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My mum RIP

Most of you here know my mother has been in hospital since the end of April

I have had some lovely messages of support from so many of you, so am leaving this brief message.

I have just returned home from the hospital for the last time.

Having stayed most of the day at her bed side, mum waited until she was alone. She lost her fight shortly after midnight and slipped peacefully away.

Although this was expected I have no words to describe the way I feel right now, though I feel sure so many of you who have already been through this will understand.

Em X

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Thinking of you Em Love and Hugs xxx

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I am very sorry to hear that Mal, please accept my condolences. I have just sent you PM 3 minutes ago, so ignore that.

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Thoughts are with you hunxx

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Oh Em I am so very sorry please accept this hug ((((((((()))))))))) xgins

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Hello Mai, I don't know you but I am very sorry to hear your sad news, at least she isn't suffering any more! Please except my Condolences and I will be thinking of you. Hugs Aisha x

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So sorry to hear that. Really, there are no words. xx

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Hello Mal, so sorry to hear about your loss. Please accept my condolences.

Belinda xxx

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So sorry for your loss Bernadette xxx

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Thoughts & prayers with you, may god give you comfort & strength at this very sad time.

Dixie x

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so sorry for your loss

beth xxx

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I know no words can describe how you feel, but please know I am thinking about you . May the angel of love and peace wrap his wings around you at this sad time. Alex

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Hi Em, my condolences for the loss of your mum. This is for you.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVbkz_3lO3c

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Can't express how I know how you feel. Just listened to that song...How I miss my darling Mum.. She had a hard life.. I hope I'll see her again to wrap my arms around her and hold her ... Forever..My heartfelt sympathy to you..I don't know you.. But we all know or will know this feeling... Love to you... Wendy X

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This is absolutley beautiful x x

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So sorry mal have emailed you

VG xx

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So sorry to hear this......I know what you are going through. Stay strong. She is always in your heart, and you in hers.

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Thinking of you Em. Look after yourself xxx

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I'm so very sorry for your loss. You must be really exhausted so try to look after yourself - I know it's hard. Thinking of you.

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Em, no words will help, so all i can do is send you some hugs.xxxx

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so so sorry for your loss ,she is watching over you <3

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Please except my condolences I know how you must be feeling ,Look after you sending you hugs and kisses.

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Same happened with my dad in February ,sometimes I think they don,t want you to the end. I know how you feel . My thoughts are with you .x

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Sorry that was suppose to be ,sometimes I think they don,t want you to there at the end ,maybe to save you from more suffering, sadly it does,nt work like that and we would like to see them go over to the other side x

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Oh Em, so sorry to hear your sad news. Time to look after and nurture yourself through this difficult time. She will live in your heart always xx

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Please accept my condolences.Hugs.xx

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sending you and your family my deepest condolences, warm soft hugs andtake care of yourself xx

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Hi Mal so sorry to hear of your loss, your mum is now at peace and will always watching over you, gentle hugs and may the angels watch over you, luv n God bless Dee xx

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Hi Mal am so sorry to hear of your loss.Your mum and the angels will always watch over you and take care of yourself.Plese accept my condolences.God bless you.I will ask my friend to light a candle in Lourdes, she is 73 years young and working over there for the next two weeks.xx

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So sorry to hear about your mum.I know exactly how you are feeling.My dad died last year and I had been with him,then left to go to a friends house for a few hours before going back again but I was called back within half an hour of leaving.I rushed to the hospital but he had died.The doctor did say that often they wait until the family have gone.Take care xx

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My thoughts are with you at this most difficult time. xx

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So sorry to hear your sad news. I understand just how you feel as I lost my dear mum in January 1999 and I still miss her so much and think of her every day. In fact losing her was such a shock that I think that may well be what precipitated my Fibromyalgia tho' I can't be sure. I do know that looking after her by myself and working full time did not do my health any favours and moving her about when bathing her and getting her comfortable in bed certainly aggravated my back. BUT...I would do it all over again as I loved her dearly. She was my best friend. Be very gentle with yourself and take all the time you need to grieve. I haven't been on this site for a few weeks as I have been trying to put what little energy I have into trying to clear some clutter ( my house is an absolute tip) so I hadn't picked up that your dear mum was in hospital. My heartfelt prayers are with you as you go through this difficult time. Loving, healing thoughts for you and your family. Hugs Saskia XX

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so sorry for your loss take care x

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Hi em. So sorry to hear of your loss..she will always be with you. It does get better, but not right now, so just go with your feelings . Lots of love and hugs. God bless

Lyndia x

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There are no words to express the sympathy that is being sent to you from so many. I don't know you but have felt the sorrow of losing a parent. I am pretty sure you will be surrounded by love from all your family and friends. Take comfort from the support

Debs x

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I'm sorry to hear your sad news, thinking of you.

Is

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Em I don't know you, but I am So sorry to hear of your loss, Please accept my Condolences, my thoughts and Prayers are with you.

Ellen x

May your Mum RIP

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I feel so sorry for you and I understand the feelings you are going through as I lost my Mother in Dec after a long fight and she waited for me to leave before she died bless her, but my heart goes out to you and your family at this very sad time xxx

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God bless you Mal, I feel for you at this sad time, May your mother rest peacefully.

