x2 failed 3BB blasto, 45 yrs old, low AMH - what to do?

[Anonymous3881]

Hi all,

I just did my 8th FET with x2 emyro and they both failed (these were my last embryos). I do have a son who was a success on my 4th round 3 years ago. I'm getting older and I have a low AMH, I was told I have a 1% chance. I will have no eggs in a few months time. I am now so confused on what to do. Its has taken its toll financially, physically, emotionally you name it but I cant help worrying that I should try one last time. I feel guilt for my son not having a brother or sister. On the other hand the thought of doing it all again is so tough and its hard tp picture that all too. I am so stuck!!

Can anyone help me?! feeling rather lost and have no idea what to do.

thank you xx

[Orangeflowers]

Hi - I just wanted to offer support. I'm 43, but 44 in mid April. Also trying for a sibling. I've done 5 fresh rounds since I turned 43 last April and one more to go already paid for. I've only managed to bank two blasts. I always thought it was just a matter of multiple rounds, but loosing hope now. Things have got crazy!

I don't know what to advise if you've got it in you and have funds maybe try once more for closure. Is cheaper abroad. Stats for us are not good though. It's a lottery.

If you're still making two 3bbs in a round than that's excellent for your age

Would you consider donor eggs in future?

Wishing you luck xx

[Anonymous3881 in reply to Orangeflowers]

ah hey Orangeflowers! thanks so much for your response. Gosh its so bloody tough isn't it and wow 5 rounds already, you trooper!!.I said this WAS the last time and I thought I would be at peace but tbh I dont feel that, I just feel guilty/bad for my little boy. In one way the thought of not having to go through again is great but on the other hand I just feel for my son. I dont think I have it in me to go abroad at this stage or to even do donar eggs. Are you considering donar eggs? I am going to book a another AMH test as it hasn't been done since last May so maybe I should try that 1st and take from there. When are doing the next TFR? did you go abroad?

Wishing you all the luck hun xx

[Orangeflowers in reply to Anonymous3881]

Hey, I know what you mean. Making decisions is so hard. I wasn't receptive to donor eggs but I've now come round to it as a backup and am seeing more pros.

Re checking your AMH, personally I don't think it necessarily makes much difference. How long ago was your last fresh round? I think antral follicle count is a better indication and how many blasts and quality, once you've already done IVF.

My AMH was good, though I've not had it done in a year, but my current AFC is around 21-22. It has made no difference though as my embryos are poor quality as is the fertilisation rate. Yet people with fewer eggs may have better quality and outcomes, so for me it makes odds.

Maybe tandem IVF is something to consider where they collect yours and a donors eggs?

Xx

[Marisa32]

Would you consider donor egg for a sibling? That was my plan B.

[Anonymous3881]

Hi Marisa32, tbh my general thought was no but now I am wondering if I should. Its just the thought of even more process to go through. I had a very brief chat on Friday with the docs but my head was all over the place. Maybe I should look into it a bit more I guess

[Marisa32 in reply to Anonymous3881]

I hear you....my initial feeling about donor egg was also "no" or "hell no". But as time went by; the chemicals, the MMC, and BFNs took a toll on me. My daughter was approaching her 2nd Bday and I wanted them to be close in age, so made the decision to just go for it. We chose the Czech Republic due to speed, price, service and my heritage. Once I made that decision, I felt good about it, excited and happy for the first time in months. My story ended in a lucky twist (I got pregnant naturally right before my DE transfer); however, if that didn't happen, I would be sitting here happily with a DE sibling with no regrets.

[Anonymous3881 in reply to Marisa32]

ah that's such a wonderful story and I am so happy for you. I think I will arrange another chat with my fertility to try and understand it a bit a more in detail. Yes it would be nice to feel 'happy' again, this IVF takes so much from you doesn't it.