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Less than a week after BFP and think it’s all over 😭 UPDATE

Core
Core
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Had pains in my lower abdomen this morning and then went to the toilet and had loads of red blood 😭 I’ve rung the clinic and they’ve said it’s either a really early miscarriage if I keep bleeding or possibly implantation if the blood stops within a few hours. Praying for the best but fearing the worst, wondering if anyone else has been through this xx

Update:

Head is scrambled, went for a blood test and they said there’s no set number that means it is or isn’t ok, as long as it’s over 10 then they’ll have me back on Wednesday to see if numbers have increased, feel a bit in limbo at the moment, slightly more hopeful but scared to get hopes up again after feeling it was over and starting to come to terms with that! Thanks for all your messages of support xx

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MrsH17

Easier said than done but try to relax this afternoon. Watch a movie and chill. This happened to my sister she was fine xxx

Core
Core
in reply to MrsH17

Thank you, I’ve taken your advice and am in bed with a movie now xx

MrsH17
MrsH17
in reply to Core

How are you doing? Xxx

Core
Core
in reply to MrsH17

Bleeding seems to have stopped now and pain is slightly less but still got a heavy feeling in my stomach. Will ring the clinic in the morning and see what they say xx

MrsH17
MrsH17
in reply to Core

That’s good news hun. Hope all goes well tomorrow. Keep as relaxed as possible xXx

Poppy_2018

Hi, this is such a horrible situation to be in and I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I had cramps and quite a lot of red blood around weeks 5 and 7 and it turned out I had quite a large haematoma. I had a scan just after 6 weeks, and quite frequent until week 10 and all was ok with my babies. Hoping all will be ok with you and your little precious. I know it's hard but try to relax and stay positive. I hope it settles soon x

Core
Core
in reply to Poppy_2018

Thank you, I’ve just read through your previous posts and lots of helpful positive stories on there. Going to spend the rest of the day chilling with a movie I think xx

Poppy_2018
Poppy_2018
in reply to Core

Good plan, rest and chilling is the best thing for now. Hope all will be well xx

Violet180

So what did you clinic advise to do? Are they going to scan you or do more blood tests or do you have to wait? I am in a similar situation, as my bleeding started again and had cramps.

I would also say to try not to assume the worst. As I have had heavy red bleeding and still positive and rising HCG tests.

Core
Core
in reply to Violet180

The doctor just said keep taking the medication for the next 24-48 hours. I’ll ring them again tomorrow and update them on things and see what they say then xx

Violet180
Violet180
in reply to Core

I'm so sorry to hear things ended the way they did for you. How are you feeling today?

I am following a similar path to you.

My clinic rang yesterday to tell my hcg levels dropped to 43 and to stop medication. I am waiting for the bleed now. I am wondering if it will be extra painful or like a heavy period? My clinic werent to descriptive.

I feel a myriad of emotions about it from minute to minute.

I need to try to enjoy Christmas with my husband and try again next year. I can't believe 10 days since my BFP felt like I have been on an emotional rollercoaster for 3 months.

Cinderella5

I'm so sorry Violet! I've had this too & its gutting. Sending love & hugs.xxx

Picalilli99

So sorry you are in this position. Just wanted to say I had a very heavy painful bleed after an early loss. Not wanting to scare you as everyone is different but I wish I’d been prepared for it because it kind of caught me off guard. Sending big hugs xxx

Violet180

Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate it because I feel lost.

Core
Core
in reply to Violet180

So sorry to hear this it’s awful, for 5 days we were on top of the world then heartbroken. I am ok, went back to work Thursday which I think helped getting back into routine, I’m still upset morning and evenings though and have booked an appointment with the counsellor at our clinic. Do your clinic offer this? My period also started today (which hasn’t helped my mood) so far it seems lighter than usual but I think maybe coz I lost so much blood with the miscarriage? This is mainly brown blood with some red xx

Kyell2

Oh no. It’s terrifying when this happens.

