3rd Failed FET

[MyPatronusIsACorgi]

Not the post I was hoping to share but today was my OTD and was hit in the face with another BFN…we’re devastated. Thought we would be 3rd time lucky but clearly not.

I’m waiting to hear back from the clinic regarding my result in regards as to what will happen next. We only have one more NHS funded round and I am honestly petrified about it all. We only had the one embryo this time round, I’m so scared it’ll be the same or worse that we will have none suitable in the final try. We are doing PGD IVF so the testing dwindles the numbers as the condition we are screening is 50/50 chance.

I just don’t understand why it hasn’t happened for us yet and it sucks. To top it all off, we are 3 years deep into our journey and in total, my immediate family members will have welcomed 6 babies within that time…each announcement/birth just feels like a punch in the gut.

Sorry for the long rant, I just feel like I’m being punished. Growing up I said I didn’t want kids, but that was due to not finding the right person to live my life with. Now I’ve found him all we have ever wanted is to have our own little family. Right now that dream feels like a million miles away…

[JustJane1234]

There's not much I can say apart from I'm so sorry that it didn't work out for you this time. You must be incredibly strong to have got this far. Sending you lots of strength and hugs xx

[MyPatronusIsACorgi in reply to JustJane1234]

Thank you for the kind words xxxx

[HedgehogMad]

So sorry to hear this 💔 I'm in a similar position with four failed transfers now (5 blastocysts), it gets harder with each one. The NHS tends not to fund further investigations/add ons but might be worth asking at your appointment what else they might suggest (eg womb receptivity testing, HSG etc). Hope you are ok xxx

[MyPatronusIsACorgi in reply to HedgehogMad]

It certain does get harder each time you’d think I’d be prepared but each BFN just hits you like a tonne of bricks.

Thought that would be the case with NHS, we already had PGT-A testing as the clinic I’m with (technically a private clinic but take on NHS patients) they use the testing as standard procedure. Hoping to have a phone call with a nurse later and I’ll ask then to see if they might investigate further. I’m guessing they won’t be able to give me an answer to that straight away but at least they can flag it with the consultant whenever they book me in for treatment review.

Just feel angry at the world and disappointed with it all at present 💔 xxx

[Bed12]

Hi 👋 it really is very hard. I had my third bfn in Dec last year and it took me a bit longer this time to re-group mentally and pull myself out of feeling low. As you’ve just had the result, all the hormones are still in you so it’s difficult to think clearly. At least that’s what I found. So give yourself some time and just do something else outside of the ivf space to allow some semblance of feeling ‘normal’ to come back. Take care of yourself xx

[AMJean]

Sending a big hug your way. It’s so gutting and exhausting. Take some time to look after yourself. We were in a similar position in Jan this year and it was a really hard blow. We’d both pinned everything on third time and felt the weight of the journey more than ever. We’re now moving towards our 4th and final round and weirdly it feels less stressful at the mo. We’re still in the arena for now, so we’re throwing everything at it. Best of luck when you get going again but for now just let yourself off the hook for a while. 💗🍀🌻x

[Annbiel]

Hi there! I know the feels, just failed my 4th transfer and my brother welcomed 2 kids to this world in that time. We just have to keep going! sending hugs xx