My 10.3 weeks scan today has confirmed that my baby doesnt have a heartbeat and stopped developing at 9w5d...
I feel so lost and empty...
Dreading what yet to come as the baby is still snuggled up inside, havent had any pain or blood at all...
Sorry I wrote this here but I havent really told anybody about the baby as i wanted to wait until 12weeks so I dont really have anybody to talk to... 😪
Hi lovely. You don't have to apologise for sharing on the forum; we are here for you whenever you need to express yourself.
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this pain. I really just wish I could reach through the screen and give you the biggest hug. I hope you are able to take the time to rest and grieve and just look after yourself.
Sending lots of love, Jessica xxxxxxxx
Hi Jessica,Thank you very much for the lovely message!
I will take one day at the time and deal with each day as it comes...
And I hope, soon things get easier... xx
I’m so sorry lovely. I remember following your journey and I was so happy you had a BFP. This is devastating. Please please take all the time you need to grieve and speak with a therapist if you have access to one. This is too hard when you can’t talk to your friends and family about it so you need some professional support if you can get it. We’re all here for you. You can always pm me if you need to talk about anything. I’m so sorry love 😢 xx
Thank you Mahriya, it really means a lot to me... I hope your journey is going well, thank you for thinking of me... xx
I’m so sorry for your loss lovely. We experienced a MMC at a similar stage so understand that feeling to some degree. Such a strange shocking feeling when you know the heartbeat has sadly stopped but your body is oblivious to this. I’m sorry that you don’t have anybody you feel you can talk to about it, but please never apologise for posting on here as so many people on here unfortunately understand some of the pain you are going through and there are always lots of lovely people keen to support - I know it has been a god send for me! So reach out whenever you need! Sending love and hugs 💞 xx
Thank you! Yes, I have no idea how I would have coped with a lots of things without you lovely ladies... And I am ever so grateful for that... ❤
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Thoughts are with you xx
Thank you... x
I'm so sorry, my ivf cycle went a similar way after trying for 3 years we got our bfp and had a mmc at 11 weeks. It was devastating. Although you're going through he'll now don't lose hope. I eventually got my bfp after 8 years and had my little girl when I was 39. Sending you love. You're not alone x
Thank you very much! Congratulation on your little girl! X
Oh lovely, I’m so so sorry, my heart has just broken for you. Sending you the biggest hug and strength to face the coming days. Know I am thinking of you xx💕
Thank you, it means a lot... and yes I really need some strengh to face the next few weeks... Being in this group really helps, not too sure how would I cope without all of you lovely ladies... ❤
I am so sorry. Don’t apologise, we ate here to support you, you are not alone. So many of us experienced a loss and it’s devastating. Sending you a big hug at this difficult time x
Thank you... I couldnt do without the support from all of you... ❤
My heart breaks for you. Don't apologise! This is what this platform is for, we are all here for you! ❤
I wish I could give you a big hug! Thinking of you xxx
Thank you... 😘
Sorry to hear of what you're going through.. hugs
Thank you... 😘
I am so sorry to hear this. I have just been through similar. Slow heartbeat and measuring behind at 7w3d and then the follow up scan at 8w5d showed heart had stopped. I too had not had any bleeding but once I stopped my luteal support I started to bleed at 9w. I hope you don’t have to wait too long.Life can be so cruel to give with one hand and take away with another. There are no words to comfort you but please know we are all here for you. Be kind to yourself and do let yourself grieve xxx
Thank you, I am really sorry for your loss...Whenever I read a story here when somebody miscarried I always thought of them as the strongest people I have ever known and I never undertood how people can live after that... 🤔 I always admired the strengh of everybody who has been through this...
They say you dont know how strong you are until being strong is the only option... 😪
Exactly that. You will get through this but you have to go through the bad stuff to get there. This will always be a part of you and you will never forget but things will get easier…sending you so much love right now x
Thank you... I definately need that... ❤
I am so sorry that you are going through this… it is heartbreaking.. and the wait for it to pass is awful too. We experienced the same at 11.5 week years ago and I still feel it today. Take care of yourself and speak with someone. Don’t try to deal with this grief on your own. Big big hugs💕
Thank you very much! Its probably the most difficult and sadest thing I have ever experienced and the second worst part is just coming... 😪
Oh I’m so sorry. I know what you’re going through, or will be. I sadly had an MC at 12+1. It’s heartbreaking. Have they given you an option to have it removed? If so, I would take that option. If they haven’t told you a plan then I’d contact them and ask them to talk you through it. I felt very left out in the cold by the nhs when I went through mine and I’d have liked a lot more support. Don’t be afraid to ask questions or for anything you need while you can. I’m so sorry. I understand how emotionally painful this is. All I can say is after a period of grieving it will pass.
