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Hi all , well what a beautiful day it's been here In the Welsh valleys .Earlier I was sat in the garden with my dog just lying on the floor looking up at the sky, cloud watching.

Then the thought popped into my head , why am I feeling guilty for having such a nice day . I've just had a 16 month wait for tribunal and the day of the telephone call .....they cancelled. Saying they need more medical records. It went to tribunal in 2018 and I was awarded the benefit. 8 months later and another dwo assessment they reduced it based on the expect same medical records. So I have taken it to tribunal.

The new tribunal have asked for my medical records from before the tribunal that awarded me the benefit in 2018 . Is this normal ? I thought one a court made a decision that was it . Why then do they want to go back to before that was held and awarded me the benefit .

I have ptsd and it's really triggering me . And constructive advice is very welcome.

Enjoy your weekend x

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Gigiruth profile image
Gigiruth

Hi MrdiagnosisReally lovely to cloud watch. I used to do that as a child on a roundabout. Good to realise you have nothing to be guilty for and can have better days. Hopefully with Spring here there will be more lovely sky's along soon.

Maybe you could get support from Citizens advice or local welfare support. It sounds stressful to have the appointment cancelled and more records requested.

Take care

Gigi

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Mrdiagnosis in reply to Gigiruth

Hi Gigi it's all stressful for most of us . We have to revisit everything regularly and can't be left to just live our lives. People with no disabilities don't continually have to prove they are able bodied etc .It feels like the most vulnerable people are intrinsically vulnerable because of others ..not themselves. It just takes you so much time and energy . Having PTSD throws you backwards and you try to move forward then the government insist on asking about stuff you've already proved and provided ...the system is flawed .

So I'm outside again on the picnic rug looking at clouds . My dog keeps me sane ... unconditional love.

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Gigiruth in reply to Mrdiagnosis

A good point,we have many environments that increase vulnerability and disablement. We need better, more inclusive systems and government processes.

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Seascapes31 in reply to Mrdiagnosis

Have a look at Facebook for benefits support groups they offer free advice and support, also there's a Facebook group that also have a website Fightback4Justice, they can help with advice, forms, support although they charge a small fee but maybe worth it to get what you are entitled to. Best of luck and continue the cloud watching 👍

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YassytinaFMA UK Volunteer

Hello, I hope members who have had any experiences will pop on the forum and have a chat, well here in Suffolk it was Sunny too , feeling warm was brilliant and just sitting awhile outside 🌞we differently need this moments too remind us of the good bits in life . My team managed a point and we sit for now on top of the championship table 😃take care .

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Robdickson

hi I’ve recently had a bad experience with the tribunal courts, it’s not nice.

But todays a nice day, enjoy it, and don’t let them make you feel guilty, that’s what they want, they want us to give up, and they always seem to pick on the genuine people. You enjoy your evening 😁

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Mrdiagnosis in reply to Robdickson

I was under the impression that the court was on our side . Not the side of the DWP. What's ridiculous is, the government pay the DWP . They pay for the courts so when you go to tribunal after the DWP say no ...then the tribunal say yes, the tax payer has paid out 3 times which just seems ridiculous.

What a broken system we live in

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Midori

I'm sure they do it to be as awkward as possible, hoping we will give up!Not Gonna Happen!

Cheers, Midori

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Mrdiagnosis in reply to Midori

I expect that from the DWP ....but not the tribunal court themselves.

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Midori

Agreed; it was DWP I meant. .Cheers, Midori

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