I had a big bleed at week 5 and week 7.5. It was a haematoma. Has it stopped now? I’d just take to my bed for the rest of the day and see what the morning brings. Hopefully it stops. Can the clinic do bloods to check HCG is on track? Thinking of you x

Core
Core
in reply to Kyell2

Thanks, last time I went to the toilet I still had blood 😢 am resting in bed with a movie and will ring the clinic in the morning to find out next steps xx

Cinderella5

Oh no core! Can you take some extra progesterone? Are you in pain. Take it easy and treat up. Hopefully all will settle down!🤞🏻🙏🏻xxx

Core
Core
in reply to Cinderella5

Thank you, I’m on 2 lubion a day and doctor said carry on with normal meds for 24 hours. I think deep down I know it’s over though, so tough after the high of last week, I know you’ve been there I think you’re amazing how you keep going 🤞 we will get there xx

Cinderella5
Cinderella5
in reply to Core

Awww my heart goes out to you! Christ this is one hell of a shitty journey. It's not fair what we have to go through. I dont know where we get the strength from but we seem to gain some kind of superhuman stubbornness to keep going. Hugs, I know exactly how you're feeling.😢Thinking of you!xxx

Core
Core
in reply to Cinderella5

I know you do think how do some people have it so easy and we have it so hard! I know as soon as I saw the positive pregnancy test I felt like it had all been worth it though so I’m sure when we have our babies it’ll feel the same xx

Cinderella5
Cinderella5
in reply to Core

Thinking of you today! Good luck.xx

Lots8788

Oh no hun!! Glad you're taking it easy x thinking of you and sending big hugs x hopefully all will be ok and you hear about this a lot and then all is fine so hopefully you'll be the same x x

Core
Core
in reply to Lots8788

Thank you, just got a gut feeling that it’s over seems just like a period now xx

Lots8788
Lots8788
in reply to Core

Oh hun x thinking of you and have everything crossed for you xx

Ranza

Oh!!! Pls hang in there sweetie. Hoping for the best for you!❤❤

Core
Core
in reply to Ranza

Thank you xx

Kitcat12

Definitely try not to assume the worst, I know that's basically impossible but it could be a haematoma, mine bled quite a bit at the beginning. Keeping everything crossed for good news over the next few days x

Core
Core
in reply to Kitcat12

Thank you, feels more and more like a period so got a gut feeling this is it, just got to keep the Faith it will happen at some point xx

Kitcat12
Kitcat12
in reply to Core

When I miscarried my pregnancy test had already gone negative when I started bleeding, have you got any tests lying around?? Might be worth a check? ❤️x

Core
Core
in reply to Kitcat12

Haven’t got any in the house 🙁 bleeding seems to have stopped now so will see what the clinic says in the morning xx

Kitcat12
Kitcat12
in reply to Core

That's brilliant! Really good sign that your bleeding has stopped. I'm keeping everything crossed for you x

Core
Core
in reply to Kitcat12

Thank you xx

Tiddly1984

Please don’t count yourself out Core. There’s a very real possibility that all is well with baby. Don’t give up on that possibility. Hoping for the absolute best for you...x

Core
Core
in reply to Tiddly1984

Thank you so much xx

Dreamingofbaby

Really hope all is ok Hun. Sorry to hear what been happening. What a day for u. Got everything crossed for u 🤞🤞xx

Core
Core
in reply to Dreamingofbaby

Thank you xx

Aprilmama

Oh no, I’m sorry and I hope all is not lost. Did you transfer one or two? I see lots of stories of bleeding on here and it turns out baby is fine. I know it’s impossible to relax and it will be a long wait but hang in there. Sending love 💕

Core
Core
in reply to Aprilmama

Thanks just transferred 1, we are going to the clinic for a blood test this morning xx

Livinginhope2019

I am praying everything will be ok and have my fingers crossed for you xxx

Core

Thank you xx

Tryagain45

Hoping and praying that all will be ok for you. I'm sure you're out if your mind with worry. It's good that bleeding has settled down xxx

Core
Core
in reply to Tryagain45

Thanks xx

Tryagain45
Tryagain45
in reply to Core

Hope you're doing ok xx

Core
Core
in reply to Tryagain45

Thanks, just had HCG bloods back and were just over 1000 have to have another blood test Wednesday to see if they are going up, my head is scrambled!xx

Jessy1280
Jessy1280
in reply to Core

If it makes you feel any better mine were 1065 (similar to you). 1758 (only 65% rise) Friday and I've had another test today. Your hcg still off to a good start. It's not over yet hun. Thinking of you. 🤗 xxx

Core
Core
in reply to Jessy1280

Thank you, that’s good to know. I feel like it’s such a mind game I thought it was over but now I’m feeling hopeful again although don’t want to get my hopes up too much!xx

