a knife so I’m not going to add that. I think packages are best opened using scissors.

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Dreamgreen in reply toshaughnna

Hey Shaughnna, thank you for your reply, I'm 52!😂Some handy tips to be sure, will try the hot water though not sure about the knife- I'm clumsy enough as it is.

Sending gentle hugs x🤗

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shaughnna in reply toDreamgreen

I have been getting severe right shoulder pain. I think it is from an old injury diagnosis “frozen shoulder”. I couldn’t sleep so just for giggles I rubbed my shoulder with some topical gel from CVS for pain. The pain immediately went away, and yes the pain does return, but a little rub with this cream makes it go away until the next flare.

Well I’m telling you this because last week my husband told me he had to cancel his golf game (boo-hoo)😭😂 which was in 2 days. I should have told him to go on the find a phychiatrist site and deal. He said 🤬

Seriously, he told me it was so bad that he couldn’t grasp the club, it was too painful.I told him to try the cream I had and the pain went away almost instantly, he repeated the cream and he was fine and he said it only hurt 5% of what it was before. And he said he had the best drives he had all summer. Before he couldn’t even grip the club. He described the pain as being in his knuckles, both hands. He put the cream on the palm side of his knuckles.

Any thoughts on this?

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Dreamgreen in reply toshaughnna

Hey Shaughnna, I'd never heard of topical gel from CVS so googled it, it said it had volteral in it & remembered I had a tube at the back of my meds draw.I've just put some on my knee & ankle that were really painful & instant relief!

So thankyou for your message & glad it helps your frozen shoulder & your husband's golf.

Sending gentle hugs to you x🤗

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shaughnna in reply toDreamgreen

It’s unbelievable huh? I’ve used several different types of ointments with lidocaine as well as patches, and they all work!

I think if the pain is from an injury that the crème (product) helps so it gives the injury time to heal on its own. But if the pain is due to arthritis or something permanent, you would have to use it constantly to get pain relief.

I may be wrong about this and if so please feel free (anyone) to correct me.

In any event, I,m glad it is working for you.

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Gkb642023

Sounds so familiar. For me, the trouble with jar openers is that you have to be able to grip the jar and then squeeze the handles tight. That hurts. My husband recently bought me a paint tin opener from screwfix. I'm sure it was £3. It allows me to just gently ease the side of the jar lid to break the seal. So easy and no struggle squeezing. Best of luck.

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Twin4Life in reply toGkb642023

Oh, that's such a good idea! I've been using knives to do the same thing but it often bends the knife. I think I'm going to try this!

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Dreamgreen in reply toGkb642023

Hey Gkb642023, thanks for replying.That seems like a cheap solution. I guess with fybro we think outside of the box in terms of what helps us in day to day life.

Hope your day is gentle to you x🤗

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Briecheese

Put some boiled water in a small bowl just enough to cover the top of a jar when stood upside down, leave for a minute and then using a tea towel it should open more easily. I don't find all gadgets useful. I did buy a morphy Richards electric can opener that will open any shaped can and it also had a pull out gadget for opening bottle caps, ring pulls as well as a jar opener one but I still struggle with that. Small hands.

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Dreamgreen in reply toBriecheese

Thank you Briecheese,

I'm left handed so find can openers difficult at the best of times.

Sending gentle hugs x🤗

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Midori

The problem with jars is the vacuum. I often find that if you get a table knife and look under the lid, you can sometimes break the seal by inserting the knife under one of the gripping lugs and ease it until the seal pops. For me that often works. Otherwise, I take the offending jar to the Man Cave where my son lurks, and ask him to open it!

Cheers, Midori

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Dreamgreen in reply toMidori

Hey Midori, thank you for your reply.

That's helpful that your son will open it when needed.

Lots of helpful tips, table knife seems do-able. Wouldn't want to use anything sharper as rather clumsy!🙄😂

Sending gentle hugs your way x🤗

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Midori in reply toDreamgreen

Clumsy is my middle name!

