So yesterday I was officially 12 weeks and I had a miscarriage overnight. It was so quick I don't think calling my midwife/gp would have helped. Everything was going so well, I felt like my body was handling the pregnancy so well. Myself and my husband were on holidays camping when it happened, so it was doubly hard that we weren't at home but at least we were able to cuddle & comfort each other through the night without any distractions. We are both devastated, I have never seen my husband so upset. Came home early from holiday and very tearful in the car home but nice to be able to talk it out. Taking a break now for 3 months and just going to see what happens. I have called my midwife but could only leave a message, where else can we get advice about next options? We will be self funding on next round and there are so many options which are all very expensive and don't know what would work for us. I know I shouldn't be posting so soon but it's good to get it all out, we are trying to see the positives of getting this far xxxx
Heartbroken......: So yesterday I was... - Fertility Network UK
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So sorry to see this. Big hugs xx
Hugs. No words I say will make it better clxxxx
So very sorry. Take care ❤️X❤️
no words anyone can say will make it feel any better. From someone who's been through it several times, just wanted to say thinking of you. Take time to grieve. It is a process and you'll have good days and not so good days. Take comfort in each other and support from those around you. Virtual hugs xx
Oh my, I'm so so sorry xx
So sorry hun it's, heartbreaking. Be good to yourselves xx
So sorry to hear this, thinking of you xxx
Oh no I'm so sorry to hear your news, sending love and hugs xx
So terribly sorry, my thoughts are with you xxx
So sorry to hear of ur loss. Thinking of you. Xx
Absolutely awful news Lilli, dreadful. 😢I am extremely sad to read this and my heart goes out to you both. Thinking of you with love xx
So so sorry for your loss Lilli. Thinking of you xxxx
So sorry, take care xx
So sorry to hear this, sending you both huge hugs xx
Oh gosh I am so sorry to read this. Thinking of you at such a devastating time. xxx
There are no words but I'm so sorry for your loss x
lilli this is so upsetting, this is such a hard journey and it feels so unfair. Look after yourself and your oh x
I'm so sorry to read this! Big hugs!xx
Very sorry to hear this. Stay strong. Lots of love to both of you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm so sorry to read this xx
So sorry to read this. Sending you love. xx
Sorry to hear this big hugs xxx
I'm so so sorry to hear this Lilli. I had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks and it was devastating. My thoughts are with you at this hard time. Please try to get some counselling - you can usually access this through your GP. My heart goes out to you and your husband. Xxx
This is very sad news and I am so sorry for what you and your husband are going through. Xx
I am so so sorry to read this. It seems so unfair. Look after yourselves the both of you. xxx
So sorry you to hear tour heart breaking news. 😢 Hope you're ok xx
Oh no I'm so gutted for you both.
I don't think your posting to soon it's good to get support. I know there's nothing anyone can say but sometimes just sharing helps a little. Sounds like you have a really good attitude even though must be devastated.
I think a break is good to deal with things. You don't have to choose next step yet. Just concentrate on looking after each other for now x
Sorry to hear this. Look after self x
I'm so sorry to hear your news, you are doing amazing to just get up at the moment. I'm sending you my prayers and love 😘
Hold on, dear... It's hard and devastating... I share your pain. And your desire to go on and fight is admirable! And what's more wonderful, it's your relationships with your husband. I wish you both strength and mutual understanding.
Yes, there are many options in your fertility journey, but endeed it's your Dr's responsibility to assess your situation and help you choose the best one. I wish you to find it soon!
Hugs to you!
I'm so sorry for your loss xx
I'm so so sorry to read this. How tragic for you both. Have you heard back from the midwife as you really need a scan to check everything out. Sending you a huge virtual hug from one of many ladies on here who knows and understands your tragic pain xx
Hi baby2016 no not heard back from midwife yet, but calling gp today for an appointment. First pregnancy miscarriages seem to run in our families so we're taking some hope that this may never happen again. We will get back on our feet, I am sure. It's upsetting but we have each other. All the kind words & support on here is lovely xxx
So sorry 😞 Xxx
I'm so sorry to hear this. I'd definitely make sure you speak to your midwife as they'll probably need to examine you. As for posting on here, everyone copes in their own way and if talking/posting about it helps then post away. That's what this forum is for. Take care of yourself x
I'm so sorry to hear this 😔take care of yourself (and each other) x
Hugs... sorry won't help but the pain will get easier day by day x
Am so sorry to read this - share your pain too having gone through a very similar experience. Would echo what someone else said about going to get checked out though. Look after yourself xx
So so sorryto hear this 😢💔
Heartbreaking, thinking of you both xxx
I'm so sorry to hear this. Take some time to grieve and build your strength up again! Don't loose hope. Thinking of you both x
Hi, lily......... It's very sad to know about this incident. But all I can say that It's a part of life. send you lots of virtual hugs my dear...... Now I just want to say that ........ don't think that much about it. I know it's not an easy but you have to be very strong. Take some time before going to take another chance. Everything will be fine as the time passes. Wishing you a Luck...... Take Care sweetie!!!
So sorry. Seriously I don't have words. It's too harsh & difficult to accept when you were at 12 weeks. Take care of yourself honey there is nothing you could have to done to prevent it from happening. Hugs xx
I am so sorry to hear this xx it is devastating and such a journey, take time to work you mind out and what you want. Speak to your clinic and get an appointment to discuss options so at least you can think about it? Thinking of you take care xx
sorry to hear about your loss.
Oh I'm so sorry, take care and be easy on yourselves oxo
Oh lilli I'm so sorry.
In terms of next steps, any good fertility clinic should be able to give you some pointers x
So sorry to hear about your loss! 
I know the feeling... all I can say is you've got to look forward. Don't hold in - cry, shout, break a thing or two in house (I did break a vase) but just find a way to heal. It will never be completely gone though, just that you've got to prepare yourself to handle it like a bad memory. I had mine in February (8th week). I still cry sometimes at night thinking about it. Feels like a part of me has been burned down forever.
Men, they tend to hide and be strong to support us, but they are no less devastated with it. Imagine they have to cope with us going insane, plus their own despair over losing the baby. It will take time I know.. just make sure you make an effort to heal.
Hope this helps! Sending you lots of love and big hugs.
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How was your experience on first appointment with midwife ? 
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