When the embryologist put the speculum In . I said ouch it hurts and he carried on . It was super uncomfortable and even putting the catheter in he kept wiggling the speculum .
I was so tense and kept wincing .
I never had pain with my fresh transfer . I worried that this will now mean this has gone wrong.
At the end I said it’s not supposed to hurt like that and he said does it still hurt . I said yes and when he pulled the speculum out the pain stopped and I just gushed water .
I never had this before and can’t stop thinking this didn’t go as it was supposed to.
I felt I was making a scene so just left .
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my 3rd transfer was like this! It hurt and she had to call someone to help after failed attempts. However wouldn’t worry as it resulted in my first pregnancy so I don’t think it hinders implantation but it wasn’t pleasant
From smears I knew normal size speculums hurt me (have bowel prolapses), so said to the nurse before transfer and she made sure she had the right size, width and length and placed carefully. He should've been asking if it was OK for you ❤️, sorry to hear it was so painful. Hope it sticks and everything else goes well x
Thank you it really was horrid . I cried out and I’ve never had any pain in smears etc. I said to him is it meant to hurt this bad as my last one did not hurt at all! I felt all pinched and I’m still sore now. I’ve had discharge and looks like blood . I was unable to relax and now im paranoid
Out of 6 transfers, 2 were painful. The last one was very painful and I was worried it went wrong but we got pregnant in that transfer. We eventually miscarried but that was due to chromosomal problems and the transfer was still successful. So try not to worry.
Thank you. I wrote an email to my consultant as I am not happy. It is almost like he knew he was hurting me and did not care. He was not gentle and shoved the speculum and I was so pinched. The whole experience was awful I feel sad that he took what should have been a beautiful moment away from me. Why did he not stop remove the speculum and reposition. I feel he has done some damage as I am sore . He literally shoved it in and then put the catheter in . My fresh transfer was so much gentler and the team were amazing.
My successful transfer was like this, the Dr was struggling to get catheter in, he took speculum out and reinserted twice which was not pleasant he was still struggling then said he was going to use his fingers to move my womb. The nurse started rubbing my arm and gave my husband a look and said, "Hold her hand." Whatever he did, it was bloody painful I almost screamed. He did eventually get the catheter in and it really hurt when he removed it. I was sore for a few days after. I had transfers before and after that one and none of them were painful. It won't impact implementation at all so try not to worry x
Hi, I am so sorry you went through such a horrific experience. I also had a very painful transfer last year (fresh embryo, unsuccessful), which has probably been the worst pain I've ever experienced in my life. At the time I thought this may have contributed to being unsuccssful, but the consultant reassured me that it doesn't make a difference. It may not have made a difference to the success, but it certainly did to my mental health.
I really hope your transfer is successful, but be reassured that there are more of us who went through this horrible experience. That's in absolutely no way to say it's normal, just that I can understand such a horrific experience. Big hugs xxx
Thank you for sharing that . I m so sorry that it was not successful. I feel it ruined it for me and I have felt incredibly anxious and sore . Thank you for your kind words, I am so sorry to hear you had that experience xx
This sounds terrible! None of my transfers have been painful. Definitely reach and express your feelings about this as he needs to know. You also had a right to make a scene. Of course you’re going to be worried about this now and he ought to be apologising and offering you reassurance. I’m no medical expert but I imagine the bleeding would be from your cervix and not your lining and your blastocyst will float around for a bit before finding somewhere suitable to make its home. Sending love xxxx
I’m so sorry you had such a painful experience during your FET. That sounds really tough. Discomfort doesn’t necessarily mean something has gone wrong, but maybe they could have tried using a smaller speculum to make it less painful for you. I hope you start feeling better soon, and I’m really hoping the very best for you! x
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