Jessy1280
Jessy1280
in reply to Core

It's totally a mind game. I was hugely disappointed with low hcg rise but trying my best to remain optimistic. Its not over until the clinic categorically says so. You're still in the game x

Tryagain45
Tryagain45
in reply to Core

Thats a great number!!! There is so much hope here! For me by the time I was bleeding, mine were down to 100 and less. So you're in a good place. Will keep my fingers crossed for increases!!! x

Core
Core
in reply to Tryagain45

Thank you, yes I thought it sounded good just being cautious about getting my hopes up too much as still have some bleeding today . At what stage did you start bleeding? If you don’t mind me asking xx

Tryagain45
Tryagain45
in reply to Core

I was bleeding by 5 weeks both times...

Xx

Tryagain45
Tryagain45
in reply to Core

But my hcg was also down to 100 by then x

Materialbarbie
Materialbarbie
in reply to Core

That’s a fab number! I have everything crossed for you! My first hcg at 4 weeks my bloods were around the 200/300 mark and 2 days later they were nearly 800 so the fact yours are 1000 is looking good. Try to stay positive but I know it’s hard❤️Xx

Core
Core
in reply to Materialbarbie

Thank you I do feel more positive but at the same time I don’t want to get too excited to have my hopes smasher again just a few days later, this journey is such a rollercoaster!xx

Solly-44

I so hope it’s all ok, thinking of you and sending love xx

Core
Core
in reply to Solly-44

Thank you xx

Jojo1812

Really hope everything is ok for u. Thinking of u and praying things r well for u xx

Core
Core
in reply to Jojo1812

Thanks xx

aamiller405

aw no.... I really hope everything is ok with baby..will be thinking of you xox

Core
Core
in reply to aamiller405

Thank you xx

Maeve88Troy

Hello Core, positive vibes all around for you. Sorry for what you're going through. Will be thinking of you today

Core
Core
in reply to Maeve88Troy

Thank you xx

gattonero

Hi hun, hope you are feeling better and that you can have an early scan soon. I had 2 bleeding episodes (red flash with clots for a couple of hours and mild cramps) between 6 and 7+2 weeks and it turned out I had a subchorionic hematoma that luckily resolved around week 9th (I kept bleeding brown throughout week 10th) and was put in pelvic rest from week 6 to 8. I really hope your embryo is fine, sending you all my positive thoughts, I know how scary these moments can be. I was told to drink a lot of liquids, avoid heavy lifting and stay on pelvic rest if possible.

Good luck Core <3

Core
Core
in reply to gattonero

Thank you off for a blood test in a bit so 🤞 xx

Millbanks
Millbanks
in reply to Core

Fingers crossed xxx

Cinderella5
Cinderella5
in reply to Core

Fingers crossed for you!xx

CLDxxx

Fingers crossed all ok for you lovely xxx

Sazzysah

Hi sorry to hear this, I completely understand how scary it is the same happened to me a week after finding out I had a very heavy bleed and thought the worst, I got a referral to early pregnancy unit for a few days later thinking it was pointless however they said all was ok., I know every journey is different and I wish you all the best and everything goes to plan. Take care and look after yourself.

Core
Core
in reply to Sazzysah

Thank you, that’s reassuring to hear and similar to what the nurse said today. Your girl is gorgeous hope all is well with you xx

Sazzysah
Sazzysah
in reply to Core

Thank you x . We are doing great thanks she is growing so fast 3 months now, keeping everything crossed for you xx

Core
Core
in reply to Sazzysah

Thank you xx

Dreambaby

Best of luck to you! I hope you get your bfp on Wed!

Core
Core
in reply to Dreambaby

Thank you xx

Lolepops

Please don’t give up . I had the same at 5 weeks then 6 weeks . A bright red bleed with period type cramps . I had a blood clot around the embryo from implantation . I’m now 19 weeks pregnant . I honestly thought the same as you - a gut feeling . I was wrong . Big hugs as I know it’s frightening xx

Core
Core
in reply to Lolepops

Thank you for sharing that does give me hope, I’m going back for a blood test Wednesday to see if the numbers rise. What did your doctors say when it happened? Congratulations on your pregnancy xx

