Partner drinking prior to egg collection

[Booda21]

Hi all!

So I have had my date through for my egg collection and it falls 4 days after one of my best friends weddings. Obviously I will have to just pretend to be drinking or come up with some excuse. And I have told my partner he can’t drink either but would he be able to have a couple? Or is it really just a no? He is quite happy to accept he can’t drink. And I have told him as of now he is pretty much tee Total for the next 7 weeks.

Also does anyone have any tips on pretending to drink 😆? I’m honestly one of the last people anyone would expect to not be drinking haha and it’s giving me anxiety. The bride and another friend know my situation but they’re the only 2 who I’m really close to at the wedding

Thanks in advance ☺️

[CJohns]

Personally I wouldn’t have my partner drinking anything, as I saw just how much alcohol affected his sperm quality, and wouldn’t want to risk it. From your side, I had a friend at a wedding who later revealed she was pregnant and covered it up a beauty. She had ‘gin’ and lemonades, so kept to clear liquids and I’m presuming just went to the bar when the rest of us had already been. I actually commented on how hungover she looked the next morning (but it was actually morning sickness).

It might be harder for your partner, but could it be worth him saying he’s on antibiotics for an ear infection or something? Xx

[Booda21 in reply to CJohns]

Sorry I hadn’t logged on until today! Yeah that’s what we were thinking. I was going to ask the clinic but my cycle has been cancelled now due to my endometrioma growing so I don’t have to come up with a story. Thanks for replying 🤗 xxx

[Littlepeax]

This happened to me shortly before egg collection! I was maid of honour 🙈 and no one knows about us doing IVF lol the good news is so much is going on in the day, no one didn't really notice I wasn't drinking! I had one red wine with dinner though for the toast etc. I also has a very bad cold so just put my no drinking down to that. You could say you are on antibiotics? Or just pretend to sip a glass of wine 🤣 try and have a lovely time though xxx

[Booda21 in reply to Littlepeax]

Oh no! I’m sure you had a great time. And hopefully it was worth it! Thanks for replying, my cycle has been cancelled because my endometrioma has grown 😑 xxx

[XOXO13]

Before my egg collections, I asked my husband also not to drink because I knew how much alcohol can impact sperm (or at least when he cut it out, his results seemed better!)

I remember being at a friends birthday and she carried a wine around with her but mingled so much that I never noticed she wasn’t drinking it … she was pregnant! Maybe accept a fizz, but don’t drink it… conveniently go to the bathroom to pour a little down the sink 😂 no one will notice though, everyone will be so caught up in the day!

The other thing you can do is just ask for a G&T without the gin (so include the garnish too) when you’re at the bar. May need to be sneaky of course but again, I don’t think others will notice! I actually drink that during my pregnancy - so refreshing and the flavour is in the tonic anyway ☺️

Have lots of fun at the wedding and best of luck for your egg collection xx

[Booda21 in reply to XOXO13]

Thanks for replying! Oh I can’t wait for the wedding it’s going to be amazing sober or not. Yeah that’s what I thought, just nurse it haha. My cycle has been cancelled now though after getting scanned my endometrioma has grown so they’re thinking I might have to have it removed xxx

[Hidden]

My husband and I had the perfect cover story for not drinking. We were taking part in dry January. I had a friend who went through the same thing (didn’t realise until afterwards when they announced the pregnancy and I told her about our struggles) When they came out with us last year for a meal she was drinking tonic with a slice of lemon and no one knew. Her partner said he had a blood test coming up and couldn’t drink for a few days beforehand. No one questioned it or gave it a second thought.

[Booda21 in reply to Hidden]

Yeah I think with the guys no one is going to suspect a pregnancy are they! Haha. So it’s probably actually easier for their cover story. Thanks for the tips! My cycle is cancelled due to my endometrioma growing so I at least don’t have to come up with a cover story right now xx

[Purple276]

Hey,

It's so hard isn't it when people expect you to have a drink and get suspicious if you don't! They have some good non-alcoholic cider and beers now plus Seedlip is a non alcoholic gin so you can asks for one of those and tonic and like other ladies say have a glass in your hand and people won't notice you are not drinking from it. Only means you have to buy your own drinks!

In relation to your OH mine wasn't drinking for a month but had one beer 10 days before he had to give his sample and we've had all 4 eggs fertilised this morning so while yes better to not drink for the 3 months before one or 2 isn't going to undo all the hard work if it days a bit of stress.

Good luck for the egg collection and everything crossed for you xx

[Booda21 in reply to Purple276]

Oh wow congratulations! Hope one of these little embies result in a bfp for you. Yeah it’s a tricky one to weigh up, I thought I would sneak in some nosecco and no one would be any the wiser. My cycle is cancelled due to my endometrioma growing though. Good luck with your next steps 🌸 xxx

[Purple276 in reply to Booda21]

Oh I'm sorry to hear your cycle was cancelled, that's so frustrating. Hope you get some answers and options for next steps but good lord does the waiting through this process drive you mad! Take care xx

[LizzieBW]

Hi Booda,

Maybe a little controversial here as everyone else so far has said no/very little booze but my Husband just drank as normal through treatment and we discussed it/agreed he would behave as normal with social events to keep some kind of normality and enjoyment, as least for 1 of us through a 6 year gruelling journey! We did not have any MFI though, the infertility was all down to my conditions so we were confident with sperm quality throughout and alcohol or no alcohol, in our case had absolutely no impact on our outcome.

Defo do what feels most comfortable for you both as this process is hard enough ❤ xx

[Booda21 in reply to LizzieBW]

Yeah it’s such a tricky sitch isn’t it! And I totally agree it’s so hard anyway. My partner does suffer from reduced morphology, should be 4 and it’s 1.5 so I think that can have an impact. Although we are having icsi and trying zymot this time too. But our cycle has been cancelled due to my endometrioma growing. Hopefully get more answers next week. Just constant waiting isn’t it! Xxx

[Ivfgotadream]

Honestly I became a bit of a control freak about husband and alcohol over 5 cycles of IVF…..he had morphology around 1-2%…….the cycle our twins were “made” was a week after new year after he had been drinking a lot over Xmas and new year for several weeks before hand - we both did actually and ate loads of crap! ….his morphology that time was 6%! So what I’m trying to say is don’t fret about the odd drink here or there