Hi i am new. I'm 23

[Nicole232]

hey. I have fibromyalgia and depression and anxiety all my life as i have known it. I take lots of different medication and my pain is horrendous! I feel so very lonely even though i have a partner and a 3 year old little girl who is my life! Is it possible to break this what seems like a curse?

[uggycat]

Hi Nicole well you have come to the right place to discuss your fears. and support. With me I find I have to keep really strong in my mind. and try to think positive. And it certainly helps me having a good doctor. I guess it must be a lot harder for you having a young child, anyway I wish you the best, and am sure others on here will have some good info for you. xxxx

[bluebell99]

Hello Nicole232 and welcome to our friendly fibro forum where you can find advice, support, help and information. Have you seen our Mother Site fmauk.org ? Here you will find a wealth of information about all things fibro including guides and links.

I am sorry to hear of your struggles and can only suggest you go back to your GP and try some different combinations of meds. It can take a while and a lot of trial and error to get the medication to suit you.

We have a lot of young mums who are trying to get through the day without feeling exhausted and in tremendous pain and I admire their perseverence in trying to keep some semblance of normality, it must be very difficult as well you know yourself.

If you look to the right in blue on Pinned Posts you will find instructions on navigating the site, including instructions to lock your posts for your internet security.

We hope to see you around the forum.

Take care

Kay

[peck]

Hi Nicole232 , Welcome to our forum si glad to have you.I suffer with FM, and my main issues are anxiety and depression. This site helps so much when I'm feeling down and out. I admire you for being a mom as I know it must be hard, I have no children.Please stick around I'm sure you will be smiling in no time.Take care. Peck.🐤

[naturalnikki]

Welcome. This is a wonderful place. I too have suffered from depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember. I also have two children. I often feel worse about my depression because I feel like my life has become so much better since I found my husband and we have had children. I feel like my life is wonderful, if I just didn't have fibro, anxiety and depression. I feel like a weight on my family sometimes and I know my husband sees me as the one that keeps us afloat, so I'm sure it is just me and my mind.

But as far as breaking the curse.... meditation or just stopping and being mindful of life and what beauty I have in life, helps with depression/anxiety. And fibro, it's all about listening to my body for me. I juice, stretch, foam roll, I go to the chiropractor and get a massage every 3 weeks, I walk and do other slow mild exercises (range of motion is also good. I recently started Apple cider vinegar drink in the mornings and trying to increase my water intake (distilled ).

These things help me, I have never become pain free but they keep me functional ( I have tried stopping them and got worse, so I know it isn't just in my head) anyways.

Feel free to post any questions you have, we have a wonderful group of people here. I don't think I would be in as good of a place as I am without these people.

Good luck and take care××××

[BlueMermaid3]

Hi there

Welcome to the forum ☺

I was diagnosed with Fibro and ME in 1980 when I was 20 and have lived with it, plus many other conditions for 36 years.

I worked full time for 34 years and have 2 children.

The only way I've been able to cope is to push myself through the pain and fatigue.

Pacing yourself is the only thing I can suggest although that doesn't work for everyone.

You will find lots of support and help here on the forum.

Unfortunately we don't have all the answers but we do understand how you feel.

Try to rest when you can and ask your partner and family for help as much as you can.

Take care of yourself.

Lu x

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[Hartleyhare2]

Hi Nicole, I have found that the stronger painkillers can actually aggrivate depression and anxiety as they come with their own problems like confusion, tiredness, lack of motivation etc.

Have you come across the practice of mindfulness? It's where you try not to dwell on the past or predicate/worry about the future. Instead you keep your mind in the moment, the current task at hand. It's difficult at first and you need to manage it but it can help with pain management too. Perhaps you could ask your GP to refer you to a pain management course at your local hospital. Mine was one morning a week for eight weeks and was very useful as well as meeting others with fibro. I was not alone with this crazy illness! Pain management not pain clinic, different thing. They should also put you in touch with a local group run by fibromites once a month for mutual help and support. It takes action but it's worth it.

Patrick x

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Well that's young to have Fibromygia All I can say is enjoy your family try to be happy There are plenty on the foram that will help you x

[TheAuthor]

Hi Nicole232

I sincerely hope that you are feeling as well as you possibly can be today? Welcome to the forum and it is wonderful to make your acquaintance. I want to sincerely wish you all the best of luck my friend and please take care of yourself.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken

[Nicole232]

Wow i wasn't expecting any responces. Thankyou all!

I wish sometimes my mind would just stop working for one day so i can actually have a full nights sleep which i have honestly never had and forget my horrible past! I feel like i don't deserve my daughter and partner why should i of been blessed with them? I can't make there life special! My daughter is a angel i have been blessed with and i feel like cause I'm always in so much pain i can't do everything i want to do for her. I struggle with school run and actually getting out of bed! She is only 3 and comes in to my room in a morning and says mummy are you okay do you want some help? The pain is excruciating in the morning and at night! Sometimes most of the day! Even simple things like going to the shops makes me anxious and i put it back till i need to go!

I have been through therapy and counselling but neither have helped.

Thanks.