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Feeling insanely bored/frustrated 4dpt

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Just coming for a moan. I feel fed up. I think it’s because I’m in my tww and I feel lazy, unmotivated and bored. Like I should be doing something to progress my business or moving things in life forward but I find that so hard to focus on when I have this hanging over me. Also, I am normally super active and so without a daily gym or reformer session I feel so trapped and agitated. I’m thinking of going to the shops which are a 10 minute walk away and mooching around there for an hour or so. I know this will pass and it’s part of the process but I find it so frustrating and I’m even frustrated about being frustrated. I’m meant to be writing a book atm and this would be a perfect period of time to really get into that but I just can’t be bothered! Then I feel frustrated about feeling cba about things. I have zero plans this weekend and my partner is working. My closest friend invited me to The Brit awards which would have been fun but I wasn’t sure about the set up and I am trying to be as chilled as possible in the hopes that this will work this time. All I feel motivated to do is go to Gail’s and get a cinnamon bun 😂. Does anyone relate?

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hello! I am 2 days post transfer! Feel absolutely the same… I would have happily met you at the Brits tonight. 0 symptoms just feel more annoyed I don’t have anything to wear tonight and I can’t seem to get through my to do list (which I saved specifically for this time) So I hear you…. I am off to buy dress.

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Here4ivfinfo in reply toleo1980

You’re going to the Brit’s this eve? Enjoy!! Did you manage to find a dress? I went out and I bought myself some joggers to lounge about in but they don’t fit. I’m going back out to change them. I also bought an interesting looking novel but need to finish the one I am currently reading before I start that. I’ve just started watching Alice in Borderland too. Hope you have a really fun evening!! X

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leo1980 in reply toHere4ivfinfo

I did! Thank you. Best of luck my darling. Hope the time flies by!

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MiniMe23 in reply toleo1980

Have an amazing time!

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Cinnamon bun sounds lovely. I opened a box of chocolates earlier. Combination of bad weather and boredom. Such a shame you didn’t feel up to the brits. It would have been a nice distraction for a few hours and something to look forward to. But I understand what you mean. My hubby was badgering me earlier about a second rental property I was sorting. But I too am lacking motivation and don’t want to be dealing with additional stress until Iv tested.

This really is an emotional rollercoaster isn’t it. Glad you managed to get out though. The weather never lifted here so Iv been stuck in doors all day. Roll on tomorrow x

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Here4ivfinfo in reply toMiniMe23

She asked me on the day of my transfer and the team were really pushing the “rest, relax, take it easy, move slower than usual” narrative, so at the time I wasn’t keen but now that I feel totally normal I would want to go. Plus my partner was like “you can’t be doing that!!” Like I’d just had major surgery and was contemplating a marathon. Never mind! Netflix it is. I bought loungewear before and am now officially lounging 😂. The cinnamon bun didn’t happen but there’s always tomorrow! I am not surprised you don’t want to sort out the rental property. My partner wants to buy to let and he said to me yesterday “you could research properties this weekend if you’re bored”. I’m not at that level!!!!

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MiniMe23 in reply toHere4ivfinfo

Exactly. He’s asked me repeatedly past few days if Iv chased the mortgage broker up. When I say I want things to keep me busy. Buying a house isn’t one of them. That’s something I want to put 100% into when Iv got over this hurdle. But apparently I’m wasting time and could be doing it whilst resting. Glad I’m not alone. Thought I was snapping for no reason. Brits sounds amazing. But I’ll take my comfies over heels and strapless all day long xx

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Hi, I can totally relate…This is my first IVF cycle and was quite chill until transfer. Now I’m 3dpt and every day feels like torture. Apart from some back pain and mild cramps 24 hrs after transfer, no symptoms at all .I did rest on transfer day but decided gotta keep my chin up so day 2 walked around 11000steps( I’ve done procedure abroad so plenty to visit) and third day flew back to UK plus another three and a half hours drive home. At this point I don’t think it worked (grading wasn’t best either was hoping to see an A but transferred a 5BB)and just trying to do the things I enjoy most to keep myself busy. Best of luck x

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Here4ivfinfo in reply toalma88

I am feeling mine hasn’t worked too today. I know it’s not unusual to feel nothing but I really haven’t had any symptoms at all. Day one immediately after transfer I had a small cramp and then 2 hours later. Since then absolutely nothing at all. I don’t even have symptoms from the meds which I suppose is nice. I am thinking though they often say that the symptoms come more from the meds and I know the meds are working so I cannot know that I am not pregnant but I was just hoping for a tiny sign, without one it’s going to be a massive shock if this one has stuck. My clinic grades embryos differently and mine is a B+B+ so just below top quality.

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