7/8dp5dt feeling worried, lack of symptoms and messed up chances

[darkbuthappyplace]

this is my 7th transfer so I know the drill now but it never gets any easier.

I’ve had one positive in that time which ended in a miscarriage. I’ve been symptom spotting and comparing everything to that. The main thing that’s lacking is the heavy uterus, would I have had that by now if this was going to work?

I know symptoms can also be off the progesterone so trying to manage my expectations whilst staying hopeful. They’ve mostly dwindled but had cramping in the night and then I stretched from my stomach and worried I could have affected the embryos?! I know this sounds ridiculous (and tell me if I am) but I know you’re not meant to do certain stretches!

I know ppl say no symptoms and can still work but I’m starting to think I’ll never be that person. Are we just told this to make us feel better. So cynical I know!

Really trying to hang in there but feeling down today about my chances xx

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Only natural you are feeling a bit stressed and anxious during your 2WW Hard to do but try to keep yourself busy - re read your favourite book - watch old films Give yourself a little treat each -couple of square favourite chocolates - buy fancy magazine - have favourite meal Take any meds you were given as directed Your time will come

Good luck for OTD

Janet

[Hidden]

I am so sorry you are feeling so negative. I just wanted to say that for me every single transfer was different, I have transferred a lot of embryos and some rounds I was convinced I was pregnant and some I wasn't at all. Even the rounds I did manage to get a BFP were different, and the only BFP that lasted longer than 10 weeks was the one when I had zero symptoms. I also a couple of times (including my most successful transfer) pulled a muscle in my womb stretching in bed, so that doesn't necessarily mean you have done any harm.

It's the lack of control and clarity thats the hardest, and I really feel for you. Wishing you heaps of luck for this round xx

[darkbuthappyplace in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much for your lovely reply. You're right though, there's nothing i can do and i just wish there was or i could have a sign, wishful thinking i know. xx

[Rainbowretrieval]

Oh sweetie I’m so sorry you’ve been through this so many times…as everyone has said it can vary from person to person. It’s impossible to not feel stressed but that is probably the one thing that a doctor would tell you to avoid as opposed to anything physical that’s not hugely strenuous. Wishing you all the luck in the world for this time to be yours x

[darkbuthappyplace in reply to Rainbowretrieval]

Thanks so much for your warm wishes, it's comforting. I'm trying really hard not to stress and I've done really well until today i feel, compared to previous cycles. Just hit a wall today xx

[Ganges]

Hi I’m heading for my 6th transfer soon and already dreading the TWW. I hate it, find it so stressful! You second guess everything, then put it down to progesterone anyway! Keep busy and try to stay positive (easier said than done in the middle of the night!) good luck xxx

[darkbuthappyplace in reply to Ganges]

thanks for the reply, yep, I find this bit harder than stims and retrieval, it’s a brutal mind game! Wishing you lots of luck for your transfer xxx

[Ganges]

Yes this is the hardest part by far. I also spend the time dreading the test day, as there have been so many negatives. But we keep positive and keep going. Had to be our turn soon, surely 🤞🏼 xx

[darkbuthappyplace in reply to Ganges]

surely, that’s how I keep myself going, odds say it has to happen at some point 🤞🙏🏻xx

[Ganges]

I think it’s a numbers and luck game now to be honest. Feel free to get in touch I’ve this wait if you need to vent xx

[Annbiel]

the 2WW is the worst... im on my 5th transfer - 4dp5dt and the only thing that actually keeps me calm is testing which is counter intuitive but works for me, so i'm kind of 'keeping' an eye on things. About the stretches... every time I ask my doctor after the transfer if there's anything I shouldn't do.. he replies 'no, just live normally'. I jog, I ski, I mountain bike I do yoga .. hope he's right 🙃.

[darkbuthappyplace in reply to Annbiel]

Thanks so much for your reply, it is reassuring to hear that, just so paranoid! Good luck hope your embryo sticks! xx

[Deep79]

hi dark

Just reading your profile . Our ivf experience so similar in the no of times and having one bfp that ended in misscarriage. Also I’m 4 years older though. I had FET (donor egg for first time in Spain) on march 8th too . I am going through all same emotions thinking it’s going to work this time then thinking what if it doesn’t . I’m watching if any symptoms too but they all could be hormone related. New symptom for me is right side pain stretchy feeling but is high enough not low in my abdomen ! God knows! I bought a first response test yesterday but terrified to test. I’ve blood test booked for Tuesday thinking I will test Monday morning ! IVF is always described as a rollercoaster - so im going to do my best to keep busy over weekend , meeting family watching some sport etc doing anything that distracts ! Hoping you feeling better today , here’s wishing you all the best & hoping our little embryos stick around xxx

[darkbuthappyplace in reply to Deep79]

It doesn't get any easier, the worry is the same no matter how many times we do this. I've had that same feeling you mentioned too, right and left pain but both higher up, i'm assuming it's the hormones but still living in a bit of hope it means something without getting my hope up too much. I have one test in the bathroom that i'm terrified to use, i just don't want to see a negative. I have to do a HPT on Sunday and only if it's positive will i get a blood test. We've got a little roadtrip this weekend so will keep us busy too. Sending you lots of hugs and stickiness! xxx