sex after miscarriage

[amydrummo]

Hi, unfortunately I have just experienced a MMC following my first IVF cycle. I chose for it to happen naturally and I miscarried almost 2 weeks ago. On the day I miscarried I experienced a lot of pain but didn’t pass a lot of blood. In the days following I did pass what is thought to have been the pregnancy product and some lining. My hcg levels were tested 5 days later and were down to 35 and then a further 3 days after that they were down to 14. I have had light bleeding since which seems to have stopped now. My question is when is it safe to have sex? I am reading 2 weeks from miscarriage but is it 2 weeks from the day I had all the pain providing bleeding has stopped, or is it 2 weeks from when the bleeding stops or 2 weeks from my last hcg test?

[Bexarama83]

I would imagine it’s from when you started bleeding but should be when you’re ready rather than waiting the 2 weeks. Sorry you’ve been through this, truly horrible, been there myself. Hoping your next cycle is the one! X

[amydrummo in reply to Bexarama83]

Thank you. That’s what I was thinking too so will go with that. As much as it’s been a traumatic time I do want to feel that intimacy and connection again as we basically stopped having sex when we started IVF and that feels like a long time ago now! I’m hopeful it will still happen for us either naturally or with IVF but we have not had the best of luck, ectopic and 2 early miscarriages. I am 40 so my age is against me I think.

[Bexarama83 in reply to amydrummo]

I totally get you, it’s a hard process. I had 2 mmcs, one at 6, one at 10 weeks, but I’m now 32 weeks with my 6th transfer and I’m 40 so hopefully that gives you some comfort and hope 🥰 best of luck for your journey! X

[Debsdex11]

Hi Amy, I hope you’re ok, I found MMC very tough I always wait one week after the bleeding has stopped, you definitely need to wait until there is no bleeding at all, or you risk infection, yes it’s nice to have that intimacy again at this time, and hope the next time will be successful, big hugs xx

[amydrummo in reply to Debsdex11]

Sorry to hear you had one too. I found this one way worse than my other miscarriage. I think the combination of it being IVF and then the waiting for it to happen was very mentally exhausting. Sending hugs to you too x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi amydrummo. So sorry to hear this and hope you have plenty of support just now. My advice would be to have protected sex until you are onto your second period, so dates don’t get confused with dates. See how you feel, but good to have a date to work from. Good luck. Diane

[amydrummo in reply to DianeArnold]

Thanks Diane, I was thinking about dates too. I think I’ll start tracking temp/ovulation now even though I’m not trying to conceive yet so that I can see if my body is returning to normal.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to amydrummo]

Hi.yes, that’s a plan. Diane