hi everyone.
I’m struggling. I saw our consultant this week following our most recent EC. We have 3 PGTA normal embryos from it which we did not expect (for context, we got 9 embryos from our first two rounds and only one was PGTA normal. Transfer of that one failed in July).
I was so happy with getting three. I’ve just turned 43 last week, and felt like a warrior for not giving up after those first two rounds (the second was a horrible experience). I felt so lucky and grateful for the results.
But at the consultation, our doctor didn’t seem to share my hope. He said he had to raise the question of whether we wanted to do another EC before transferring given I’ve just turned 43 and the grading of the three we have which are:
Day 5 - 4BB, Day 6 - 5BC, Day 7 - 4AA (this was a surprise to us - apparently it looks lovely but has less chance due to being a day 7).
Our consultant explained that these grades along with my conditions (endo and adenomyosis) meant he had to ask if we wanted to try and bank some more before getting into transfers.
My whole body just crumbled and I burst into tears even thinking about it. This year has been so hard and each EC has left me in more and more pain from endo. I’m also struggling with the emotional impact of the hormones (reader, I am a tearful wreck) and had OHSS twice so am just a little done with egg collections. Not to mention the financial impact which has been really rough.
But I still feel guilty for saying I wanted to just take our chances with what we have. By the time we get to the other side of those transfers, I may be too old to do further egg collections and I can’t stop wondering if I’ll regret my decision to draw a line here.
I realise we have three chances, and I am so grateful for them. But the loss in July has made me feel less than hopeful perhaps, so I’m scared to make a wrong choice.
I see women on here who have gone through YEARS of IVF and many more egg collections than me, so part of me feels I’m being weak or that I should find a way to somehow muster the money or strength or patience for another dose of OHSS…
how do you know when to draw a line and not feel… guilty for doing so?
love to you all xxx