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Hi guys,

So today I am 6 + 4 weeks and I think it’s going ok? Our scan is next Thursday. I think I have had very mild nausea, heartburn and on/off sore boobs but they are so mild I think I’m imagining them. The only thing that is a bit more obvious is the insomnia (waking up super early). But even that comes and goes. Is this normal to be so mild at 6 weeks?

Also, hubby and I have been holding off on sex because we are scared it might trigger a MC. I know googling says it’s ok for normal pregnancies but is an Ivf pregnancy considered normal?? Too embarrassed to ask my consultant. What do you guys think??

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Cinderella5

I have a severe lack of symptoms too which I know I should be super grateful for too seeing as we saw twins at our 7wk scan. Some people it would seem just do t get hit until later on or not at all. We havnet risked having sex either. I'm too worried as I've had a bit of spotting and hubby way too scared in general....he says that may last until they arrive!🤣🙈😮 Good luck!xx

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Florencenightingale in reply toCinderella5

You just wait for that 2nd trimester and I'm sure you'll be changing his mind 🤣 xx

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Cinderella5 in reply toFlorencenightingale

🤣😂

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Mrs_MT in reply toCinderella5

Thank you! How many weeks are you now? I’m just going to hold my breath until our scan lol!!

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Cinderella5 in reply toMrs_MT

I'm just over 9 weeks....hopefully!!🤞🏻xx

Firstly, congrats on the BFP! It's such a mind f**k before the viability scan, we question everything! I hardly had any symptoms at all, only really the massive boobs but that was the progesterone. Little bean was fine at viability scan at 7+2.

Our doc said no intercourse in the 2ww but er waited until maybe 8 or 9 weeks, I fully knew it was safe but it's just in the back of your mind. If they havent specifically said no sex then theres problem for you. You may find you have some spotting after from the irritation to the cervix, but baby is well tucked away and is safe and snuggly in there. Unless hes well packing then you'll be fine 🤣🍆

Tbh, I didnt enjoy our first time, but we got there in the end xx

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Mrs_MT in reply toFlorencenightingale

Thank you! And for taking the time to respond. I just woke up this morning and was like, arent I supposed to be feeling something by now?

🤣🤣 re: well packing, I think we are OK. Might just wait until after the viability scan. Who knows! How many weeks are you now? X

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Florencenightingale in reply toMrs_MT

Honestly you'll probably not stop questioning yourself for a long long time. Try not to stress yourself over it tho.

I'm glad you've not got a 🐴 problem haha. Once you've had the viability scan you'll probably be a bit more relaxed. Just make sure you dont rush it, but be prepared for it to be awful 🤣

I'm just over 36 weeks now so time is dragging for us both haha.xx

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CLDxxx

Hey.

Congratulations on your pregnancy 🥰 it is definitely normal to have such mild symptoms now and at any stage. I had slight nausea and a few food aversions but other than extreme tiredness, I didn’t have any other stronger symptoms than that ☺️

With regards to sex, it’s always worth asking but It is usually safe to go ahead whether it’s IVF or not. As long as you’re relaxed & comfortable that’s the main thing! You’ll be seeing your midwife around 8 weeks so you could always ask her then if you’d rather some reassurance.

Xx

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Mrs_MT in reply toCLDxxx

Thank you! That’s a good idea, I can ask the midwife once I get allocated one.

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Debrakay1704

Hi. It is such personal choice re the sex. We have but again if you are worried maybe no point as will it be the same??

Every pregnancy is so different with my first IVF pregnancy I had really mild symptoms that came and went like you say, and this time I am suffering very badly with nausea near all day.

Good luck with your scan. We have ours tomorrow 7 + 2. Xx

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Cinderella5 in reply toDebrakay1704

Good luck!xx

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Debrakay1704 in reply toCinderella5

Thank you darling. Hope you’re taking care xx

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Mrs_MT in reply toDebrakay1704

Thank you and good luck with your scan tomorrow! X

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Raluca88

Hey Mrs_MT, I couldn't have put this better myself, these are the exact things going through my mind...i have the same symptoms as you, and is driving me crazy...i know this post was three days ago now so wondering how you are? 2 more days until your scan!!!! i cannot wait to hear all about it. can i ask, when was your transfer? i am just trying to see how accurate this apps are, in terms of how far along i am...

about sex, we had it once during our 2 week wait and since the bfp again but only once... 🤞trying to be good 😃 how about baths, do you have them or just keeping to showers? xxx

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Mrs_MT in reply toRaluca88

Hi lovely!! I’m still pretty mild with the symptoms! I finally got my blood result and it was 37,765 at 6+2 weeks! So that’s reassuring!! I had my transfer on day 3 and that was the 10/9/20. When was your transfer?