Much Love Janie xxxx

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My heartfelt sympathies to you Mal. I empathise with you totally. What a very sad time for you. My mum passed in 2002 and not a day goes by that I don't think of her. I hope your wonderful memories of her will keep you going through these dark days. XXX

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I am so sorry to hear this, my heart goes out to you. I lost my own mum very recently and there is such a bewildering range of emotions and thoughts about it all.

There is a Jewish proverb: God could not be everywhere so He gave us mothers. I hope that you will feel a little comforted by knowing how much love and understanding is winging it's way to you.

Very gentle hugs

Jillyxx

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so sorry to hear about your mum,,,i know how you feel i lost my mum three years ago,,in hospital was the same we stayed all day, left and she passed away,,bless them they do wait to be on there own i think. mum was very ill so in a way was a blessing and i tell myself this whenever the tears come and still talk to her, belive she is still with me. hope it has helped somhow malajusted x

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Know how bereft you must be feeling now Em. There is no worse feeling than the loss of your Mum. When you are really down, remember ' grieving is the price we pay for loving'.

Hugs and special thoughts to you.

Heather

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sending love and hugs at this sad time, heaven has a new angel & she will be looking after you..xx.

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Even though we've never met, it feels like we are all family on here. I have been through this too so understand what you're going through. Love and hugs xx

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My thoughts are with you at this very sad time. Big gentle hugs to you Em and my love to you and your family, God bless you all xxxxxxx

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Sending you condolences at this very sad time.Ali xxx

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Oh dear,, I'm so very sorry to hear your devastating news, it's my worst nightmare so even tho I don't truly know how you feel I can envisage the deep pain you are feeling right now... God bless you and your mum x x x

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So sorry for your loss. We are all here for you if you need us x

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Thinking of you all at this very sad time xx

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sometimes the messages are just too difficult to read at the moment but you can always leave them for when you are feeling stronger.

We are here if you need us x

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My thoughts are with you , gentle hugs Kira x

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Hey Em

There is no loss like that of a mother...may you be strong and remember the good times.

Frotbanana xx

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Hi

So very sorry to hear about your sad loss, I lost my dad 2 years ago so I know how you must feel. Time doesn't heal but it does make it a bit easier. Thinking of you at this sad time.

Silverstar xxx

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What awful, sad news. I'm so sorry for you, and all the others here who have had to face such a difficult time. My thoughts are with you. Look after yourself xxx

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Oh dear Em, I knew things were on the downward slope , now I am sending you loads and loads of love and strength to get through this most difficult of times. I lost my father last August and am still trying to get my head round things. I also lost my mother nearly 21 years ago and like others I feel the loss of her so keenly, even though it was so long ago.

Take heart my friend, we are all here to support you, take great care of yourself and when I'm back in proper wi-fi land I will be in touch,

Gentle hugs Em, Muchly Foggy x

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Thinking of you Em x x ((((((((((((( rainbow hugs)))))))))))))))))))))

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Sending you lots of hugs and thinking of you at this sad time.x

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She's at piece with the angels now x

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sending you our love from me and my family xx

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So sorry for your loss, you must grieve if you are able, and if you need to can always pm me as I went through this with my late father, he passed away in Nov 2012.

Gentle, soft hugs x x x xx

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My condolences on the loss of your mum, I lost my mum to cancer 3 years ago, she did the same there was someone with her at all times till my oh was asked to leave the room by cleaning staff, from the time it took her to leave and him to go back in the room she had gone, I think she wanted it that way, we had expected her to go on the Tuesday when my oh and I rushed from Yorkshire to Norfolk she left on the Sunday, gentle hugs for you and your family (((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))) . Sithy

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Em my sympathy goes out to you for such a big loss. it shows that you had a special love between you, and that is the most beautiful thought you must hold on to. It is so had to watch a loved one suffering, but thank God that she suffers no more, an she is now with the other wonderful angels above. You must draw on the love from those around you, an all these wonderful messages you have been sent. My prayers and a big but gentle hug.:-))))))))))) xxxx

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Thank you to everyone for your kind words of support and sympathy. I have been completely overwhelmed by so many messages.

I felt so alone and empty when I left mum in the hospital yesterday morning, all these messages have meant far more than words could ever say, so I will simply say THANK YOU to each and every one of you.

Love & hugs

Em x

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Really feel for you Em, My Mum passed just over a year ago, I have some idea of how you must be feeling. Even when it's expected it's still a shock.

Be kind to yourself, I'm sending you a hug.

It may seem almost surreal sometimes. I hope you've got people around you to talk to or to just sit with. Love, Becky. Xxx

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My thoughts are with you , all my love angie xxxxx

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Sending you healing thoughts... I lost my own mum just over 6 years now so suddenly.... I know how much it hurts so I am sending my love and a virtual (((hug)))

LLL

xx

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Deepest sympathy on the loss of your Mum, I know what you are going through

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So sorry to hear of your sadness.

No words can change it.

But our thoughts are with you.

Bibi xx

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Very sad to hear of your loss. I found it devastating leaving the hospital for the last time, I lay with my mum for hours and she fell asleep in my arms. That was over six years ago now, but I know and feel she is always with me. My thoughts are with you, please take care of yourself.

Much Love.

Evey.x

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