Needing some reassurance after BFN

[BearPanda]

I'm just writing ask for some positive stories to help me get hope back after yesterday's BFN. It was our third transfer and for the first time we did a double; day 6 4AA and 4BB. Our first transfer was a BFN, second was a BFP, but sadly didn't make it past 6 weeks. After our second transfer, even though it ended in a MC, I felt very hopeful about the next transfer; we never got a positive test before and it felt like we are inching closer to actually having a baby. I had implantation bleeding too, so pretty much felt the this one was in the bag. Now I'm questing everything and feeling very doubtful. We are very lucky to have another 3 frosties waiting for us. They are day 6 4BB. I wonder, perhaps they are not the best quality and our chances are getting slimmer. I'm going to be 37 in March and I have low AMH, so I feel that extra time pressure too. Any positive stories would be really, really appreciated!

[Hopewhite]

Hi BearPanda I just wanted to send you a big hug, I don't have a positive story to share just yet, but i know how disappointing this process can be, allow yourself some time to bounce back and once you're ready you can discuss alternatives with your consultant. Unfortunately this is sometimes a numbers game, hopefully you're getting closer to having your lucky one xx sending you loads of hope and positive thoughts xx

[RedFox23]

Hi Bear Panda, I’m so sorry for your negative result.It’s just such a rollercoaster journey isn’t it, with no guarantee. We too have had 1 failed implant and 1 miscarriage.

I have no advice to give but just wanted to say that having Frosties is so promising, they say if they’re strong enough to freeze they’re good quality! I’ve read on here that getting a BFP is a good indicator as you can get pregnant!

Fingers crossed that all your stars align for next time and it’s the BFP you’ve been waiting for x

[Millbanks]

Hi lovely,

Sorry to hear you've not been successful so far - have a look at my bio - we had a big journey but we got there in the end. For us I think it was steroids that really helped our 10th embryo implant.

xx

[BearPanda in reply to Millbanks]

What a journey, well done to you both! It does give me some reassurance, thank you so much for sharing❤️

[Fruitandflowers]

It's really hard, but so far over 10 years of this process, we've gone from an assessment of you have an amazing amh and you're both fine so you'll get pregnant within 6mnths of trying!, to you'll get masses of eggs first time on low doses and IVF is all but guaranteed to work, to actually 'weird' responses, my body ignoring meds entirely, cancelled rounds, poor fertilisation one round, all fertilised and to blast the next, to one egg the next, two early losses, one PUL at 10 weeks and a BFN. But in amongst that a successful FET (aged 38) and now inexplicably pregnant naturally for the first time ever (while waiting to have a natural FET) and about to turn 40. There's been no rhyme or reason to any of it. I have no idea what worked or didn't, or whether mine is even a true positive story as we are blessed to have what we had started to assume was an impossible dream, but it was financially, emotionally and physically draining, and the delays, downs and losses were crushing. But we were lucky enough to be in a financial position to keep going and it did work, eventually, even though I guess on our odds, IVF failed us more times than it worked. Would we do it again? Yes, in a heartbeat. You've had implantation and some development and that's a great sign, three frosties is brilliant (I'd take the grading with a big pinch of salt btw) and if you'd told me when I was 37 having just had a cancelled round, my first loss and disappointing fertilisation, that within 2 years i'd have a toddler and another on the way, naturally conceived, at my nicest I would have shrugged off your optimism but more likely just been quite grumpy and depressed as it could never be real. So I guess when and if you're ready to go again, do cling to that hope and try to put the rest behind you x

[BearPanda in reply to Fruitandflowers]

Wow what a lovely story! Reading this has really helped me today, thank you so much for sharing ❤️

[Doodlebug23]

I don’t have a positive story just yet, but I do totally relate to that massive disappointment at a BFN after a chemical 😓

After 3 BFN, I got my first BFP (even though I was convinced it was an evap line) on my 4th transfer (new donors fresh). Ended being a chemical but gave me hope as finally something happened. I pinned all my hopes on the 5th transfer and it was such a sucker punch to get that BFN.

But like Hopewhite said, my clinic say it’s a numbers game so carry on.

Having those little frosties 🥶🥶🥶 is great. They wouldn’t freeze then if they weren’t goid quality, and the grading is just what they can see so it is somewhat subjective.

Hone yourself a few days to be sad then try and focus on those little embies just waiting patiently for you to do your thing and grow them into a baby! X

[gianna83]

Hello! Well, i was 35 when i conceived naturally and had a mmc. At 36,i did ivf. First double fet---negative. Second double fet---chemical. Third double fet--gave birth to my first baby. So, hang in there!

[Lolalules]

Hiya, sorry about your bfn 😞 take a look at my profile, we had 5 miscarriages (3 natural, 2 ivf) and 2 bfns before my daughter came along - she’s now 7 months. After my last miscarriage I thought that perhaps I wasn’t meant to be a mum as it just never worked, but here she is! Also, she wasn’t the top grade embryo we had - she was 4BB, the 4AA didn’t stick. Hang in there 💛💛

[Preety1983]

ive had multiple mcs n now a beautiful 3months old

There is hope

It can happen!

[BearPanda]

Thanks to everyone for sharing their stories, I really appreciate it!