Priceless.....

[LittleDaisy67]

So yesterday, after a medium shop on Saturday, he says to me, "so, did you get dog food?" I just look at him, how the eff am I expected to lift a 12kg bag of dog food off a shelf in Asda and into my trolley, (which I'm using mostly to hang onto for relief on my back btw) then out of said trolley into my car??? I give up 😒🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️xx

[TheBigYin84]

This probably isn't the answer you are looking for. But the staff will be happy to help lift it down, and help you into the car with it.

[LittleDaisy67 in reply to TheBigYin84]

Thank-you TheBigYin84 for your reply. I realise that I could have got the dog food with the help of staff, however, my point is that my husband even asked the question. He wouldn't think that I could get that help, he just automatically assumed I could do it. All the while he was at home (granted he was painting our bathroom) but this is following my post 'unsympathetic husband' will make more sense if you see that post. X

[TheBigYin84 in reply to LittleDaisy67]

Yeah I seen that after this one. So get the frustration.

[TheBigYin84 in reply to TheBigYin84]

I'm lucky that my wife is very understanding, and that my Dad also has Fibro. Not lucky he has it, but having someone close who knows what I'm going through.

[Cotswolds25121]

🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️😤if I need a couple of things I have do, do the same use the trolley for support otherwise I can’t make it round the shop 😔then I rest on the bench outside before going in the shop and again when I leave. Then it’s sit down on the way home five times on walls, and lean against anything available to rest on what used to be a 5-6 minute walk that now takes me 20 minutes or more. I couldn’t keep asking friends etc although they are so nice and happily help me by picking up prescriptions and odd things for me, I just hate having to ask. I now do online shopping and the delivery people are always so helpful and friendly. Luckily just recently a small shop(don’t think I’m allowed to say which🤔) and it is at the top of my road, for anything that is essential although it’s a lot nearer I still struggle to get there and back but my daughter lives an hours drive away so try not to forget anything on my online shop, many notes on my phone and I still forget sometimes 🙈trials and tribulations of chronic pain eh 🙄xx

[LittleDaisy67 in reply to Cotswolds25121]

I am sorry to hear you struggle so much. I am not quite as bad as that. I manage shopping as a rule, small trips and half loads. I work, part time and do bits and bobs at home. My point was following a previous post 'unsympathetic husband' he just doesn't get it. Had had numerous conversations about my condition and yet he still doesn't see the struggles I have. He expects too much and finally I have a meltdown and things change (a bit) the invisible disability strikes again! X

[Cotswolds25121 in reply to LittleDaisy67]

yes, I did get the point you were making, I just didn’t want to come across as rude and say something that may upset you. Sometimes if someone is needing to let off steam and then having someone, (even though they are agreeing with you 😊)such as a stranger say something negative about their husband/partner it doesn’t go down well 🥴I shall just say it now though, he was definitely insensitive and dismissive of you and the pain you suffer and the conversations you have had with him. Whether it’s family/friends or colleagues it’s just not helpful or supportive. It’s exhausting enough going over and over our situation with doctors etc. Oh, it would be so helpful for people to take us at face value and take on board what we tell them about how we struggle and actually remember that fibro and/or other chronic conditions aren’t just for a while, they are probably only going to get worse. So please adjust together if that’s possible and be patient and supportive xx

[Onedaymore1]

😩 oh no! Ps I too always get a shopping trolly to hold onto for support/aid to rely on at the supermarket. Even if I only needed a loaf of bread! I’ve just realised that I do it when you’ve mentioned it.