Had our follow up appointment today after our NHS attempt failed in August last year. Will have to self fund this time round. We dont know what to do for the best. Consultant said we could do fresh cycle at 5.5k the other difference he would make is a few more days on stims to see if I respond better. But being 39 and first time round only had 2 embryos that made it to day 5 things could be against us. I really want another go but husband said its alot of money on a chance. Doctor said my chances of falling pregnant this time was lower than last time due to many factors. Do I follow my heart and risk it or give up my dreams of being a mum forever. Either way this will be our only chance and if it doesn't work I know to give up forever.
Have others been in the same situation as me and did you fall 2nd time round?? If so what did you do differently??
Feeling thoughtful and lost today.
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Hello! I am 38 now. I have already had one failed attempt with my own eggs and one with a donor egg. I am preparing for the third one hoping to get bfp this time. I am faded. frankly speaking... But my desire to hold my precious child so big that I really do not want to waste my time and trying to do everything to achieve this. I decided that in the case of failure, I will find somebody to carry a baby for me.
Honestly hon, from what you've written I think you would regret it if you don't try one last time if you can possibly get the money together. It is a lot of money, but if it works... and if it doesn't, knowing you gave it all you could would give you a certain amount of peace of mind going into the future.
I don't know how your first cycle went but 2 embryos making it to 5 days isn't a poor result by any means, I think it's quite encouraging. Did you take any supplements for egg quality? I was 38 when I did IVF and my Dr recommended COQ10 for a couple of months before EC and we got good results. Other things that spring to mind are plenty of progesterone support after transfer...
Unfortunately there are no guarantees in this IVF game, it's a massive, stressful gamble. But they do say you regret the things you don't do more than the things you've done... best of luck whatever choice you end up making xxx
I think I would regret not trying again. I didn't take anything other than the usual drugs during round one. Since then I've researched alot of different things from supplements to acupuncture.
Wont be starting right away but planning for the next 3-6 months. Xx
It takes on average 3 cycles of ivf for it to work - some people less, some people more. It’s a massive gamble but it’s great you got to day 5 last time and you’re still in your 30s. If you can, go again. I’m on my 6th 2 week wait and I’m 38 and still no BFP to date but I have to keep going. We went with Access Fertility to get 2 rounds at a discount, have you looked into them? X
I was 38 in Aug having my first cycle (BFN), had OHSS which didn’t help at the time although transfer did go ahead - I think I was still ill from it. 2nd cycle this year (luckily still funded), had fresh round but different drug regime (short protocol), body coped much better, no OHSS and better quality blastos (with BFP). I was devastated when my first round didn’t work, I though that was a sign for how things would continue to be. If my second hadn’t been funded, I would have definitely paid for it. They learn a lot from first cycle and sometimes making adjustments to drugs etc can make all the difference.
Good luck with whatever you decide, if you think you might regret not going for it then I would suggest taking that leap and seeing what happens.
Thinking of you and hope things go well whatever you decide xxxx
You’re very welcome. Good luck on the saving for your second round and hope you get your BFP xxx
Hi. It sounds like its now or never for you. Ive always been told that youll know when your ready to stop. The thought of having regrets scares me. Theres lots of payment plans and loans that you could look in to. It reads like in your heart youd like one more opportunity while you can.x
Thanks. Going to follow my heart and give it my all. Looked into loans but the repayments are ridiculous (poor credit) my mum has kindly offered to help and with our savings we might just have enough for one final attempt.
So far we ve self funded 5 iuis and 2 ivfs. Its been really tough constantly saving and paying loans. But we re hoping this cycle will be the push we need fingers crossed.
All the best with you ivf journey x
Hey. Try looking st clinics abroad you could
Probably get a holiday that coincides with treatment x
Hello
I am 42 and went through 6 ivf rounds. 3 with my own eggs and 3 with donor. I am currently 24 weeks pregnant. Somehow we find the strength and the funds to carry on. But you need to decide what is best for you. You can try with your own eggs, have donor, look at fostering or adoption. Lots to consider.
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