Sister agreed to be donor

[AnotherLaura]

Dear Survivors,

I hope you're all OK; it's so goddamn tough, and I am sending every ounce of strength to all of you that have been dealt this horrible hand of cards and have come out the other side.

Cannot begin to describe the insurmountable heartache since TTC. I'm grabbing at any opportunity to get my baby. After 1 year I plucked up the courage to ask my sister (who does not want children) to be my donor. To my absolute delight, my champion sister agreed to undertake this harrowing offer of kindness, and she looks a lot like me too! I'm so incredibly grateful.

Now the research begins. Has anyone used their sister's/family members eggs, and what emotional, physical, or other complications did you encounter? My 28-year-old sister is a bit of a party animal and does a lot of drugs and alcohol. I mentioned she may need to amend her lifestyle a bit, maybe the magnitude of this action hasn't quite set in yet.

My next clinic consultation is next week to discuss the findings. I'm interested to hear what they say, each time they have upped the dosages, why wouldn't they do that in the first place when they know how bad it is, can't help but think the clinics rely on our vulnerability and desperation.

I will conduct my 4th (and final) round of IVF just after my 40th birthday, which is also causing great distress. Life wasn't meant to be like this. My attempt is unlikely to work, however, I have a good feeling that my sisters eggs will work - I still hold out hope for my own eggs in the meantime. Please, please work.

All my love to you all,

Laura x

[Kmcdon]

I don’t have any experience of this but there was a poster on this forum before who had used her sister’s eggs. You could try searching for the posts. Contacting her might be helpful. Sending you lots of luck! Xx

[AnotherLaura in reply to Kmcdon]

Thank you my dear, will have a search for it now xx

[Skittles11]

I would try contacting the Donor Conception Network and explain your situation. I expect they will try and pair you up to speak to someone who has been in this situation. You can join their membership for a small fee and pay monthly or yearly x

[AnotherLaura in reply to Skittles11]

Thank you for the tip-off Skittles, I've just made contact with them, it's a lot to think about but I think I'm ready, thanks again! xx