Feeling low

[JB124]

no purpose for this post. Says it all in the title.. Been feeling really down today. It’s been a year since we started IVF and 4 transfers later, no success or even no diagnosed issues. Not really got any further from where we were when we started really. Starting to think this may not work and the thought of that is quite upsetting 😔

[HollyT7]

Excuse me missy, are further from when you first started, you are four transfers closer that’s how much! You’ve done so much to get to where you are now! All the medication, tears, anxiety and lord knows what else! What’s past wasn’t meant to be, the next transfer could bring you everything that you’re waiting for. You never know how close you are until it’s right in front of you!! ❤️ You are stronger than you began which is why you have the strength to keep moving forward. You’ve taken the first step of pulling back that arrow, you've been let loose and now your making your way forward xxx

[WillowPark]

Thanks for posting this. I've been low and tearful now for three days after our negative result last week (fourth transfer in a year). Same - everything healthy, no diagnosed issues, unexplained everything. It is so hard when they can't tell you when, or if, it will work. I can't even consider it might not work because I can't imagine what that would be like, so we are stuck on the roundabout and unable to get off. Nice to know we aren't here on our own. Hope you feel brighter soon x

[Ses9 in reply to WillowPark]

🙂 Hi my dears ( this reply is for all on this thread, who feel they are losing hope)

Is your clinic of a high level of expertise? Unexplained fertility is actually extremely rare. Usually, it is called unexplained when a clinic hasn’t done all the tests and exploration possible because they can’t be bothered or they don’t believe in the tests because of their own bias.

Have you had them look inside with a camera, take samples of your lining, test for antibodies, nk cells, hidden infections, ph levels, test every hormone, genetically test embryos, test the sperm in depth, ICSI, assisted hatching etc Even after all of that and more- donor eggs or sperm.

Only when they have exhausted all these areas and more can they say it’s actually unexplained.

Do not give up hope! There is so much that could be looked at, if you are on board with it. If it’s cost - try abroad.

I hope you get your answers and the ending you want!! xx

[Nabsal]

please start read the book( its start with the egg ) you can order from Amazon’s. Read it will really helps you

[Leii9]

Hi, This journey we all go through is really difficult. I felt exactly like you.

Started my ivf journey in May 2022, after 6 fresh transfers and 1 fet ( 14 embryos in total) , i finally got my BFP this past October.

I am now 16 weeks.

I hope this gives you a bit of hope, and strength to keep going xxx

[Nabsal in reply to Leii9]

Yes totally agree with you this journey is really heard

[marns]

sorry to hear about the tough year you are had, I know that feeling only too well we tried for 8 years with nothing happening, I went down a rabbit hole doing research and asked for antibiotic treatment prior to our last frozen transfer in case inflammation in my womb was an issue along with extra progesterone ..we are now 7+3, first time ever at 40. have u considered gene testing? our consultant explained it's expensive but if you and Ur partner get your own genes tested for much less and there's nothing coming up then it's safe to assume your embryos are fine. it takes everything out of you but please dont give up hope just yet x

[PinkCat22]

hi there JB124 just a note to say I feel the same right now.

I only just found this forum and thank goodness. Sometimes it just feels bleak, right?

I’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through: it sounds so hard and so frustrating.

But it can all change on a dime. And I really hope it does for you. ❤️

[Christianbaby]

Aww JB124. Let me just tell you, that when you decided to start the IVF journey, you took one huge step closer to THE goal. It's a tough road to walk and I think deciding to walk down that road is something that should already be commended. (And this is also for every one of the women who decided to do IVF too)

It took us over 2 years of mixed emotions - tears, laughter, disappointment, exhaustion before we finally succeeded. We are actually going to try again and use my eggs sitting on ice in our clinic.

So, don't give up just yet. As they say, rest if you must but don't you quit. You are already amazing for just trying. Keep going. I hope everything works well for you. Love and light. xx