Why can't it be like it was!?😮

[sunnysanie]

Hi everyone,I moved to a new flat recently as my previous one had antisocial neighbour problems,it's a top to toe decoration job and I knew it was going to be a hard slog but I had to move,it's bigger and quieter and all good but my motivation is zero,it's not I'm a bad decorator or I don't have the stuff,got all the paint,paper etc but I'm not sure why I'm flagging,sure I've got my pain and all that goes with fibr o but even when feeling some energy I'm not motivated,why am I not excited about this place,getting all my retro stuff out the boxes and making it my own like my previous,why am I indifferent?🤔cheers guys x

[desquinn Partner Volunteer FMAUK Trustee]

start small and appreciate the wins when things get done.

[sunnysanie in reply to desquinn]

Defo,need to appreciate these wins more!thank you👌

[Dinkie]

I felt exactly the same. I started with a five minute job - sanding a small piece of skirting board, and gradually day by day the job was done. It doesn't matter how long it takes, so don't pressure yourself into doing too much as you will pay in the long run. The first small effort will motivate you. Rome wasn't built in a day.

I'm on a day off today and lack the motivation to get outside and do a bit in the garden but I know I will feel better if I just make that initial effort. I need to clear the windfall fruit from the lawn so I have set the target at one small bucket to fill. You have now given me the incentive to get out there with my bucket.

[sunnysanie in reply to Dinkie]

Yes it's getting that start👍I've been doing the kitchen wallpaper today two bits then rest when the mad sweating comes,it's awkward and fiddly so swearing under my breath a lot,I used to be great at this stuff honestly! I hope all that fruit will become jam😝👍 thanks for your reply x

[Elf3]

Hello

Dinkie & Desquinn give top mark responses, I’ve been moved a little over a year and it is going to be a long long slog, I love upscaling objects, diy and designing , ha so I think till I have to get it done, the body cannot do what it use to, so I do what I can, I will hire a handy man for heavy jobs, I will use check a trade as we all need to be selective for whatever reason.. but I am appreciative of the progress, when your not able to do anything I downloaded a app called milanote basic part is free and fun to get your ideas on screen that’s if you are interested, I haven’t perfected how to do much just upload what pictures I have onto it it but if I make a mistake it doesn’t matter,

And yes every time I start doing a job I be like why did I start this, the menopausal hit flushed are horrendous too, ..

Anyway don’t look to what you were in the past today is a new day and a new chapter in your happy home with thoughts of laughter and happy music playing , yes having the radio on daily helps get things done, you will get things achieved slowly but surely…

🌷🏡💪🏽🫶🏾

[sunnysanie in reply to Elf3]

Aww wise words thank you!👍😍yes lots of ideas in my head but fumbling fingers won't work!😝yes I need to focus on today and not beat myself up for not being the 'ninja' I was,I used to be called that by a sister in law when I helped her out around her house with decorating etc,id be like I've papered the spare room and did the laundry and made your dinners so that's 4pm and I'm away home before your back from work etc.....she would be like ehhhh?.... Yer a bloody ninja you (in an Irish accent)👍 Yes I need to get Kerrang radio on lol or maybe Smooth these days 👍😎

[Elf3 in reply to sunnysanie]

Haha .. Those ninja days were such fun, however now our bodies tell us slow down, calm, zen, smell the 🌹 roses, my tortoise won the race, embrace each moment it can be soo difficult when in emotional,mental and physical pain but life has us living in ways us as humans were not meant to🌷

[MaggieSylvie]

I get it. If you haven't got the motivation, you probably need to rest - give yourself some self care. The motivation will return because it's in you somewhere, just waiting for you to become a bit interested in improving your surroundings. Have a good rest and in between just do what little jobs will make a difference.

[Trappedmoth]

Me too. For me the worst part of fibro is the difficulty I have getting anything done. Most of the time I feel like I'm living in slow motion.