FET no 5 - mixed emotions!

[NL2019]

So I’ve had my baseline scan and started oestrogen in preparation for our 5th embryo transfer, and whilst I am excited and ready, I am also really scared/nervous.

Our fourth FET back in October resulted in our first BFP and we were over the moon only for it all to be torn away at our viability scan at 8 weeks which showed a missed miscarriage, with the miscarriage happening in Dec last year.

Whilst I feel physically and emotionally (as best as you can) ready after a few months break, I just feel like whether the outcome of this transfer is positive or negative neither may mean good news in the end, like the joy of a potential BFP has been taken away.

I saw a post on social media the other day from a lady going through IVF and a recent miscarriage and they summarised how I feel perfectly with ‘I’m scared I’ll never get pregnant again but I’m now scared of being pregnant again’.

Sorry no questions as such, just looking for positive stories from people who have been through similar to keep me going!! Xx

[Tinkertinkerbell]

Hi, I just wanted to say it was my 5th transfer that gave me my baby girl (nearly 4 months). I had miscarried previously so felt the same way - all the way through my pregnancy and after she was born I thought something would go wrong but it didn’t! She’s fine! I wish I could have known that and enjoyed my pregnancy and her birth more. I totally get the anxiety. Friends of mine have miscarried too and then gone on to have healthy babies and I didn’t know until I miscarried myself and they told me. People don’t talk about it - but it made me feel better to know there was hope for a positive outcome. I never believed it would happen for me really though - but it did and I’m sure it will for you! Good luck x

[NL2019 in reply to Tinkertinkerbell]

Thank you for your reply and congratulations on your baby girl!

I agree a lot of people have said they’ve miscarried since we’ve gone through it and I don’t really know why it’s a topic not spoken about much when it unfortunately seems so common.

I’ll keep my positive hat on and I’m sure we’ll get through whatever outcome xx

[Twiglet2]

I can totally absolutely relate!! This was me after my miscarriage at 9 weeks at the end of 2023, I did another collection march 2024 and the 2nd transfer from that round was a positive again. I was terrified at every single stage but I’m now holding him in my arms. It is very anxious even trying again never mind seeing a positive (shouldnt that be the best feeling ever not riddled with worry!!) but absolutely worth it and just because we’ve had miscarriages in the past (I’ve had a few!) it doesn’t mean the next one won’t be our little miracle but what you are feeling is so so normal and understandable and I can totally relate 💜 best of luck to you for your next FET 🫶🏻🤞🏽 xx

[NL2019 in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you for your reply and congratulations!

It’s the positive stories after immense sadness I was looking for so thank you!

We’ve just got to keep trying and fingers crossed xx

[Doodlebug23]

My 7th transfer (10th embryo) gave me my daughter. My 4th transfer was a chemical and I thought that was the one. I found it very hard to get excited after that as it felt like it was never going to work. And then when it did I was scared to get excited in case it was taken away.

Hey, you’ve got this! When the negative thoughts creep in banish them! I allowed myself to wallow for half an hour if I couldn’t fight it then FORCED myself to be positive. Fake it till you make it right?! Positive thoughts attract positive energy.

I really hope this is the one for you. 🍀