In a quandry

[filenada]

My work life balance is no longer sustainable.... My biggest concern is my mental health and also financial health if I have to stop...... Which I believe that I have to very soon. Many jobs I have tried, and it doesn't make a difference... sitting, standing, talking, slowing the pace, full time, part time,....., right now, just one day.... chronic never ending all over every single day PAIN... My lips smile, my head and body are suffering in silence.... My resilience and bounce back is depleting... Don't know where to turn!!!!!

Sorry for the downer..... Tomorrow is a different day perhaps, regardless filenada, sending hugs

[bobbybobb]

Have you been anywhere to discuss any reduction in work hours or benefits advice you might be entitled to if you cut your hours. Can you discuss your situation with occupational health at work. Have you been to see your GP to let them know how much you are struggling. x

[filenada in reply to bobbybobb]

Sometimes I believe he doesn't believe me. The last conversation he showed me a video "tame the beast"..... I've persevered for years, done yoga, meditation, jacuzzi, water aerobics, worn myself out by keeping going hence completely crashed and slept for a week.. I do what I can when I can... Had my blood done again couple of weeks ago. Doc wants to stop giving me B12 injection as he doesn't believe I need it. My legs give way from under me.... I think it's only my nose that doesn't hurt... Well LOL, it's got a spot on it just now..... I will go back to him and see what's happening.... Thanks for replying

[Midori in reply to filenada]

Is there any way you could see another doctor at your surgery? Sometimes a fresh eye might be able to solve the problem.

With work, Have you seen Occupational Health? Made a request through HR? Is there a Union in your workplace? If so, please join it. they can help. ACAS is another place to try.

Don't know how long you have worked there, but could you investigate Medical Retirement?

Has your employer made any 'reasonable' Adjustments to allow you to keep working; such as a better chair, or desk?

Under the Equalities act, if your company has more than a certain number of employees, he cannot just sack you, there are hoops for him to jump through before he can try that, or you would have a claim for Unfair dismissal.

Do not offer to resign, it absolves them from any responsibility for you; also it makes you ineligible for the JSA part of UC., as the DWP will say you have made yourself intentionally Unemployed and immediately sanction you, making it impossible for you to claim.

Cheers, Midori

[filenada in reply to Midori]

Hi, I just work I a wee cafe.... Not got a big career..... Just a regular minimum wage earner. No oh, no hr... I just don't want to give up.... But, being realistic...... I'm in denial of my capabilities cos I still have a brain sorry sometimes I don't come across as I really feel..... Get misunderstood.. A lot

[filenada in reply to Midori]

Omg,this is too much.... I'm a regular Joe with no reserves. Struggling to be heard, understood, and I don't know where to turn..... Doctor thinks I can talk myself out of this state..... If only!!!!!!!!!!

[filenada in reply to Midori]

Small village, two doctors. One old, one young

[Becks2020]

Have you seen someone about your mental health? Maybe if you if you got help with your mental state it could help you think better or differently? I’m struggling with mine at the moment and it effects every aspect of life...

[Hidden in reply to Becks2020]

Me too Becks.

We can struggle together and soon the sun will shine.

Big hugs x

[Becks2020 in reply to Hidden]

Hope your ok xxx

[Hidden in reply to Becks2020]

Thank you Becks, you too.

I've started Counselling and attended a small local Health & Wellbeing evening yesterday. I met someone there who runs a volunteering group which is something I've wanted to do for a while now but been too scared to make the effort.

I had to make myself go but glad I did as it opened other avenues for me.

As hard as it was for me, I would recommend it to others on here who may be struggling with their mental health.

How do you deal with 'it' Becks?

[Becks2020 in reply to Hidden]

Counselling helps massively, I have been on the waiting list for one to one counselling since June 2029 and I’m still waiting now Iv done cbt and other online help and also been to group counselling but the group is not me! I have different ways of trying to deal with “it” x

[Hidden in reply to Becks2020]

No I couldnt do group therapy, that ridiculous!

I've been paying privately but it's working out quite expensive, so not sure how much longer I can keep going.

Do you not have any counselling charities near you, who just charge a nominal fee?

[Becks2020 in reply to Hidden]

I was going to someone private but like you say it’s the cost unfortunately

[filenada in reply to Becks2020]

I try to remain focused.... I'm not doing "woe is me". We all get low days..... I'm just really tired

[filenada in reply to Becks2020]

I'm not depressed, I fight every day.... If I give up working then I've lost.... But what job can I do that keeps me involved?????

[filenada in reply to Becks2020]

Hi, I wish you well.... Thank you for your time. I don't think that I am depressed, I just know That if I have to give up working then I will be I deep doo doo

[filenada in reply to Becks2020]

Just know that I will wither being home alone and unemployed