I should have asked questions

Hi everyone,

Only me 2nd day on here so please bare with me as I get used to all the abbreviations.

I’m on my 1st icsi cycle - transferred on day 5 and started spotting on Saturday on and off but very light - however I feel like today AF has arrived... still not heavy but bright red and all normal symptoms of my usual period. I’m devastated and test day is on Friday.

Myself and my OH have been trying to conceive for 5 years - last year they thought I had endometriosis so I had an operation only to discover that I haven’t but they did find traces of adenomyosis. However when I was admitted to the clinic and they began their scans etc and produced my protocol I mentioned it and they said they do not have any concerns and placed me on a short protocol.

Reflecting, should I have pushed back? At year just before the surgery they detected hcg within me and said it was possibly a chemical pregnancy - there have been a few times where my period is almost 3 weeks overdue when usually I am like clock work (like today for example) so i think I may have a problem carrying?

If Friday isn’t successful (I’m still praying it is as I have read other women have bled and still gone on to gave their beautiful babies) what questions should I be asking? Any advice on any of the above would be super helpful - I feel compelled lost and as if I’m wondering in the dark.

Thank you sending you all love and light ❤️

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I’m really sorry I don’t have much advise for you but stay strong and always trust your gut they are doctors but you know your body better than anyone make sure they listen to you also if you bleed befor test day (I always did for my first 3 rounds) you may need extra progesterone.....Your not out of the game just yet you still have a few days befor test day 🤞Xxx

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You are right, I just feel so daunted by everything... but I do know my body and do feel I need extra progesterone so will push for that of unsuccessful on Friday... thank you for replying... I just feel I was so close... are you currently on a cycle? xx

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I was scared to stand up for my self when I first started I took everything the doctors told me at face value and never questioned anything even though I knew something wasn’t right but I did my research and trusted my gut and took control of my treatment I’m about to start my 8th round next month xxx

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I’ll ensure I do that if this one doesn’t work out.... sending you so much love light and baby dust! Faith changes things, it shall happen 🌈🙏🏽❤️

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Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I'm also new to this site and IVF and am also getting used to the terminology! I recently had my first round of IVF which was ICSI and it failed sadly. I've found the whole process extremely daunting and I now feel a bit battered and bruised.

I've learned so much along the way though and am currently compiling a list of questions I want to ask in my debrief to help me consider my options. I was so overwhelmed by all the jargon, the medication and the tests, I wish I'd been more assertive and more informed. You kinda put all your trust in the doctors but you also definitely know your body best.

Like you, they also picked up on signs of adenmyosis in my initial scans which they brushed off as unimportant but said it could increase chances of miscarriage. I'd never heard of the condition before but then but I want to do more research into it. I'm happy to share with you anything I find useful. I've also seen in other posts that the site administrator has a list of handy follow-up questions they can share if you contact them via email..

Wishing you all the best for Friday. Take care, good luck and hopefully you won't need to ask questions as you'll have a positive result xx

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Thank you so much for your response.

This is also my first round of ICSI and like you felt all those emotions. There was almost a sense of finally this process has started and I just trusted everything and didn’t question much.... it’s a learning curb and I think moving forward we will both push back with questions.

Are you planning to have another round?

Yes please, if you do find any information please do share with me - it’s ever so kind of you.

Sending you warm hugs, love and faith - remember faith can move mountains 🏔 🌈🤗 xx

[gottahavefaith in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. Same to you. I’m hoping to have another round. But the more I think about it the more I think that firstly I should get specialist advice on whether the adenomyosis is reducing my chances of implantation and whether anything can be done about it. Wishing you all the best for tomorrow xx

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you are still in with a chance so keep optimistic

However just to add some context - I always get full AF before test day on failed cycles, when I asked my consultant about it he said it wasn’t something that could be fixed with more progesterone but instead other hormones in my body were dropping as it knew it wasn’t pregnant

There is often a belief more progesterone will prevent cycle failure and miscarriage and that’s not always the case

Is this your first round? I would ask your consultant to go through all the stages and say what was good bad etc and what he would change. First round is so trial and error and they learn loads about you from that round

Crossing everything you are still in though xx

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Thank you for your advice and guidance, this is my first round and I will be sure to ask my consultant the relevant questions as you have suggested.

How is your journey going? Xx