Struggling today

[Elegantly_Jaded]

Feeling so lonely and lost. I don't know how much more of this I can take, and my relationship is crumbling. So much of all this is for him and he just doesn't understand. If one more person tells me to try and enjoy the journey I'll scream.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Elegantly_Jaded. Ouch! I would never say that! However, have you had any counselling? If not, there is a charity called the "British Infertility Counselling Association" who deal with all aspects of fertility. treatment and relationships while going through it all. They do charge as they get little or no funding. Access online at bica.net and see what you think. Perhaps treat yourself to something nice and enjoy it. Love and hugs. Diane

[Elegantly_Jaded in reply to DianeArnold]

Thanks for your well wishes Diane. I'm sorry if I said something wrong. Thank you so much for the counselling advice, much appreciated. I'm sorry if I caused any problems

[Skittles11 in reply to Elegantly_Jaded]

You didn't say anything wrong...I think what Diane meant is she would never say to someone "try and enjoy the journey" like people have been saying to you.

Its incredibly difficult to be in this position and can test even the strongest relationships IMO.

Xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to Elegantly_Jaded]

Hi. No need to ever say sorry to me, so if you feel I can help you at all anytime, then please do get in touch. Hope you have a good weekend. I am away next week,stayling at home to enjoy a good rest! Diane xx

[Redsequin]

So sorry lovely that you're struggling and that people are saying unhelpful things. I had a well-meaning friend tell me I should be trying to enjoy the journey and it felt like having salt rubbed into a wound. So painful! I had to explain to her why that wasn't a great thing to say because it made me feel guilty for feeling low on top of feeling low. Diane's suggestion of counselling is a good one: maybe even couples counselling if your partner would agree to it? Hugs xxxx

[ruth1988]

Sorry you're feeling this way. I can totally empathise. I've told a few of my friends what I'm going through, they replied to the initial message and I haven't heard from them since. I know people struggle with what to say, but I feel like people can't be bothered and it really doesn't help. It's such a lonely journey.Hope you're feeling a bit better today x