Another IVF cycle delayed - can anyone advice?

[zytajones]

My last IVF cycle has been cancelled just before egg collection as I got Covid. Clinic said we can start over as soon as I will get my AF. AF came but was very light, nothing like my usual one, and lasted just 3 days. I should start sniffing on day 21 of my cycle but I started to spot from day 15 and when I had a smear test nurse said it's unusual amount of blood there. I reported that to clinic and now they are saying that it would be better to cancel this cycle and wait until my body will return to normal.

Has anyone experienced similar issue? Of course I want the best possible results buy I got so upset. I can't start do this last cycle since August 2021. It is so frustrating and I will turn 39 any minute now and I know few months shouldn't make a difference but they do make a difference in my head

[Hidden]

So sorry to read this, it must be so frustrating.

Easy for me to say but I would wait. 39 is still young in IVF years (I am still going at 44!) and I know a few months might make all the difference but equally if you 'waste' this round by going ahead but not being in optimum position you will then need to wait a few months to go again and so you will have wasted double the time if you see what I mean (let alone costs etc).

Maybe use this extra delay as a little bonus period to get yourself physically and mentally in the best shape possible (once you are free of covid symptoms) so you cruise into this one knowing it will be THE ONE!

Good luck xx

[zytajones in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Daisy for reply and advice. It's like a constant fight in my head - one side does think exactly what you wrote about and the other side is just sooooo tired of this waiting and that I can't move on with other things as they do depend on the outcome of IVF. To be fair I was always following clinic's advice so it would be stupid of me not to follow it this time, I just find it difficult to sort it out in my head.

[Hidden in reply to zytajones]

I totally get it, I have to wait until August this year before I can even think about my next transfer and it’s driving me NUTS c

[zytajones in reply to Hidden]

I follow your journey and it's cruel as hell! I hope you will be able to do the transfer soon, and not to wait for another surgery. Do you plan/do other things in your life regardless of IVF or you are hanging there, like me?

[Hidden in reply to zytajones]

We keep thinking about doing stuff (change jobs/book holiday etc) but then we always come back to 'what about the baby stuff'. My OH literally said this morning, why don't we book a holiday for September so we have something to look forward to.. and my immediate answer was 'we can't might be doing IVF' arrrghhhh its maddening. Huge hugs xx

[zytajones in reply to Hidden]

Awww, I feel you! We booked plenty of holidays this year as I thought we will be over with IVF or just do it around holidays, but of course, this proved wrong, and it does look like I have to cancel my Easter holidays. But that's less annoying then me not changing job for the last 3 years as I should be pregnant in a next round. It's insane! And I really would like to change my job right now but I just know that I had to stick for another few months (I need to find a strength to do it ;))I hope your recovery is going well! Huge hugs x

[Redsequin]

Oh no! This must be so so so frustrating for you. I agree with Daisy though. I think it’s always better to wait if recommended than to push through and then maybe regret if you don’t get great results. At least with waiting you’ll know you were patient and gave it your best! Xx

[zytajones in reply to Redsequin]

Thank you Redsequin. I think I'm reaching the point where I would like to just close this "chapter" of my life, and move on, whatever the outcome. I need to change this attitude though!

[Redsequin in reply to zytajones]

I can totally understand you feeling that way. I'm only on my second cycle and already feel a bit over it lol. I'm trying to push past these feelings and think long-term and perservere, but it is hard!

[zytajones in reply to Redsequin]

Yes, no one can tell us that we are inpatient, right? IVF is really testing it....