heartbroken

[Blueberry211]

Hello there,

I have just burst out crying . My husband's

bestfriend had to move their wedding forward as they accidentally had gotten preg. The thing I cannot grasp why do you go into details that it was a mistake, we are not happy it happened this way as has ruined our wedding plans etc... When they know we are going through ivf and struggling. They could spare the extra detail.

This is already their second mistake and they are quite intelligent people....

Life is truly a bitch.

Rant over.

[Corchi]

oh gosh the insensitivities of the rest of the world. People never think because they couldn’t possibly imagine what it’s like for those of us that have struggled so much… vent as much as you need, be sad and feel all your emotions. It’s healthy. And then try and focus on you and your journey. We are all here virtually for you! Sending big love and hugs and understanding your way ❤️

[Cica22 in reply to Corchi]

I agree, other people really can’t seem to put themselves in our shoes and understand how hard and painful infertility is. I find the only way to deal with insensitive comments is to try to block them out as best I can but it’s not easy. Sending you lots of hugs and support xx

[Blueberry211 in reply to Cica22]

i try my best, but it is so difficult

[Blueberry211 in reply to Corchi]

thank you

[Hidden]

Thats not fair is it when things like that happen?

Many years ago I worked at a call centre and the line manager there had cried as one of her friends was pregnant and she had just had a miscarriage.

The line manager did end up having a little boy though

[Blueberry211 in reply to Hidden]

it truly isn't. Thank

[MrsBless]

😢I know this feeling my younger sister she is pregnant of her second baby and she really doesn't wanted as her daughter has only turned 2, but this is the life. I want a baby so hardly that I been doing anything but looks like it is not for the ones who want it.

[Blueberry211 in reply to MrsBless]

hugs dear

[Mudra85]

Oh gosh Blueberry, this would really upset me too. Some people just cannot even grasp the concept of tact in these situations. It's often not that they mean harm, it's usually a complete lack of awareness . Clearly no one wants to hear this sort of thing when they're struggling. The detail about accidentally conceiving was totally unnecessary to share.

Big hugs to you ❤️

[Blueberry211 in reply to Mudra85]

yes, its the extra details that got to me. I know they dont mean harm but it hurts nonetheless. It completely broke

[Mudra85 in reply to Blueberry211]

Of course it hurts. I don't understand why people don't think before sharing unnecessary details like that. I've had a few things happen like this myself and even though I know the intention is not to harm, I almost find it harder knowing they just didn't stop to think. It's just really crappy when things like this happen.

[Blueberry211 in reply to Mudra85]

Im sure the intention was not to hurt us however they people do not try to think how this might affect us. I do believe that people who do not have these difficulties really do not realise the impact of their words . If people had more empathy, we would live in such a happiwr place

[Mudra85 in reply to Blueberry211]

I totally agree. I find a great deal of it is people simply just not thinking about what they're saying or doing combined with a lack of real empathy and compassion. I hope you're feeling a bit better about things today ♥️

[Blueberry211 in reply to Mudra85]

yes thank you!!