hello friends.
we’ve just had our 9th failed FET. We’ll, it was a chemical for 24 hrs; I got a very faint positive & when I tested the following day it was negative.
Historically I hyperstimulated & ended up with 7 freezable day 5’s. We had 3 failed single FET, then I had Alice/Emma/era (all normal) & then our BFP- our miracle daughter! Since then we had 3 more failed FET, a new egg collection- hyperstimulated again & got 11 freezable day 5’s, we’ve since transferred 2 of these (as singles)- both failed, then I had a scratch test (thinking it was the Alice/Emma biopsy that helped our little one implant) and then our chemical just yesterday.
Our embryos are all untested- it was just way to expensive given our numbers.
our consultant said that if our last single transfer didn’t work then we should consider a double transfer.
Im a midwife & know all too well what twin pregnancies can be like. I have a bicornuate uterus (heart shaped) which means potentially a bit less space & higher risk of prem labour. I honestly don’t think we could afford to put twins in nursery. We have no family support close by- basically twins would be extremely difficult for us!
Any advice whether to try a double transfer or wait it out doing singles? I’m 40 & feel like we’ve been doing back to back treatment for a long time now, so if I’m not pregnant by Christmas I think we’ll call it a day- for mental health survival.
I so want a sibling for our daughter but scared of twins with a double transfer, but equally the chances of both taking given our history are so slim?!?!
Any advice/support gratefully received. Thank you so much xx