Still haven’t dared to have sex, but not sure we can keep this up for the whole pregnancy!! Also scared of baths but I was never a bath person so luckily I don’t miss it too much. But I do love my hot showers so that’s still going strong!! Xxx

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Miriii in reply toMrs_MT

We have the same transfer date 😁😁.

P.s. how do you calculate weeks pregnant? I saw you wrote 6+4, but my app says 7+3. I had my scan at " 6.6weeks" and measured at 6.3 weeks. I had a 5 day transfer. This confuses me. Also to add to your question my symtoms are also on &off & it drives me mad, & we also had sex just the once, it was scary but it was fine, i felt fine after, no spotting no nothing 🤞

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Mrs_MT in reply toMiriii

Hi Miri, are you using the pregnancy+ app? The conception date I put 8/9/20 (this was the day after egg collection once the fertilisation was confirmed). But also, my clinic booked my 7 week scan for 15/10 so I just worked backward from this. They generally work out the same, but the scan will confirm dates more accurately I think! Today I am 7+1 weeks according to the scan. Just to add my transfer was on day 3. Congrats by the way!!! Xxx

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Miriii in reply toMrs_MT

Yeah thats the app im using... ahhk i see maybe its a bit different as i had a frozen cycle its just too hard to work out lol, i have another scan next week anyway so hopefully the dates add up by then. Gooodluck with your scan :))

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Raluca88 in reply toMrs_MT

Hey hun, oh wow thats amazing!!! very good results! did they give you the range or you googled the average ranges for the hcg? i have my one done yesterday and it came back at 38169 which they say is really good, and they also say i am around 6 weeks and few days, the apps do sat i am 7 weeks today so not far off i suppose. my transfer was on 16/09 - 5 day blastocyst.

just do it when you feel comfortable i would say, no rush.. 🙃 oh i see, i miss my baths but i am keeping to showers for now... and how was your scan??? i hope all well lovely xxxx

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Mrs_MT in reply toRaluca88

Raluca it looks like I’m having twins! Did you have your scan?? Your hcg levels are even higher than mine at 6 weeks so you never know you may join twin team!

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Raluca88 in reply toMrs_MT

Omg!! Lovely! Congratulations! I am having my scan on Thursday next week... can’t wait!!! That would be amazing... I don’t know what the chances are since we only had 1 Embryo transferred... 🤞🤞😘😘❤️❤️

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Ivfgotadream

I’m 21 weeks with twins now and have had zero symptoms all the way along - no sore boobs no nausea no sickness nothing. If it wasn’t for the massive bump and starting to feel kicks I’d never know I was pregnant

I’m nervous about sex to be honest and we haven’t since just before egg collection. I’ve heard of people lose twins before due to incompetent cervix etc and don’t want to risk anything. But to be honest I’m Knackered and massive and uncomfortable so husband is just going to have to deal with it for a few more months

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Mrs_MT in reply toIvfgotadream

Congratulations ! Twins ❤️❤️!! So pleased you are symptom free and it is going well for you!

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lizzybee81

I’ve read so many different things about this. Some say it triggers a MC others say it helps keep them in! I’ve not had any spotting at all so we’ve been going normally really. I have to say it’s definitely gone up a gear, things are far more ummm....intense, I recommend it! 😳😜😜

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Mrs_MT

Haha thank you!! Really good to read this! Hubby will be pleased haha

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UnicornKisses

My doctor told me that sex was totally safe & that IVF did not make my pregnancy complicated or at-risk in any way. I am also 37 years old & he said that didn’t change anything either! I will say, that since I’ve switched to a regular OBGYN my pregnancy has been labeled “high risk” due to IVF but every doctor I’ve asked has said I’m not. I think it’s more for insurance purposes so they’ll cover the early ultrasounds & whatnot.

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