MagicTourmaline😢 I’m really sorry for you. Well I didn’t know I was going to miscarry - I was due my scan the next day and sadly it started with pink blood and I went to the EPU - they confirmed no baby there, sent me home with no good pain medication - I had no idea how bad it was going to be. Apart from the crime scene it looked like I was in immense pain - so much in the end we called an ambulance and I went back in… by that time though it had all passed. They were able to confirm it complete which actually was a huge relief to me rather than waiting a week (which is what I was told) to go in and for them to check. A friend of mine had a second MC removed because it was too painful the first time. Although she hasn’t tried since. Even if you pass it naturally you might need a d&c so if I had the option and it happened to me again I’d definitely have it removed. As I was already miscarrying I don’t think they could but I thought their handling of it was pretty awful and should have given me better pain medication.
Bless you... 😔 It sounds really horrible and scary... Sorry you had to go through that...I dont know what they will offer me tomorrow... Just reqlly scared... 😪
Honestly I think if they sort it for you it will be a lot better. I’m sorry for you too, it’s the most devastating thing. I just hope they’re kind to you tomorrow and talk you through it. If I’d been seen by the gynaecologist- she was lovely that would have been better. I just think I was in the EPU which was fully unequipped to deal with it. ❤️
So so sorry to hear this hon, sending you love and strength xx
Thank you, I will need that... 😘
Hello, I am so very sorry to hear what you are going through. This is heartbreaking. I really hope you are able to reach out to someone you are close to as you will need some support. But in the meantime I’m sure the ladies on her will try to support you the best way they can. Thinking of you today x
Thank you... 😘
Hi, I am so sorry for your loss. I had the same with my first pregnancy at 9+5 and we hadn't told anyone about our pregnancy as we were waiting for 12 weeks. I went into my doctor for a routine scan totally oblivious (felt good, no bleeding at all) and had never heard of the term missed misscarriage before - to say I was shocked was an understatement. It is so hard. It's ok and I'd say totally normal to feel lost and empty - I know I did. I had a D&C then and sadly twice since and the procedure is strightforward, there is nothing to fear. It's much harder emotionally but give yourself time, don't expect too much of yourself and slowly you will begin to feel more normal again. The loss will always be there and the sadness that goes with it but miscarriage is very common at any age and you'd be surprised how many people you probably know who have gone through it but have never talked about it. I really feel for you, take care.
Thank you very much for your reply... I am sooo sorry about your losses... You must have gone through hell... ❤I dont know what options I have, I am going to the hospital tomorrow, but i am really worried about the D&C to damage something inside and lose the chance to get pregnant again... 😪
Hi MagicTourmaline, no problem, I don't mind staring if I think it could help anyone at all. I was 39 when I had my first D&C and everything was fine. I was so incredibly lucky to fall pregnant again two months later and that pregnancy went well, no problems. I then had another D&C at 41 and another at 42 so for me anyway the procedures did not affect my ability to conceive. The doctors will explain the options to you but instead of D&C you can wait to see if you miscarry naturally but at least I was told that could take some time (up to weeks) and even then you may not pass all tissue and may have to have a D&C anyway, so I always went with the option that was recommended and that was a D&C. I wish you the best of luck whatever you decide, take care of yourself.
It is very helpful thank you... I will see what they say tomorrow, what options o have and what they recommend...Really dreading it either way...
Thank you for your help and support... ❤
Sending love and hugs. I know your pain. Take time to process, feel and heal 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
Thank you... 😘
Hi. So sorry this has happened.
We had a similar experience. We had scans at 6 & 8 weeks & a heartbeat was seen but at our 10 week scan the heartbeat had stopped.
The silence & tension in the room is traumatic isn’t it. What happened for you?
I’m not sure about a ‘removing it’ comment. There are a lot of options & some less invasive. Our little baby didn’t want to come away from his warm womb so I took a tablet to induce labour & we experienced a smaller style childbirth- my small amount of waters broke & we met our teeny tiny baby- the midwife warned it may not be possible but we wanted to try.
The nurses should be able to help with what you’d like to do.
Sending you love x
Thank you very much for your reply...I dont know what options they are going to offer... I will find it out tomorrow... 😪
We had a 6 weeks emergency scan as i had some bleed, but it was all ok, seen the heartbeat, everything was ok after but i was a bit worried i hardly have any symptoms so i decided to have a scan at 10 weeks which was yesterday and they said the baby stopped developing at 9w5d... 😪
I never been pregnant before this so it all came as a shock and I have no idea what comes next, only what I have read online...
Sorry about your loss... 😪 How does the pill works, are you taking it there and stay in the hospital?
It felt really wrong writing that frase but I am not too sure about the procedure and didnt know how to refrase it so its not upsetting... 😔
I took it in the hospital then they say to go home & return to the hospital to give birth 48hrs later.It’s such a traumatic time, take each step at a time.
It sounds really scary... 😪
I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't even imagine how heartbroken you must be. We're all thinking of you, and lots of people here have been through this horrible pain. Sending lots of love and don't ever feel you have to apologise for sharing your pain here xx
Thank you very much for your kind words... 😘
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