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[hazeybaby26]

How can I get my husband to understand the tiredness I am on my knees ready for bed by 8pm that’s after doing a 8 hr shift in a care home and the family dinner and being in constant pain I have tried talking to him but not getting anywhere 😞

[Dizzytwo Moderator]

Hi there hazeybaby26 I am so sorry your struggling like this. Most woman would be ready for bed after a day like that even if they were not ill. Have you spoke to your GP about it at all ? Does your husband not understand or see how your suffering ? Have you asked him to go along and speak to your doctor with you. Could you get a close family member of friend to have a word with him ?

Have you been diagnosed with fibro maybe you could get him to read up about it and how it effects you. You can take a horse to water i'm afraid but you can't make it drink. What an awful situation to find yourself in. All the stress and the work can only be doing you more harm than good.

I would try and sit him down when your both not so tired and try to explain how you feel and ask what he could do to help lighten the load. I wish you luck My first hubby was like yours and he was just a selfish man {{{hugs}}}

Mo

[hazeybaby26 in reply to Dizzytwo]

Yes he was with me when I was diagnosed I have asked him to come to doctors with me but said there is no need xx

[Dizzytwo Moderator in reply to hazeybaby26]

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[Dizzytwo Moderator]

Oh dear sounds like he is one of those guys who like to bury his head in the sand. Would it be rude to ask how old he is ?

[hazeybaby26 in reply to Dizzytwo]

He’s 52 got a heart of gold . I Was really ill 5 years ago was bed bound up until 2 years ago and he’s worried that I am going to end up like that again even tho it was completely different illness xxx

[Dizzytwo Moderator in reply to hazeybaby26]

I am sorry to hear that and I am glad you have a kind husband. He's just worried I guess. Could you talk to your doctor about your concerns? I do think you need to talk to someone who maybe your hubby knows and trusts who maybe able to explain you can't continue like you are. If he doesn't want to see you end up in bed like last time he really needs to talk to you about it now. It is so hard when loves ones see us suffer they feel as lost as we do. Chronic illness effects all the family and friends xx

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It can be the hardest thing in the world to explain to someone what fibromyalgia is if they don't have it themselves. I struggle to explain to those around me and so years on I still don't think they get it

[yelskwah85]

In the same boat as you

Sending lots of hugs xx