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3rd miscarriage 💔 what questions should I be asking?

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hello,

so today we had another early scan as despite seeing a heartbeat last week the baby was measuring 10 days behind 💔 they confirmed this morning that things hadn’t progressed and now no heartbeat. I’m broken.

This is my third miscarriage (6 transfers) and I don’t know what to do next. Do they test the tissue of this miscarriage? If so, who/how do I get this?

What else can I be asking?

All pregnancies end around 6 weeks, they’re not really giving us answers.

I have low AMH but still get a decent amount of eggs. Husband morphology is 3% and we’re testing the oxidative stress.

I’m just so broken and lost. We’ve used our Nhs eligibility now so any further rounds will be private. Xx

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I am so so sorry Cat, devastated for you. Sending you lots of love.

Have you had any repeat MC tests? Once I had had my third they referred me for repeat MC blood tests (think there are about 7 things they test for) and I also got referred for an MRI of my uterus to check its shape etc. This was all under the NHS.

None of my MCs were sent off for testing - I assume that's a regional thing and some places do and don't.

Huge hugs xx

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Missl73

I’m so sorry this is heartbreaking 💔 I believe you should be offered testing as it’s your third anyway, but if you’re not I only had one MMC but is chose to have surgical management and I was allowed to pay privately to have the tissue tested I just had to ask and filled out a form pre-op (even though the op was done on NHS). I found it really helpful to know that my loss was due to Trisomy 16. I hope you manage to get some answers xx

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butterfliez

I am so so sorry for your loss , truly heartbreaking! Sending you strength at this awful time ♥️

Sorry I don’t have any advice to your questions but hope you can get some answers as to why this is happening

Take care xx

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Nenad

I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this 🤗

After my second miscarriage I demanded testing. There are lots of tests you can do but the thrombophilia screen is the one that gave me answers - I have high anti cardiolipin antibodies (aka APS) which is the leading cause of repeated miscarriages. Please look into this test and others, and demand some testing. I think you’ll likely find something, and what’s more important is that they’ll put you on a protocol to manage those issues with your next transfer. Thinking of you xxx

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Blueberry211

I am truly truly sorry you're going through this.

Please demand further tests (thrombophilia screen, clotting factors, NK cells, ANA, MRI pelvis). You need to find the cause of this in order to be able to understand, grieve and also plan further treatment if you wish to go ahead.

May I ask if the embryos were tested? Maybe you might benefit from PGT testing if its an option you wish to go into.

Were you given aspirin/ clexane? Some clinics give them when there are multiple losses.

Much love to you xxx

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HemBella

I'm so so sorry to read this. My heart goes out to you.

I would agree - push for further tests as people have said above. I have a friend who had multiple miscarriages and after loads of tests ended up having metformin and she subsequently had a successful pregnancy. xxx

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Gempuddleduck

I just wanted to send my love, I’m so so sorry xxxx

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Minniemouse88

Just sending my love and thoughts to you at this very difficult time. I hope things start to feel brighter in time xx

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Chel91

I'm so very sorry, it's so heartbreaking 😥 Sending you lots of love and strength! 💗

Once you are ready there is a bunch of testing you can do, immune / blood clotting panels, uterine biopsy, MRI, laproscopy, etc. Did you try any immune meds? You might benefit from the basic immune drugs, clexane + prednisone, also maybe metformin and hydroxychloroquine. There is a lot of options. Thinking of you xx

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Bella_Bee

All suggestions I had are already here. I discovered APS after 2 miscarriages. I am so sorry for yours. I know your pain. Hugs ❤️

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Twiglet2

I’m so so sorry 😢 sending you my love 💔 I hope the medical professionals are taking care of you and that you get some answers xx

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