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2nd FET for a sibling tested this morning dead early at 4.45! As I was awake , a day early due to having a very busy day tomorrow.

Tested negative! But wasn’t the best wee in the world. I guess will just have to test again.

had most of the same symptoms as my positive which ended in a MC.

I am so beyond lucky to have a little one from IVF. But if it’s negative I don’t know how much more IVF I can take. Would love a sibling but the process is just so hard. I guess looking for support ❤️

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

Hi Catmum. Just got to test early o the day recommended by the clinic. It’s such a nightmare, so perhaps a little break before trying again. Thinking of you. Diane

,but perhaps have a little

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McQueeny

Heya. The journey is so hard, even for a sibling when you already succeeded once…. Our sibling journey turned out harder than our first journey (I guess age didn’t help). Yes, we were so lucky to have one success and a much loved child - but it doesn’t mean the failures don’t hurt.

I hope your result turns, and if not, take time to figure out what next step is right for you . I got to a point where I knew I only had one more round in me, and if it was a no it would be either on to donors or just stop. You’ll figure out what’s right for you 💪💫🤞

(We were incredibly lucky and am currently 16 weeks with a little sibling from that last round 🤞🤞) x

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C-a-t-m-u-m in reply to McQueeny

Thank you for to reply, it’s definitely negative had another test and literally all of my symptoms have gone. I think perhaps a chemical. The nurse said it sounded like implantation was taking place then obviously stopped. I knew it wasn’t right because my son and MC were exactly the same symptoms this time was different.

I think because it worked first time for our so. Extremely lucky, our expectations were high.

I’m going to have at least 6 months off to enjoy my little boy and heal. It takes its toll on you. All the best with your little bean ❤️ and thank you for your kind wishes.

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McQueeny in reply to C-a-t-m-u-m

I’m so sorry…. 😔

Yes, it’s hard when you know it can work, so expectations are so high. Taking time to heal is a great idea, it’s easy to drown in the spiral of treatments and almost forget to enjoy the life and family you do have….

Sending strength and best of luck for next time 🤞🤞

And thank you so much xx

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Twiglet2

aww I’m so sorry lovely it’s so hard especially when you know it can work! I’m finding trying for a sibling even harder than the first time, I think my expectations didn’t help! Going into my 4th egg collection now for a sibling, when it only took 1 collection for our little boy!! 🤪

I hope you treat yourself and have fun with your family as you defo deserve it xx 💜

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C-a-t-m-u-m

Thank you for your kind words, it’s just so hard isn’t it . I don’t want to sound ungrateful as I was given the most perfect beautiful boy from IVF. Just extremely hurtful to think you can’t give them a sibling, so beyond shocked to have a chemical/BFN now I just feeling why has it worked before and not even working now.

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Lucyhannah1

sorry to hear about your bfn. Like you my first ivf attempt resulted in my daughter. It was a double transfer. I’ve since had 2 failed single transfers and I’m in the process of another FET. I also don’t know how many more times I’ll do this due to the toll it takes on you mentally/physically! X

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C-a-t-m-u-m

It’s hard isn’t it, you start to question why? I’m definitely having a minimum of 6 months off now as I just want to focus on myself and my little boy and partner. There’s been too many tears recently and upset.

I know I won’t go through another fresh round, it’s just so expensive and I don’t think mental I can do it. There’s some ladies on here that are true warriors and I have so much respect for them ❤️ including my sister in law who did 5 cycles had 4 MC . She’s now happy with an adopted family of 3 all through adoption.

She’s my inspiration ❤️ wishing you all the best for the future thank you for your reply x

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