Searching for hope and resilience

[Citizenerased83]

Hi fellow warriors,

I'm so low on hope and resilience at the moment. 3 unsuccessful IUIs, 2 IVF cycles, 2 miscarriages and in total 5 FET cycles that haven't worked. I have some euploid embryos so that is hopeful. However, I'm low on resilience and hope at the moment as I've had so much past trauma that wasn't fertility related that I'm just feeling exhausted now. Looking for words of encouragement. Xxx

[Sams25]

Sorry to hear , it’s a cruel journey that some of us have to endure. It’s easier said than done but need to remain positive! Make plans to do things you enjoy doing alone and with your partner. Try positive affirmations (does wonders!).

I understand the struggles, trying 5+years, 4failed IVF cycles , 1 MC (natural), 11 failed natural ivf cycles later I got my BFP (my last Frosties). Hope is an amazing thing. It does wonders to try and stay positive , laugh a lot , stay healthy and keep trying. Unfortunately there is no easy way out for us glad to hear you have some embies waiting to go. All the best and keep the faith! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻for us both!

[Citizenerased83 in reply to Sams25]

Thanks so much Sams25 . I appreciate you replying. You've been through so much. I'm glad you got your BFP and I really hope it all works for you. I'll try and keep the faith xxx

[Sams25 in reply to Citizenerased83]

Positive pants on! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Citizen…… You’ve been through so much loss and disappointment,so I wonder if it’s time just to look after you for a bit befor transferring another embryo. They are stored quite safely. Hopefully the next one will carry on growing as it should and you end up with an ongoing pregnancy. Thinking of you. Diane

[Citizenerased83 in reply to DianeArnold]

Hi Diane, thank you so much. I appreciate you replying. Yes, perhaps a break is needed. X

[Doodlebug23]

This is a long and tortuous journey that sometimes leaves you in very dark and lonely places. Believe me I’ve been there…. But try and focus on the end goal, on the amazing miracle that waiting at the end of it. Easier says than done I know… I always find the next step to work towards helped me. Even if that’s a plan of taking a break, it’s still the next steps.

I read a book called “The Secret”. It’s not very long at all and I’ve read it several times. It’s about the power of positive thinking and the laws of attraction. The universe picks up on your energy and returns the same back to you. Sounds a bit out there but honestly makes sense!! I just try and believe I’ll get what I’m wanting and daydream about what I want.

It’s taken me 7 transfers to get to where I am now. But when the only other option is giving up, there is no other option right? 💖

[Citizenerased83 in reply to Doodlebug23]

Thanks so much Doodlebug23 for taking the time to reply. Sorry your journey has been so tough but I'm glad you're now pregnant. Fingers crossed it goes smoothly.

As much as I want a break, I think I just want to find out what will happen with my remaining embryos when they get transferred as quickly as possible.

Trying my best to dig deep. Xx

[Doodlebug23 in reply to Citizenerased83]

Thankyou.

I totally understand that, for me I just wanted to get to the next transfer.

You’re strong to get this far so you can do it! 💪🏻 Good luck 🍀

[Citizenerased83 in reply to Doodlebug23]

Thanks so much Doodlebug23 . I really appreciate the encouragement x

[Crie1983]

Gosh you have been through so much and can completely relate to the feeling of exhaustion. It’s just soul destroying going through this. I had 6 rounds of ICSI with only one positive, that ended up in a miscarriage. However, I found out this week my 7th round had resulted in a BFP. It’s early days and I’m riddled with anxiety but it’s a step closer to my dream. Don’t give up hope, you have some precious euploids. You have the support of everyone on here. Always happy to chat if you ever want to message. Xx

[Citizenerased83 in reply to Crie1983]

Thanks so much Crie1983 It is so soul destroying.

You've been through so much too so I hope this pregnancy has a happy ending for you.

Thank you for the encouragement- trying to dig deep. I'm sure I'll take you up on the offer of a chat. Xx

[Crie1983 in reply to Citizenerased83]

Thank you.

You’ve already done amazing to get to where you are. Make sure you are being kind to yourself. Xx

[Citizenerased83 in reply to Crie1983]

Thanks so much lovely. I just feel like I've failed every time it doesn't work out which is such a horrible feeling. Xx

[Crie1983 in reply to Citizenerased83]

I’ve felt like that many times in the past but know deep down that it’s not our fault, we are not to blame. It’s just so unfair. Stay strong, you will get through this. Xx

[Citizenerased83 in reply to Crie1983]

Thank you so much xx