I just read someone else's post which made me feel incredibly sad and incredibly lucky.
For those of us that are out and about today let's smile at a stranger,say hello to someone we don't know. Stop and listen to someone new. We never know when so little may mean so much to someone out there. Hope the sun is shining wherever you are today.x
1Dog1Kid
I woke up to the news this morning that my friend and neighbour died overnite.
She had a brain haemorrage some months back.Had surgery came home,tumour returned but was under control.She was in hospital still undergoing treatment but it was just too much for her.,and she let go.
She is i the same age as me ,and it makes you realise just how fragile life is and how quickly it can be taken away.
You are quite right in what you say,some small action may mean a lot to someone.
Lets all try and do some nice things before its too late.
Sorry for a soulful reply but feeling rather down today.
Crusee
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Aww Crusee .... not surprising you're feeling glum.
Take care hun...... love and hugs xx
Wow crushed don't apologise. That is sad and very traumatic and I suppose selfishly,being reminded of our own mortality is down right bloody scary. Felling sad is NOT wallowing is it?
I cry at the news sometimes,couldn't watch the theory of everything,tooo sad if fact at best I am soppy at worst an emotional wreck. I am very good at throwing parties for one... PITY PARTIES. smiling today,hope you are touched by someone kind x
Hi Crusee
I am so truly sorry my friend, and can I please offer all concerned by deepest condolences and please take care of yourself.
All my hopes and dreams for you
Ken x
Hi Crusee. Just wanted to say that when I posted yesterday. My tablet decided that the word Crusee. Must be crushed and changed it for me. Lol am so guilty of not checking my work,posts,emails.
Sorry X
That is very sad news Crusee , perhaps think of the good and happy times you had with your neighbour.
I agree, life is so fragile, my dear brother passed aged sixty from an aggressive cancer that took less than eight weeks illness. It is a shock when things happen like that and does make you reavaluate your own life and what you do with it.
Soft hugs sent to everyone who is struggling to cope.
X
Totally agree with you. It is easy to put our heads in the sand and think only of our own position.
My husband wondered why I was late back from a meeting but that is what I was doing just listening to someone. She is a widow has osteo and walks with two sticks, has just been diagnosed with COPD and her 12 years old grandson was killed in a road accident a few months back and another is extremely disabled. Listening to her my trials and tribulations suddenly seemed like a walk in the park in the sunshine.x
Too true my Dexter. Often we just don't have the ability,mentally or physically but most of us have some good days..we just didn't realise until things get/got worse. But a better day may give someone else who is desperate to help give us a helping hand too. Don't know about you but if people ask if I'm ok..we'll so bloody English I always say fine..what a liar I am but I deny them the chance to help me too?
Hi 1Dog1Kid
Thank you for such a kind and thoughtful post my friend, it is genuinely appreciated. I sincerely hope that you have had a wonderful day yourself.
All my hopes and dreams for you
Ken x
Those are nice words Hidden
Something that doesnt take too much of our time and effort,can mean so,much to others.
Take care.
Crusee
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All of us here are fine aren't we? Feeling sub par is our normal. We don't want to drag others down day after day.
I was always taught to be a little ray of sunlight.. Spread it around. We helped the dear old aunties etc to sandwiches and the best cakes at parties. We looked for their glasses and picked up dropped needles from the floor for them. We ran errands. And sometimes took a penny for our piggybanks or silver for a blessing, but never for helping. It was our privilege to be useful and helpful. "Who wants to help Aunty find.?" We strove to do our best. Only the very best helpers could think of where Aunty had lost her possessions!
I still like to make people smile. I wave and call good morning. Pass the time of day. I see new sad faces and work on them for a smile. You never know what heavy baggage a person is carrying but even we weedy fibros can lighten a load a little with our smiles and greetings. I see how some people walk a little taller or their faces seem a little less pinched after. Life can be a little less lonely if you have friendly neighbours and less alien when customers or passers by treat you as a person and not just wallpaper to their lives.
I beg to differ,in the most polite way I can put it " all of here are fine aren't we" is a rather sweeping statement. It undermines those of us that are struggling with a diverse mixture of physical and mental problems. I myself have a sick husband and child and to be honest fine is far from the truth. Happy for you though just don't presume that your situation or pain reflects anyone else's.
No far from bloody fine actually.
Hello 1dog ... Oops my burbles offended. I'm sorry. Likely I'm on a high. Please forgive?
I kinda meant our normal is a bit rubbish (or a lot) but we mostly try to cover because we don't want to drag others down. I want to see smiles and not a reflection of my hurt inside. Am I digging my hole deeper?
You sound like things have all jumped on top of you and are very low indeed, mentally and physically. I'm sorry. That is a rotten place to be. I hope even in this dark place you will see some light each day that makes life worthwhile.
I hope your family, even in their suffering, are a comfort for you and you for them. I hope that you feel their love. I am aware there is very little help these days in terms of care and support, so my sympathy is with you for your lot of caring and dealing with Fibro. Stress is the very Devil for making it all worse.
You have a dog? I like dogs. They are so often happy and full of love.
The worst of being mentally challenged I found, was when my delightful (or annoying), sense of humour disappeared. I couldn't laugh at my misfortune or even anything properly funny. My pain was worse and I struggled, and therefore if it is not patronising for you, I sympathise with the darkness. Likely I am in a Pollyanna phase but my motto is;
This too will pass.
Without that belief, I would not be here.
Hang in there.
No. wrong I wasn't talking about me. My original sad post was because someone had written that they feel suicidal ALL the time!!! Now that is far from alright isn't it. Plus if we are alright why bother with a group or forum?
Some people ( not me) have no support,no friends or family,nowhere to go or be heard they are desperate and NEED to pour out there truth not feel responsible for making everyone else feel cheerful.
Luckily I am fine. We cope, we love each other, we share and I have a great Gp. My teenage boy talks to me about ANYTHING my husband works from home. I don't throw myself into self pity and always try and see the funny side of things. Unfortunately we are sometimes dysfunctional.
Others on this site are nowhere near as lucky. What you said is glib.
I am not intending to persecute you if by chance you may feel fragile today. But just reading random posts shows me most people are NOT alright
So true xx
SAD DEATH OF RAINBOW DANCER 
Feeling Sad and so defeated
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