Lolepops
Lolepops
in reply to Core

I paid for a private scan as the clinic wouldn’t scan me . I knew it was risky as they couldn’t really see anything . I then went on holiday so I ended up going to the hospital. When I got there I had the biggest bleed. They took my hcg levels but it didn’t mean anything as a stand along figure . They asked me to come back after about 9 days so it was just the worst wait . They could see a sac and a little heartbeat . They told me I could expect to bleed even more . If it is a blood clot around the embryo it just sheds away and doesn’t affect the pregnancy . They told me it’s more common with ivf for some reason ? Not sure if that’s true . I am praying for you that you get a good outcome xxx

Core
Core
in reply to Lolepops

Thank you, really interesting hearing your story 🤞 mine is similar. Yes the nurse said stand alone hcg figure won’t say a lot, all about it going up by Wednesday so 🤞🤞🤞 xx

Lolepops
Lolepops
in reply to Core

Really hope it does 🤞🤞🤞🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻X x

Fingerscrossed38

Oh geez I'm sorry you're having to go through this and also to have this agonizing 48 hour wait! What wss your hcg today? How many days post transfer are you?

Core

Thank you, I’m 19dp5dt my hcg was just above 1000 today but the nurse said it’s all about that number increasing on Wednesday as everyone has different hcg levels. How is your FET going?xx

Fingerscrossed38

Exactly. Let's see it double on Wednesday. Ok have everything crossed for you!

My lining is taking ages but hopefully by the end of the week I can trigger and transfer end of next week 💛

Core

Thanks will cross fingers for your lining to get nice and thick also xx

Picalilli99

Oh god only just seen this - so sorry you are having such a difficult time Core! It really is such a rollercoaster. Got everything crossed for your blood test tomorrow and that your HCG is still rising nicely 🤞. Sending big hugs at this bloody stressful time! Take care lovely xxxx

Core
Core
in reply to Picalilli99

Thank you, how are you feeling now?xx

Core

So a final update from me .. nurse has just rung to say levels have dropped so I can stop medication and they are going to refer me to the early pregnancy unit. I’m so so gutted and back to thinking this might never happen for me, why is this journey so cruel at times??

Picalilli99
Picalilli99
in reply to Core

Oh no Core I’m absolutely gutted for you. Was so hoping that you would get good news today. Totally understand those fears returning. Life is so cruel sometimes. I’m so sorry. Take the time you need to process all this and and to heal yourselves. Please do not give up hope lovely xxx

CLDxxx
CLDxxx
in reply to Core

So very sorry to hear this 😔 please look after yourself. Sending love xxx

Solly-44
Solly-44
in reply to Core

I’m so so sorry lovely. There are no words, it’s just heartbreaking. Sending love xx

Lavender96
Lavender96
in reply to Core

Oh I’m so sorry to hear this. This process can be so cruel, it’s heartbreaking. Make sure you take all the time you need to grieve and look after yourself. Sending lots of love xx

Shelleybean
Shelleybean
in reply to Core

Oh no I’m so sorry. How truly heartbreaking. Sending you masses of love and the strength to heal and continue your journey 💕💕 xx

Sazzysah
Sazzysah
in reply to Core

I’m so sorry to hear that , I wish you the best for the future and really hope you have success 😊 x

Tryagain45
Tryagain45
in reply to Core

I'm so so sorry...it's heart breaking...huge hugs xxx

LeeCee15
LeeCee15
in reply to Core

Aww so sorry to hear this 😞 it is a cruel journey and really doesn’t seem fair at times! Take care of yourself and I wish you lots of luck for the future Xx

Stephybivf

I’m so sorry to hear this xx thinking of you xxx

Jojo1812

So sorry to hear this news. Thinking of u xx

Dreamingofbaby

So sorry to hear this core. Big hugs. Xxx

Core

Thank you so much all, I think I’m going to try and enjoy Christmas and then hopefully in the new year we’ll be able to try again. Does anyone know if I can expect a period/withdrawal bleed now or would that have been the miscarriage on Sunday?xx

Shelleybean
Shelleybean
in reply to Core

I’m not 100% sure on that honey, as with my mmc the bleeding only started once I stopped the meds. Would have though it’s probably possible for you to bleed again once you stop the medication though. Hopefully others may be able to give you a better idea xx

Prayingforafamily

So sorry to hear this, I really was hoping it would work out for you. Look after yourself x

Lolepops

I’m so sorry 😭xx

Maeve88Troy

I'm so sorry to hear your news Core, yes, enjoy your holidays, best to let your body rest. Lots of love and hugs dear.

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