Feel alone and can't coop with noise

[rastybrown]

Hi, I am appreciated if you give me advice. I dignosed stroke 6 years ago. I stressed badly and I had stroke. Since I moved to where I live now, I feel alone, so I started to help charity shop to make friends, help everywhere. I still feel alone, I don't have any friends to go to coffee, I don't like party, but I have to go, I was sitting alone and no one talk, even I tried, ignore me and don't talk, so I just sat my own and stay alone like a stone. People said, if I don't talk, no one talk with me, ok I try. I tried very hard, still no one talk, that's it, I just stay alone like a shadow. I did last Monday. It made me I want to disappear. But, I can't to do for my family. I am struggle to coop with any noise and I don't know what to do. No one listen to me, even my family. I got an appointment with GP next week, but what GP do, nothing. I am not chatty person and I like quiet environment. What do I need?

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Hun write down everything you need to tell your g.p, he will hopefully get you some counselling help. DO you have physio after your stroke? If not write that down and make g,p aware make g.p awRe why you cannot tolerate noise..good luck to you.

[YASMINTINA FMA UK Volunteer]

Hi there m I’m not sure why now but since I’ve been diagnosed with fibromaylia I’m very sensitive to loud noises so I tend to keep away from any thumping music, was not keen on the loud bangs from fireworks either. Some people are very outgoing and chatty and some are quieter by nature, there is nothing wrong in that we are all so very different, I think it is good to keep helping at the charity shop , there will be people like yourself wanting to come in look around and have a quiet chat also, even sometimes if it’s a couple of sentences about the weather etc. I’m wondering if there are any regular community groups / craft sales /book clubs etc. that meet up each week near you , we have quite a few in our area , I enjoy stoping for a coffee cake on a Saturday morning looking at the little stalls with cake produce, homemade jams etc. Also a lot of the church community’s quite often put posters out about coffee mornings .Have you any pets? I know a lot of single people who get great pleasure from a cat or small dog for company as well. Just some ideas for you hope my post helps take care

[honeybug in reply to YASMINTINA]

Very good...well done dear Yas. Xxx

[YASMINTINA FMA UK Volunteer in reply to honeybug]

Hi there how are you, I’m still struggling after having shingles 3/4weeks ago I still seem more than my usual tired and the aches seem worse but might not be because of that, just the normal . We are having some really lovely days here for November seems so mild in Suffolk, love the colours of all the trees and plants falling. The fireworks for guy fawkes have eventually stopped our poor animals really suffer with all the loud bangs . My little grandboys are coming for tea with the help of my husband to help, saying that he has a bad shoulder/back so he’s on a go slow. Take care xx

[Dizzytwo Moderator]

Hi there rastybrown it's nice to meet you and welcome you to our lovely friendly group

I am sorry you seem to be getting ignored . It can be hard when your not a big party person or social mixer. I understand that 100% I am the same.

I wonder if you could ask your Doctor to put you forward for a CBT course . I am doing one right now and it's about building my self esteem . It's early days yet but I am enjoying it. And just getting out of the home every week to keep the appointment is helping too. Maybe you could think of doing something similar.

I'm sure It can be very hard to rebuild your self confidence after a stroke. But well done you for trying you should feel proud of yourself ((hugs)) I think many people who have Fibro can not stand a lot of noise I know I hate it. I can't even stand the TV too loud. Poor husband is almost having to lip read because I have the tv on that low at times lol

I am not sure if you know but for your privacy you can lock your posts to this community only if you wish to do that please follow this link.

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If you need help with this or anything else please just ask . And don't be a stranger I hope we see a lot more of you. I hope you enjoy the rest of your evening

Momo

[honeybug in reply to Dizzytwo]

Xxx

[moo196]

Hi, have you seen the stroke or headway section of health unlocked? Lots of friendly people who have been through similar stuff there too.

[honeybug]

Ohh Yas poor dear.

I’ve had Shingles too but blessed that my Gabapentin for neuropathy lessened its affects thank Him. I’m sooo sorry you are still struggling with it. Lots of healing hugs 🤗 to get well soon. I’m praying that your tiredness and aches will lessen much once the shingles pass.

I’m happy for you that you have Indian Summer weather as we say here in the USA 🇺🇸. It just so happens that we are having our first snowfall today. We had several weeks of Indian Summer ourselves but the weatherman says that’s over and the inevitable cold has replaced it till next year. Brrr!!!

What celebration is guy fawkes?? I read multiple posts about concern over the fireworks but didn’t know why.

Enjoy your little grandsons and the treasured memories your tea time will make with them. They grow up too quickly.

Take care dear. xxx