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I can’t shake the feeling it’s all over.

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I honestly feel like it’s all over. I’m trying to be positive and keep going for test day on Monday but I’ve got absolutely no symptoms at all. In fact I feel energetic and great. I was bloated but that happened when I started the meds and even that’s gone down now too. If it wasn’t for the puncture marks and bruises on my stomach you wouldn’t even know I was doing ivf.

I know I’ve got to wait until Monday but the idea of getting another negative after all the years, tears, heartache not to mention the tens of thousands of pounds feels just so unfair. This is our last embryo too so we would be back to square one.

I know there’s always someone worse off in the world and I know I’m so lucky with everything else in my life. But seriously what did we do in a past life to deserve this xxx

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Hi Boo, hang in there! I had absoutely zero symptoms on my last cycle. No sore boobs, no cramps, no spotting - I also felt pretty good. So much so that when I went in for my bloods I tried to book a follow up appointment with the consultant as I was certain it would be bad news. So I was stunned when they called that afternoon to say it was positive.Also, any symptoms that you would have at this early stage would be caused by the meds anyway - in a natural pregnancy you would have no idea.

There is still hope!

Wishing you so much luck xxx

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Boo718 in reply toMillbanks

Thank you so much for your reply. It’s honestly brain torture this 2ww. I keep thinking people have it so much worse and really in the scope of life I have nothing to complain about. But it’s so hard. I’m gonna plant my arse on the sofa and watch some Netflix I’m sure that will help 😂 xxx

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Millbanks in reply toBoo718

It is so hard - I've done 6! I do find that a bit of perspective does help, but don't forget - you are absolutely entitled to feel how you fell, regardless of other people being worse off. Netflix is definitely a good plan! Distraction is key xxx

Hi Boo718 i feel the same.... zero symptoms (apart from the odd cramp from progesterone) which makes it hard to remain positive. Good luck for Monday 😘 I'm only 3dp6dt so pregnancy blood test isn't until 16th October xx

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Boo718 in reply toIcsi_Wincy_Spider

Good luck to you too. I suppose if you get a few symptoms you feel like your bodies actually doing something 😂 I feel like I may aswell inject today’s progesterone into a banana 🍌😂 hopefully the 16th comes quickly for you xxx

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NewMom1982 in reply toBoo718

🤣🤣🤣 I love your sense of humour. And yup I’ve recently been a google queen and many woman say that they haven’t had any symptoms at all before their positive. In fact two of my friends that are expecting their babies (through IVF) by the end of the year said that they had 0 symptoms too. So don’t stress and watch Netflix. Lol 😂

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Icsi_Wincy_Spider in reply toBoo718

Good luck today Boo718 🙏🏻🙏🏻😘😘 xx

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OurMiracleBabies

Hey Boo718 I hear you and feel very similar to you... I have been crying all day.

This is our 7th transfer and thousands of pounds later. I can't seem to think it's worked this time, especially as I got a bfn yesterday 10dp5dt. Wasn't fmu or anything concentrated but surely this late in the game even a squinter would be visible.

I am so heart broken and tired. Emotionally and psychologically tired. Oh and financially tired.

I guess we just got to hang in there in hope. This might just be your time. Symptoms means nothing as its all progesterone anyway.

What day are you on in the tww?

Best of luck. Wish u baby dust.

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Boo718 in reply toOurMiracleBabies

Aww thank u so much for your reply. I hope your ok.I’m 7dp 5dt so test date is on Monday. It’s also our wedding anniversary. So it will either be an amazing present or we will get drunk 😂

I hope you get your BFP I’ve been doing this since 2017 negatives, cancelled cycles, no embryos to transfer, nothing to freeze I could probably put a huge deposit on a house the amount that we have spent. But every penny will be worth it when it works. Even if I am 65 at that point 😂 xxx

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OurMiracleBabies in reply toBoo718

Love your spirit. I am now hoping for our miracle. As you say it will be worth it in the end. We can't come this far to give up now. Too invested at this point.

I know we will take our babies home. Sooner rather than later.

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Babymagic37

Good luck for Monday Boo718 you’re not out of the running yet!! Plenty of people don’t get symptoms and go on to have a BFP, I’m keeping my fingers crossed 🤞🏼 x x

Good luck for Monday. I was convinced this time that I wasn’t pregnant. Even though I’d experienced a couple of symptoms I thought it was the meds (as happened first time fail) so you just never know

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Fruitandflowers

On my first transfer my boobs were agonizingly painful from just a few days after, I got cramps, and I was tired and emotional - I really 'felt' pregnant with that one. That was positive but sadly ended. The second one I had no symptoms during the 2ww but that was also positive, I started spotting after OTD which got heavier and again it didn't last. My first FET I got no symptoms at all during 2ww apart from the tiniest amount of spotting and cramps about 2 days post transfer, but that was it and I assumed it was over, and that even if it was positive it would go the same as the previous two. I'm having my 12 week scan next week from that one :) So it's just to say there was apparently no rhyme or reason with the symptoms I got (or didn't) - all BFPs from quite early and all really different. I think the meds have got a lot to do with it at the early stages.

I really hope this one is good news for you but if not you haven't done anything to deserve this in this life or past (unless you were a very mean dung beetle or something). But it does feel unfair - it's a draining process in so many ways so you must be very strong to have gotten this far x

I was giving up because my boobs weren't sore like the first time I got my bfp but then realised hcg isn't released (inducing progesterone) until Day 6 post transfer according to this, does that sound about right?

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