MVA / holiday question 😵‍💫

[Solly-44]

Sorry if this isn’t the place to post… the miscarriage board seems quite inactive…

I had an MVA on Wednesday and was told to expect bleeding that could get heavy, and cramps afterwards. I’ve been really lucky - minimal bleeding and hardly any pain yesterday. Today no bleeding so far but the cramps are really getting strong.

Just wondered how long they last if anyone knows? I’m due to go on my first holiday in almost 6 years on the weekend. Always put off because what it we were starting a cycle or whatever at that time?? and not hey presto now we’re finally off, I’m mid (well post I guess) miscarriage! 🤦‍♀️

Am I an idiot to go or an idiot not to? I really can’t make a decision at the moment. I don’t know it I can swim and I didn’t think to ask. It’ll be relaxing, we’ve hired a villa in the middle of nowhere with a few close friends and my little one. But not sure if I’ll just want to be lying in bed crying into a biscuit tin 🫤 someone tell me what to do please! Xxx

[Littlepeax]

Aww Solly ❤️💫 I think it would be really good for you to get away if safe to do so. Sun, fresh air and different scenery will do you good. Don't be on your own and surround yourself with loving supportive loved ones. Be careful of the pool in case of infection. Maybe speak to your gp about that if you can. But yes if you're up to it go and enjoy yourself, you deserve the break more than ever xxx

[Hidden]

I would 100% go, it feels like the last thing in the world you want to do right now but I think it would do you the world of good. You need to get away from TTC, from home, from everything and try and kick start a reset. I went away straight after one of my MCs and I very nearly cancelled and I am so glad I didn't. The first few days were hard, felt like my OH was just enjoying the holiday and not acknowledging what had happened, cried a lot, had a few rants at him and then gradually I started to relax and stop thinking about everything and it was just the escape I needed and I came back a very different person. Enjoy it, you deserve it xx

[Redsequin]

Omg, Solly, GO GO GO! Of course, you'll still feel sadness and be processing emotions and maybe experiencing unpleasant physical stuff while you're away but you can lie by the pool, talk with your friends, and eat and drink anything you like without worrying about it. Even if you can't swim, you can sit by the edge of the pool and dip your feet while having a glass of wine, which could be pretty heavenly. I also always find being somewhere new, even if I arrive feeling very anxious and sad, does something to kind of reset me.

Lots of love xxxxx

[Purpledoggy]

Holiday sounds like just what you need, just make sure your travel insurance will cover you in case of any complications - if you bought it before anything went wrong then I think they should cover you but it would be better to check with them. So sorry you are going through this - I hope it is over as quickly as possible xx

[Sweethear]

You should go and while you are there just listen to your body and try to enjoy yourself and have fun because what has happened has already happened and there is nothing you or anyone else can do to change it but you can choose to try and put it behind you and enjoy because your body and soul need it and your family too I am so sorry for the pain I know the pain I had a miscarriage did D&C 23rd went on Holiday few days later and I went swimming on the sea and pool drinking eating just relaxing and I used tampons I was not bleeding heavily for 10days

[LittleT123]

Go on holiday, keep living your life xxx it’s tough but you will most likely enjoy it once you’re there and it gives you a break from home life and TTC xxx sorry for your loss xxx