Long time to get pregnant after miscarriage

[AdviceforJane]

I had two early miscarriages after natural conceptions in 2021 - May & September. The Sept one was a year ago today.

I saw a lot of consultants after the second one and they all said don't worry, you will get pregnant again naturally soon. The consultant in the EPU after my second miscarriage said don't lose faith, in a year from now you will very likely have a baby or be pregnant. The miscarriage consultant I saw last November said 2022 is going to be your year.

After nine months I hadn't got pregnant naturally and moved to IVF. And I've since had two failed transfers, one fresh, one frozen PGT-A tested. Third transfer scheduled this Friday.

I am still really baffled about why I did not get pregnant naturally quickly after the second miscarriage. The stats are that 70-80% get pregnant within 6 months of miscarriage.

I feel like most of the experts keep saying this is all bad luck, keep trying, you will get there in the end. But that doesn't feel very convincing and all their predictions have been completely wrong! I feel like there is probably a linked reason behind the miscarriages, failure to get pregnant after, failed transfers.

Did anyone else struggle to conceive naturally after a miscarriage?

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

No easy answer for you but would like to wish you good luck with your transfer on Friday

Take care of yourself

Janet

[Mary2022]

I had a miscarriage last year when I was 39years old. It took us 5 months to got pregnant naturally, but sadly miscarriage at the week 9. I had some investigation on both me and my husband and could not find any issue with us, the only one reason in my case was the chromosomes abnormal. We did try another 3- 4 months trying to conceive naturally but no lucks on it. Since both of us reach 40 years old, don't want to lose time anymore, therefore we try ICSI + PGT-A treatment.

A friend of mine, she had a termination pregnancy due to her baby was a downs baby at her 37 years old. After that, it took her another 2.5 years time to get pregnant again and recently have a live birth baby. My sister in law, early 30 years old had a miscarriage last year and then recently pregnant again, it took her less than half year to get pregnant naturally .

All I want to say is, the older you are, the longer time it may take you to get pregnant naturally, and there is no guarantee to get pregnant easily right after a miscarriage. Also it depends on whether you can afford to wait for getting pregnant naturally.

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I am sorry for all you have gone through. I am afraid I was like you. I had a natural MC (blighted ovum) and was told not to worry and I was super fertile and would get pregnant naturally very quickly again.. nothing happened month in month out and I ended up having IVF and that first round failed. I did get pregnant the second IVF cycle but sadly had a MMC, was told I was super fertile and would be pregnant again in no time.. and I wasn't. No one could ever give me a reason apart from 'bad luck' which was insanely frustrating, and I got so jealous of the people who fell pregnant again super quickly. I guess I just wanted to say you aren't the only one but sadly no one could tell me why

I am years later and I have had more IVFs, some failed rounds, some IVF and some natural BFPs but sadly more MCs but by that time my old eggs were blamed xx

[AJKP]

I had a mc at 9 weeks, this was 2 years ago. I've struggled to fall pregnant since. No one can answer me why we're not getting pregnant. Im having tests to check for any blockages in my fallopian tubes, possibly caused by the mc.

[CassieJ]

Hello, sorry for what you are going through-it’s very hard after loss and also when you’re not convinced by what doctors are saying.

It’s a really challenging situation as it could be that no reason will ever be found but it is also possible that some checks will help.

I assume you’ve had your thyroid/standard miscarriage tests as part of your ivf process? I also assume that your cavity has been checked. Are your periods back to how they were prior to your last loss? If yes to normal periods and they have monitored you to know a) you’re ovulating and b) your lining is thick enough and c) your luteal phase is long enough/progesterone check after ovulation -then the only other check you could do is immune testing.

As I’m sure you know standard recurrent testing is normally only done after 3 consecutive miscarriages -but there is some data which suggests that it’s clinically as useful (in only 50% of cases) after 2 or 3 losses - and most of these are easy blood tests so if you’re paying for ivf and haven’t done could be worth doing these before immune tests. Immune tests did help us though so I’m pro them in particular circumstances too.

Only other advice I have is it could be worth looking at mild stims/ovulation induction rather than full ivf-that’s actually what has got me and a few friends with recurrent miscarriage pregnant. I was very pro doing ivf with PGTA but we didn’t have much luck and the induction worked first time (currently 35 weeks) so could be worth considering before more ivf if you don’t get lucky this round.

Tons of luckXx