Fourth FET but losing hope

[NL2019]

I’m on day 8 of my cycle and in the process of taking oestrogen for a medicated FET at the moment.

We’ve had three transfers already, one fresh (poor quality embryo) and two frozen (with decent quality embryos) but no BFP as of yet.

We went to Warwick for implantation testing back in August and results were I have a robust womb lining (95th percentile) which indicated not permissive for embryo implantation, although he did say the chances of this occurring on another cycle is 1 in 3 but has recommended 20mg of steroids starting 2 days before transfer to try and help with this.

We’ve been going through IVF for over a year now and it’s really the first time we’ve had any indication of a potential issue.

We have four embryos frozen and the one we are using this round has been graded 5AB (best we’ve had) but I just can’t seem to be excited or positive going into this one, I feel like I’m going into this with no hope anymore.

Sorry for the long message, just needed to get it off my chest and hoping people have been in similar situation with positive outcomes!

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi. All I can say is to keep up with all prescribed medication and test on the day recommended by your clinic. Good luck. Diane

[Salimali44]

I think it’s normal to feel like this after many disappointments- my counsellor said to try not to worry: whatever you feel it won’t affect the outcome, so just let yourself feel it- and try to distract yourself as much as possible with nice books and films so you don’t get overwhelmed. Also, I sometimes think all the testing on linings might not be that useful. My lining was too thin before my first frozen embryo transfer and they cancelled it. The doctor recommended all sorts of (very expensive) tests and I thought there must be something wrong with me, but actually when we tried again with a slightly different protocol it was perfectly fine. I really really hope it works for you this time 💗💗💗💗💗

[NL2019 in reply to Salimali44]

Thank you, we’ve gone away for the weekend which has helped take my mind off things! I know I play over all the tests and the reality is it’s probably luck of everything working all at once, feeling a little more positive now xx

[Thierry101]

sending you loads of love. We will be doing our 4th transfer in about 6 weeks time and I’m already feeling VERY nervous. You’ve got this xxx

[NL2019 in reply to Thierry101]

Thank you, we’ll likely going in about 10 days for the transfer, just letting myself feel however at the moment! We’ve both got this! Xx

[Kitkat10]

I felt the same after 2 failed cycles, I only had 1 embryo make it to day 5 for each egg collection. I thought it would never work for me and felt bleak and hopeless. After my third egg collection, I only got 3 eggs so I gave up hope for my OE and booked a review appointment to talk about DE. Then 5 days later the embryologist told me to come in for a transfer of a ‘beautiful embryo’. I was still very negative and thought the whole thing was pointless, but that little embryo became my little boy. The cycle which I thought was another failure, brought my baby, just as I had lost all faith 🩵🩵

Keep going, you’ll get there, just got to navigate this rough time. It’s totally normal to feel defeated by it all. I certainly did and I expected the worst at every step but despite all my negativity, it can work xx Good luck 🍀🍀

[Beclp]

Hey x I know how you feel. I had basically given up all hope for my very last transfer.

It was transfer number 7 for me and I had no other embryos left.

Also they transfer the best graded ones first at my clinic so I went in with the mindset that if the best ones didn’t work, why would the lower graded ones. But it did 💗

You just never know 🤷‍♀️ I hope this one is your one 🙏🙏🙏🙏💫💫💫💫💫