Cheers, Midori

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Wesi

Hi Dreamgreen, I have one like these and they work a treat. They are screwed into the underside of a cupboard, so the opener itself is always in situ and you don’t need to hold it as well as the jar.

Under cupboard jar opener
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Dreamgreen in reply toWesi

Hello Wesi, ooh thank you!

Never knew such a thing existed and less effort due to it being easily accessible.

Hope your day is a gentle one x🤗

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Welshcatlady in reply toWesi

That is brilliant!

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saxcat

Hi  Dreamgreen

Yes,

I live alone too so had to buy things to help.

I have tried practically all the jar opening things on the market but still struggled due to no strenghth and pain.

This one has been the best one I found so far because it screws in to under your top unit you only have to hold the jar/bottle,

Yes occaisional jars & bottles still don't open and still cause a bit of pain but nothing like hand held ones.

The strange look you get when you say to people that opening a packet of crisps is hard and painful.

Long time ago when I first started having issues with grip & opening things I had a large jar of beetroot for a year 😂

I just couldn't get it opened I had to go to someone's door and ask them to open it.

Oops my photo is upside down, sorry 😂

Jar & bottle opener
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Dreamgreen in reply tosaxcat

Hey saxcat, thank you for your reply.

It's nice to be able to post on here & just know people will understand coz they experience the same thing.

The first time I couldn't open a packet of crisps I felt a bit useless, but now I accept its just part of the fybro.

I find laughing about it helps, I do that when I walk into a door frame or nearly walk into a wall🙃

Sending gentle hugs x🤗

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saxcat in reply toDreamgreen

You are welcome.

Yes it is nice talking with others that understand.

I sometimes can laugh at some of the Fibro fog stuff.

But not of the pain stuff , I'm usually howling in pain for a good bit after walking in to door frames it's so painful 😭

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Midori in reply tosaxcat

I have problems with door handles; for some reason, they are at the right height to catch in my belt loops or cardigan pockets. No fun when you are carrying food!

Cheers, Midori

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Wobblygirl

Totally understand yr predicament...I open my front door and ask the next 'strong' stranger 2 help twist the jar...

Obviously no use when you're needing a midnight snack though!!!

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Dreamgreen in reply toWobblygirl

Hey Wobblygirl, thankyou for your reply.

Love your way of thinking!

I'm in an upstairs flat at the moment which means its a bit of an effort doing the stairs. Though good news, I've just been given a bungalow with the council so won't have to do a flight of stairs soon😊

Hope your day is a gentle one x🤗

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Wobblygirl in reply toDreamgreen

Congratulations that's wonderful news for you xxxHoping it will be a good move but obviously the packing up will be a huge struggle???

I hope you'll be supported with this?

Thank you for response, I've sort of collapsed after a tiny walk+a few minutes trimming bushes! It's so debilitating!

Supper may be v v late tonight??? I'm suffering with costochondritis currently; that internal muscle agony that is persisting this week so I'm v glad of the sofa this pm!

Look after yourself and hope your jar opening issue can be sorted, somehow?

Nightmare isn't it?

Gentle hugs Wxx

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CheetieCat

My partner really struggles, his hands are badly affected by arthritis so we have just about every gadget there is! I bought a £10 electric counter top tin opener from Asda, wasn't expecting much but it's been brilliant. Another little 6 in 1 to keep in cutlery drawer is essential and this one is really good for under £5

Multi Opener - 6 in 1 - Jar Opener, Bottle caps & tops, Pull tabs, Safety sea...

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Dreamgreen in reply toCheetieCat

Hello CheetieCat, thank you for your reply.

Sending gentle hugs x🤗

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Midori in reply toCheetieCat

I have one of those; somewhere! I put stuff down and unless it's brightly coloured I won't find it again! Think I may need a Utility belt!

