Are my chances gone?

[emcollier126]

Hi everyone,

I’ve had a few positive tests over the past few days and I started to get excited.

I got some brown light spotting yesterday, thought okay fine whatever it might be normal. Then I started to get cramps and got a bit worried.

This morning the cramps were so horrendous and my blood flow seemed a lot heavier (not as heavy as my normal period). Fast forward a few hours, I went for a wee and passed a small clot. TMI time - it was like a pinkish / light red and slightly shiny. Cramps were still bad at this point.

About an hour later went for another wee and the blood seems to have seriously slowed down, it’s gone really light again, cramps have almost completely disappeared and I don’t feel nearly as awful as I did earlier.

I don’t know what to do. Is there still hope or has my chance gone this month? It’s the first positive I’ve had in the year we’ve been really trying and I’d be devastated if my own body has messed that up.

Has anyone else experienced this? Please be kind as I’m feeling a little worse for wear today x

[RubyVet]

I haven’t experienced this myself but I wanted to say that I’m sending you love ❤️ try to rest up and look after yourself and I guess the only thing you can do is is test again in a few days. Finger crossed for you xxx

[Catwind]

Go to the hospital or your doc to confirm. That’s what I did. Really hope it’s just implantation bleeding.

[Jana483]

I did spot from the pessary and they upped my progesterone but I didn't bleed like you did.Call your clinic and see what they recommend, hope it's nothing serious and that baby is fine

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi emcollier. So sorry to hear this, but it can happen and then settle right back down again. Keep up with any prescribed medication and drink plenty of water, in case you are developing an infection. If it settles and you have tested on the correct day, then check with your clinic who might have you back to do a Beta hCG blood test. Good luck! Diane

[emcollier126]

Hi everyone thanks for your replies. Unfortunately spent most of today in hospital with seriously heavy bleeding. It’s been confirmed that unfortunately this one wasn’t successful and what I feared most has come true. Feeling totally deflated and defeated. I’m going to take the next few days for self care and find a way to pick myself back up. Any tips greatly appreciated. Thanks for all you replies, hopefully one day it’ll happen, for now it’s time to rest and try not to overthink x

[emcollier126 in reply to emcollier126]

Lost an awful lot of blood, so think it will take a while before we can try again. Thanks all x

[Catwind in reply to emcollier126]

I’m so sorry to hear that. I’m also currently bleeding and pretty sure this is a miscarriage as my earlier beta numbers didn’t double in 48 hrs and all my symptoms vanished. It’s been a nightmare week since Monday and now I just want it to be over. In terms of tips my first thought was now I’m not pregnant I can eat sushi. Essentially I’m just trying to remember a time when I was happy and having kids wasn’t on my radar. I am not saying give up, but basically try to remember who YOU are as a person. We lose ourselves in this journey.

[emcollier126 in reply to Catwind]

Thank you for your response and I’m sorry you are going through the same. What’s been the hardest has been seeing the positive tests still sitting on my bathroom cabinet. I’ve had to ask the other half to put them out of sight for now as I just feel lost. I feel like a failure and just broken. Todays been rough. Thank you for your tips and I hope you’re okay. Sending hugs x

[Hidden]

Hi Em, I am so sorry to hear this. Same thing happened to us at New year. Ended up in hospital too. It’s just cruel sometimes. Take care of yourselves and allow yourselves time to grieve. The sadness still catches me off guard sometimes and that’s ok. I am lucky to have a supportive friend who has been through similar so I found it helpful to talk to her. When you feel up to it, some iron rich foods like leafy greens are a good idea but I will admit to having a few very large pizzas too when neither of us felt like cooking. Kept going with a boots multivitamin containing iron too. Took about a week of feeling physically exhausted but gradually things improve. Sending the biggest hug possible. X

[emcollier126 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your reply. I’m sorry you went through this also. Today has been really rough. I struggle a bit with my mental health and I was just getting it under control but this seems to have caused some more issues. My other half has been and bought some iron vitamins for me, I will take those. Appetite is non existent st the minute but I’m trying to eat as I know it’ll only make me feel worse if I don’t. Thank you and I’m sorry you went through it as well but thank you for the advice x

[Hidden]

That’s totally understandable, is there a counselling service available to you? Just take your time with everything & know that everyone here is thinking of you. x