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I can't believe I'm writing this but our ivf journey is over in the most heartbreaking way. Everything was looking good with my lining, ovulation, progesterone over 100 and we got the call yesterday morning that our final embryo had survived the thaw and was looking good. We arrived at the clinic and got booked in. Went through all the checks and then got to see the embryo on the screen. It was doing really well and expanding as it should and it was a really good vibe in the room. Then the doctor tried to pass the embryo through the catheter but encountered a slight issue due to my c section scar and so decided to try again with a more rigid catheter. The embryo was taken back to put back in the culture until the doctor was ready again. Except the embryo never made it back to the culture, it was lost. Just like that. Absolutely devastated to go from such a high to such a terrible low.

I am just in disbelief that this is how it's all ended. We are told this is extremely rare but it doesn't help us really.

We are so very fortunate to have our son from the same clinic and we count our blessings, just can't help to think it wasn't meant to be this way :(

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Jumpppy

Oh no - so sorry 😢 Tears with you and hugs for you xoxo

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Football61

I’m so sorry, this is heartbreaking. Sending you prayers and support. I hope you’re ok. I hope you don’t mind me asking, but when you say that the embryo was lost, was that due to an error by the doctor? xx

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Greenleaves1

Aww I'm so sorry to hear this. Was it physically lost? Are the clinic liable for something like that?

I can imagine how you must be feeling with the build up towards it.

Dear Duardo19

I’m so sorry to hear this. I had a similar experience at a clinic because they struggled to put the embryo in as I had a large fibroid at the time. They embryo was out of the incubator for at least an hour. They said it was still viable but I have my doubts. That was my first ivf cycle and was afraid to speak up. But looking back, I wish I had. Maybe you could speak to the clinic and see if they can offer you a cycle at a reduced fee.

Thinking of you during this upsetting time.

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Gempuddleduck

This is so devastating. Sending you so much love and hugs xxxx

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Booda21

oh I am so sorry to hear this. How heartbreaking for you. Sending you all the love xxx

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Christianbaby

So, so, sorry to hear this. Devastating. Sending you hugs. x

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Twiglet2

that’s such a shame 😢 I can understand why you are upset I would be too and also looking for answers from the clinic on how they could lose the embryo! Hopefully you can go for a fresh round again when you feel ready 💜 xx

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