Cheers, Midori

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CheetieCat in reply toMidori

😂😂 You know you'd lose that too! 🙄😵‍💫

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Midori in reply toCheetieCat

I think that the occasional 'Clink' I hear is another marble gone!😉

Cheers, Midori

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MaggieSylvie

I think packets are actually harder to open. It's not just us growing weaker! As far as jars are concerned, I swap hands on the lid and that sometimes works. Otherwise, the best thing I have found is a piece of rubbery cloth that I wrap around the lid before twisting. I can't think what it is called but it has come to have multiple uses by now - it's like a sort of rubbery lace. If you google it, there are other forms of help available, but I have a drawer full of things that don't work for me.

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Dreamgreen in reply toMaggieSylvie

Hey MaggieSylvie, thankyou for your reply.

Hope your day is a gentle one x🤗

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saxcat in reply toMaggieSylvie

Hi, are you on about these things?

I used to use one too 🙂

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Minicar profile image
Minicar

I have a battery operated gadget that opens jars it’s available in Argos

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saj01

Hi... opening jars is the bane of my life with arthritis in my hands.. I live on my own and find some more difficult than others. I usually try immersing the jar upside down in fairly hot water, that sometimes works.

Or wearing rubber gloves for a better grip... failing that, in desperation, I usually try my one of next door neighbours if they are in...

Don't think it always you that's the problem... I've noticed some packets or some things like tubs of beetroot marked with an 'open here tab'....sometimes they open, sometimes they don't! Take care xx

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Dreamgreen in reply tosaj01

Hey saj01, thank you for your reply.I'll try the rubber gloves, might help with the grip.

Hope your day's been gentle to you x🤗

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lynn_lunn

I have trouble opening jars and have a gadget that fits round jar lids, trouble is you still need to grip onto the handles tightly to open the jars which I can't do so it's useless to me. Your scissors will come in handy for jars also, I bang the points into the lid to puncture it slightly this releases the air sealed in the jar so ots easier to open. Take care you dont stab yourself with the scissors.

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Dreamgreen in reply tolynn_lunn

Hello lynn_lunn, thank you for your reply.Hum- I'm pretty clumsy so shall have to give puncturing the lid a miss, more likely to stab myself than the jar lid🙄😂

Sending gentle hugs your way x🤗

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lynn_lunn in reply tolynn_lunn

If you have a bottle opener, or tin opener, these work to puncture cans/jars also, certainly don't want you stabbing you're hands. X

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Debsdelight72

Hi Dreamgreen

My Hubby and I take it turns to hurt our hands,then the other one gets it,

It's because the other one made it loose,

The plastic 8 thing was meant to help! 😮‍💨Hmmm

I am not suggesting for any of this tip to be used as it is quite dangerous,

Continue with care! By the time I've got to this stage I'm getting wound up a gooden,

I get a sturdy sharp steak knife 🔪 and give the lid a whack to make a hole, All the air is expelled and walaa, Once it's done I put a plaster over the hole (can't remember why) 🩹

If you get hurt I say that was your choice and I had no part on using this method🩸🩸🩸🩸

Good luck and take care

Debs

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Dreamgreen in reply toDebsdelight72

Hey Debs, thankyou for your reply.

I would think putting a plaster over the hole would keep the contents of those pesky jars fresher for longer, which is a good thing as saves having to try & open another jar!😂

I hope your day's been gentle to you x🤗

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Debsdelight72 in reply toDreamgreen

🤫 Shhh don't tell anyone,

I was informed that yes to stop smells👃👃👃👃

🤗🤗

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Suffering24

yes I have the same , I have to ask my neighbours sometimes . Jars are crazy hard to do now even a can of drink I have to get a fork to the ring . Try bashing the sides of the jar lids denting them a little . That helps sometimes . Other than that there is a gadget you can get look it up on Amazon think it says arthritis , good luck xxxx

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Dreamgreen in reply toSuffering24

Hey Suffering24, thank you for your reply.

Going have a look on Amazon at the undercupboard jar opener & see if that helps.

Sending gentle hugs x🤗

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DAWN104

hi I know how you feel am the same and live on my own.it’s so frustrating. Sending hugs

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Dreamgreen in reply toDAWN104

Hey DAWN104, thankyou for replying & sending hugs back.

Hope your day's been gentle to you x🤗

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