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Probably a really silly question. But I’m not going back to try our next fet until sep/oct. I’m having a glass of wine with the hubby and I’m like omg I shouldn’t drink this 🤦‍♀️

Does anyone else feel bad I literally cannot spend the next 3 months not eating donuts and having no wine 🤦‍♀️ When should I stop?

😂😂😂 just re read the message it sounds like I’m a wee alki 🤦‍♀️

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Cinderella5

In my opinion...we give up so much for treatment that you have got to give yourself a break! It's up to you personally, it's not like you are getting smashed every night. The night before our last transfer I had a lovely meal out, two glasses of wine and we had success. Enjoy it whilst you can, IVF is shitty enough!xxx

I am hoping to start my prep month with my period in about 7 days and I’ve had a few drinks this evening. I’ve never done an FET before - only fresh rounds - but I feel like with FET most of the work is done and actually mental health is as important as being virtuous!! I would focus on being calm and enjoying life as much as you can now - plenty of sleepless teetotal nights to come when you are a Mum! Good luck xx

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Riri88

Hey hun, obviously it is every one’s own decision and I am not pro drinking much alcohol but I did not stop drinking alcohol until 5 days before my transfer with the FET. You are not producing eggs any more and as others said: try to enjoy life as well! I really don’t think having a few glasses of wine in a weekend is doing that much. Maybe if you get pissed every night it is different 🤣 but that would be generally unhealthy. Yet a glad of wine here and there especially with a lovely enjoyable meal in my opinion is definitely Oke, as long as you feel good about it. With still months to go till your next FET I would say enjoy the summer! This journey is long and stressful enough! Don’t forget to live life.

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ClaireB24

Firstly, lol at wee alki 😂😂😂Secondly I feel your pain!!! I’ve done rounds where I’ve really stressed about drinking and stopped completely and it’s made no difference. But like you I love a wee glass of wine with my husband so I’ve been more chilled this time round. I honestly don’t think it makes any difference unless you’re getting hammered.

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Twiglet2

Your embryo is made! You’ve done the hard part. The best thing you can do for the next few months is treat yourself and be happy 🤗 the FET that worked for me was during lockdown and I didn’t know when the clinic was going to open up again so we were having cocktails in the garden regularly and even went to the pub for a wee (large) tipple 2 weeks before the transfer (even had a wee tequila) as the pub hadn’t been open for months lol (now I’m sounding like a wee alky- but it was lockdown right? 🤣) my BMI was also the highest it had been but I was doing a lot more walking than usual to get out the house. anyway in my experience that’s the one that worked versus other attempts where I was t-total strict on diet and (sometimes) pretty miserable leading up to it xx

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Jenniwenni

My clinic said stop alcohol when you start drugs… 🥂I’m with Cinderella (and probably what the others have said too but I haven’t read them)…we give up so much and it’s very hard. I think being a bit more relaxed as opposed to intense/controlling could help…it’s all so hard. You deserve a few treats. 🥂🍩

It really doesn’t sound like you’ve got any kind of problem. September is 3 months away, the alcohol would be way more an issue for your partner than it would be for you. As sperm takes 3 months to make it. But an egg only a month in a cycle. I don’t believe alcohol is a main fertility offender - I think caffeine is much worse. Anyway. The odd glass of wine here or there is not going to make any difference, and if you wanted to be extra cautious just avoid from august.

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Westcoastwestie

My doctor sent me home from a cancelled cycle (I was really quite unwell that day) with the instructions to have a bath and a glass of wine. That was November and they were planning to see me again in January.

She also told me to enjoy the Christmas break. I think your ok to have a drink here and there without the guilt.

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KatRee84

I definitely think you can enjoy a drink or two over the next few months. As others have said, the embryos are already made and that’s the bit where lifestyle will have the biggest impact (although even then, the evidence is limited- and I think there’s much more evidence of alcohol consumption affecting sperm rather than egg production?)I had my last (fresh) transfer after 2 previous failed cycles the day after my birthday. On the evening of my birthday I went to one of those places where they have wine in vending machines and while I drank less than I would normally have done, I still got nicely tipsy. That was the transfer that worked

My doctor didn’t see any issue with having the odd drink and actually advised red wine can be good because of the anti-oxidants

Wish you a successful FET, and until then, enjoy yourself

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Mai94

I stopped drinking multiple times during our journey and whilst I know it will have been great health wise I don’t think it had an impact on our success. Our final and successful transfer was 1 week after my husbands 30th where it’s fair to say I let my hair down! I’m now pumping between feeds get enough milk to take my twins out for the day 😆 most successful transfer we had! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself enjoy the glass of wine!

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