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What behavior of your family members do you find most helpful during your flare?

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LisaSnowFMA UK Volunteer
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I hope by sharing and reading what we enjoy from others the most, we can all learn to ask nicely for the help we need during the next flare!

I go first, when I don't feel well I really want extra space and all housework being done (under supervision)😂 by my SO!

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Hubby massaging my painful muscles or giving me a reiki treatment

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fenbadger in reply toHazel_Angelstar

Living alone its not so easy to get immediate support and sadly they dont seem able to understand, even the one with MS. So I simply dont talk about it anymore

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LisaSnowFMA UK Volunteer in reply tofenbadger

I am sad that you feel the support is lacking! It can be difficult for others to appreciate invisible illnesses that we have. I wish the public is educated better on invisible disabilities.

Do you have any close friends you can talk with? Sometimes venting is the most helpful therapy for me!

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fenbadger in reply toLisaSnow

At the moment, not really. Zoom, skype etc dont work too well where I live. But there are a couple of friends I value because they take me as I am.

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LisaSnowFMA UK Volunteer in reply tofenbadger

I find a lot of comfort from my cats. Do you have fur babies?

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fenbadger in reply toLisaSnow

Did once. Best therapy ever

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Dodo71 in reply toLisaSnow

Me too. I'm on my own all day and my fur babies keep me going. Also, they give my husband and I something to talk about when he's home in the evening.

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LisaSnowFMA UK Volunteer in reply toDodo71

I ADORE our cats! They cause pain sometimes but I don't mind!

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LisaSnowFMA UK Volunteer in reply toHazel_Angelstar

That's yummy! My husband isn't that good at massage but maybe he is trainable?

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JayCeon

Helping me watch out for my sweet spots / overdoing it. But not too much pity.

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Lucy41

I just want to see smiles from my hubby and children and grandson that gets me through most of the time xx

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LisaSnowFMA UK Volunteer in reply toLucy41

I am sure they are happy to lend a hand for whatever you need, just to see you smile!

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Midori

I like your reasoning! But Hell would freeze before my son got that involved in Care. Personal care, yes, Housework, no! Actually, I'm my own worst enemy that way; I like stuff done My way!

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LisaSnowFMA UK Volunteer in reply toMidori

Hahaha you make me laugh because I understand! Nobody messes with my "stuff"!

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s2319

hi Lisai had the same problem with family not understanding what the pain is like

So i found a letter on fmuk which a member wrote to show family members it points out how lonely life can be when you cannot participate in meeting people on a bad day.

Sorry you cannot get their support and hope they realise its a real disease I cannot remember the title of the letter, but it made my family feel guilty now is different good luck and stay safe

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fightingfatigue

My daughters do all my shopping and run errands for me, all the time. I’m very lucky but it did take a year or so for them to understand FB

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LisaSnowFMA UK Volunteer in reply tofightingfatigue

Can't blame them because even I don't understand it after having it almost all my life! I still have no idea what triggers a flare, it seems so random!

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