Anyway dreading this Sunday? I don’t normally but this year I feel differently I don’t know if it’s because I’ve been told my fertility treatment is on hold for possibly upto 52 weeks until NHS has done colposcopy. Looked into going private but just can’t afford it at moment with cost of living and paying privately for fertility at same time. So my positivity and hope levels have really took a hit. I don’t know if I can manage going out watching others celebrate it. But I’ve got meals planned with mum and sister (who has children). Sorry just felt like I needed to get that out.
Sending love to all who may be feeling something similar.
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I am sorry about the delay in your treatment. I have had many and I know it's very difficult.
Forgive me if you have already explored this or if I am asking wrong questions. Is your Fertility treatment ivf/icsi or a transfer? If it's the first, would an elective freeze all cycle go ahead before the colposcopy and transfer later once Colposcopy is done?
My understanding is that the
colposcopy is needed for cervix cells but I don't know if a retrieval can go ahead unaffected ?
In my case when I was having nhs treatment during one cycle they discovered a polyp. The delay f I wanted to remove it with the NHS was going to be huge. I persisted and asked if the freeze all cycle was an option. My argument was my age, I was close to 38 back then and success rates drop a lot after that and the fact that my treatment was already delayed by the covid closures . They agreed for a freeze all cycle. This way I felt I was doing what I could and the delay wasn't going to impact on my embryo quality more.
I don't normally have huge issues with mother's day but this year we will go out to have lunch with my husband's mum and rest of his family. I am not looking forward to the cafe being full of flowers and all the repeated wishes to the mothers at all the tables. I will smile politely.
I’m getting less invasive treatment IUI. So this wouldn’t be an option for me. I’m sorry to hear the delays you’ve had, appreciate the advice. I think I’ll be doing the same, just don’t want to be feeling guilty and ungrateful for all that I already have. My two beautiful nephews will be there so that’s something.
Hope you have nice time as possible with husband and his family.
Sorry to hear your journey has been delayed. I hope the pause in treatment gives you the best odds going forward.
I find Mother’s Day a really hard day. For me it starts before the day as it’s literally everywhere in shops /tv etc. I’m going to be staying at home most of the weekend to avoid it all, some years I have more strength for it, but this year my plan is to hibernate.
It sounds like you have a lovely weekend planned with your family. I hope you enjoy your family time xxx
Thank you I hope so, as disappointing as it is I do want my chances and any potential baby’s chance to be the best it can be.
I’m sorry to hear you struggle too, I think that’s a good plan. Have a snuggles on the sofa watching your fav programs/movies and eating anything you like.
Hiya. Totally understand where you are coming from. I lost my mum 10 years ago and then started my ivf journey. Every mothers day was horrendous. We eventually had a success story 🙂 so now it's not so bad. Always feel sad about my mum, but nice to be able to share it with my little family. Have a nice weekend anyway, lots of food and laughs 🙂 xx
I’m so glad to hear you’ve been successful gives others hope x sorry about the loss of your mum and didn’t have her during your ivf journey x I’m sure apart of her will be in your bundle of joy x Thank you feeling a little better about it now x
Mother’s Day can be a trigger for so many people for so many different reasons, so you are not alone. Sorry to hear that things are on hold for another 52 weeks, that’s really awful. I hope that when tomorrow comes, being surrounded by people who love and appreciate you, even if you don’t have the title of “mother” yet, will give you some comfort. At my school, kids made cards for all sorts of people for tomorrow- mothers, aunties, godmothers etc. There is a special soul somewhere waiting for you to be their mother, this is just a blip in the journey. Sending you lots of positive energy to get through tomorrow and the rest of your journey. I really hope things can be sped up if possible.
Sitting in the hairdressers, tearing up over your reply x Thank you so much that was lovely to read, to hear positive caring words from a stranger is so appreciated x I have nephews who my sister says I’m a second mum too just hope one day I get to be the primary mum x
Hope you are also surrounded by love and appreciation tomorrow not matter you have planned x
That’s ok. I know exactly how it feels to be the aunt who is a second mother and longing to be an actual mother. It’s so natural to feel that way and then the guilt of us feeling unappreciative, but we will get there. There are so many success stories on here and it would be wonderful if we all get our happy ever after.
It’s a great feeling being an aunt, the strength of love you feel and have for them is amazing. I hope we both can be part of those success stories x In the meantime back to Aunty duties ❣️
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